why do people act like its the end of the world because they get rejected?

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    Mar 11, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    rejection is good. at least, you know who is on your side. anybody that is willing to stand with you are the ones you should worry about. you're not going to win over everybody, some maybe but it's not the end of the world.
  • jtz03932

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    Mar 11, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    scaredmidget saidrejection is good. at least, you know who is on your side. anybody that is willing to stand with you are the ones you should worry about. you're not going to win over everybody, some maybe but it's not the end of the world.


    because gay white people making fun or marginilize others for having asian characteristics.
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    Mar 11, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    jtz03932 said
    scaredmidget saidrejection is good. at least, you know who is on your side. anybody that is willing to stand with you are the ones you should worry about. you're not going to win over everybody, some maybe but it's not the end of the world.


    because gay white people making fun or marginilize others for having asian characteristics.


    Maybe gay white people just make fun of you because you're a whiny bitch who literally doesn't even have the balls to show his face.
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 11, 2013 2:12 AM GMT
    I agree. I had a guy start an argument with me and throