Did I fuck things up?

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    Mar 10, 2013 11:12 PM GMT
    There's this ex cop who does security for where I live. Rumor has it he's gay so instead of actually going up to his door and asking him out I left a note on his door but he hasn't responded back. I was thinking about just knocking on the door and asking him but now I think it would be awkward. Should I just wait and see what happens or end my torture and just talk to him? "
  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Mar 10, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    You should just break into someone's house in the neighborhood, then he'll have to confront you. Should be an ice breaker.
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    Mar 11, 2013 12:00 AM GMT
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks saidYou should just break into someone's house in the neighborhood, then he'll have to confront you. Should be an ice breaker.


    Lol I'm not risking jailtime for a guy again.
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    Mar 11, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    I wouldnt have left a note.
    How are you expecting him to reply?
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    Mar 11, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    Slim2010 saidI wouldnt have left a note.
    How are you expecting him to reply?


    Well I left my apartment number so I was kind of expecting him to drop by
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    Mar 11, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    You know what would be more awkward?

    Going up to a stranger's house because you found a note left on your front door.

    Next time just ask him out.
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    Mar 11, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    Jay1922 saidYou know what would be more awkward?

    Going up to a stranger's house because you found a note left on your front door.

    Next time just ask him out.


    Lol I thought it was cute at the time. But you're right. I put him in an odd situation. Would it even be okay for me to approach him now? I mean I like him a lot but he probably thinks I'm a creep or something.
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:38 AM GMT
    I gave a note to a guy once, in high school. He never responded to me. If I were you just ask him, at least you will get a definite answer regardless if you get approved or rejected.
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    Seric saidI gave a note to a guy once, in high school. He never responded to me. If I were you just ask him, at least you will get a definite answer regardless if you get approved or rejected.


    You and everyone else seem to be right. My question is if its still alright to ask him out now after what I've done? Do I just show up to his door or wait til I see him?
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    Mar 12, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    You have giant balls.. i'll give you that..

    I think you have to be careful..All of this based on a rumor??

    Find out if he's really gay FIRST..
    Good luck.. be safe.. icon_smile.gif



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    Mar 12, 2013 2:53 AM GMT
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  • Kairr

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    Mar 12, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    Good thing he is an ex cop. or you'd really fuck some shits up, gurl.
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    Mar 12, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidYou have giant balls.. i'll give you that..

    I think you have to be careful..All of this based on a rumor??

    Find out if he's really gay FIRST..
    Good luck.. be safe.. icon_smile.gif





    Well I don't really know how to find that out besides just asking him if he's into guys and I've been told that apparently that is rude. So my new rule is assume gay until proven straight.
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    Mar 12, 2013 2:21 PM GMT
    Was your "note" visible enough for any passers-by to read? That could cause some mild embarrassment/awkwardness if a neighbor or friend or date saw it first. And did it reveal your gender/orientation? Otherwise, he might have assumed it was a female who wrote it.

    If you were bold enough to write the letter, you can be bold enough to own up to it and chat with him directly. Consider opening by offering an apology that you weren't more forward with him from the outset, if the note caused him any issues. And as always, give him the space to politely decline.

  • thadjock

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    Mar 12, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    dayumm saidWas your "note" visible enough for any passers-by to read?


    ya that was my thought ,

    he's pissed now cuz some jack-hole put a girly note on his door based on some "rumor" about him being gay.
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    Mar 12, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    dayumm saidWas your "note" visible enough for any passers-by to read? That could cause some mild embarrassment/awkwardness if a neighbor or friend or date saw it first. And did it reveal your gender/orientation? Otherwise, he might have assumed it was a female who wrote it.

    If you were bold enough to write the letter, you can be bold enough to own up to it and chat with him directly. Consider opening by offering an apology that you weren't more forward with him from the outset, if the note caused him any issues. And as always, give him the space to politely decline.



    Well I made sure that I timed it right and I really tried to slip into the door crack and I folded it up super small so it wouldn't really be visible to anyone besides him. I didn't really mention that I was a man. I mentioned that I didn't know if he had a wife/girlfriend or if he was gay or something. But I never mentioned that I was a man.

    I should apologize. I will do that tonight if I can.
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    Mar 12, 2013 3:34 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Well I made sure that I timed it right and I really tried to slip into the door crack and I folded it up super small so it wouldn't really be visible to anyone besides him. I didn't really mention that I was a man. I mentioned that I didn't know if he had a wife/girlfriend or if he was gay or something. But I never mentioned that I was a man.

    I should apologize. I will do that tonight if I can.


    if you did'nt sign it, I wouldn't acknowledge that you had anything to do with the note,

    start from scratch with this guy

    without reading the entire contents of the note, it's impossible to advise, but based on the elements you revealed in this thread thus far, i'd assess your approach , D. O. A.
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    Mar 12, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    thadjock said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Well I made sure that I timed it right and I really tried to slip into the door crack and I folded it up super small so it wouldn't really be visible to anyone besides him. I didn't really mention that I was a man. I mentioned that I didn't know if he had a wife/girlfriend or if he was gay or something. But I never mentioned that I was a man.

    I should apologize. I will do that tonight if I can.


    if you did'nt sign it, I wouldn't acknowledge that you had anything to do with the note,

    start from scratch with this guy

    without reading the entire contents of the note, it's impossible to advise, but based on the elements you revealed in this thread thus far, i'd assess your approach , D. O. A.


    Well I can quote most of what I said from memory:

    Hey ____________

    I see you around the apartment complex sometimes and I think you're kinda hunky and I was wondering if you'd ever just like to talk or anything. I don't even know if you have a girlfriend or if you're gay or anything. If the signifigant other happens to get to this first please do not confront me. You can have him. But if you're single.....

    Tenant at Apt. 202.

    So is it really bad? What's D.O.A.?

    Wouldn't he put two and two together after a while?
  • thadjock

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    Mar 12, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Well I can quote most of what I said from memory:

    Hey ____________

    I see you around the apartment complex sometimes and I think you're kinda hunky and I was wondering if you'd ever just like to talk or anything. I don't even know if you have a girlfriend or if you're gay or anything. If the signifigant other happens to get to this first please do not confront me. You can have him. But if you're single.....

    Tenant at Apt. 202.

    So is it really bad? What's D.O.A.?

    Wouldn't he put two and two together after a while?


    well i guess starting from scratch is out. i think even if he can't put 2 and 2 togeher, he can put 202 together

    on the plus side, you'll never be accused of being too subtle.

    let it go, do not apologize, he has your info if he's interested.
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    Mar 12, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]thadjock said

    well i guess starting from scratch is out. i think even if he can't put 2 and 2 togeher, he can put 202 together

    on the plus side, you'll never be accused of being too subtle.

    let it go, do not apologize, he has your info if he's interested. [/quote]

    You're right. At this point apolgizing would just make things even more awkward. I mean I have to see this person everyday and it would just be odd. Lol I kinda hope he's interested but I think he thinks I'm a creeper now.
  • thadjock

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    Mar 12, 2013 4:08 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said[quote]
    You're right. At this point apolgizing would just make things even more awkward. I mean I have to see this person everyday and it would just be odd. Lol I kinda hope he's interested but I think he thinks I'm a creeper now.


    that's strange, you see him every day, and yet you opted for leaving a note as your first move.
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    Mar 12, 2013 9:36 PM GMT
    Wow. Just...wow.

    Btw, if I got this note I would assume it was from a woman.
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    Mar 13, 2013 2:10 PM GMT
    thadjock said
    MashogaNubianPrince said[quote]
    You're right. At this point apolgizing would just make things even more awkward. I mean I have to see this person everyday and it would just be odd. Lol I kinda hope he's interested but I think he thinks I'm a creeper now.


    that's strange, you see him every day, and yet you opted for leaving a note as your first move.


    I'm not really brave enough to walk up to him and say anything. I thought by leaving a note that would bring him to my door and essentially to my 'turf'.
  • thadjock

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    Mar 13, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    I'm not really brave enough to walk up to him and say anything. I thought by leaving a note that would bring him to my door and essentially to my 'turf'.


    you could always hide in the bushes and go with the ninja blow dart method:
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    Mar 13, 2013 9:27 PM GMT
    thadjock said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    I'm not really brave enough to walk up to him and say anything. I thought by leaving a note that would bring him to my door and essentially to my 'turf'.


    you could always hide in the bushes and go with the ninja blow dart method:
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    Lol I have horrible aim. What if I just like drugged him somehow?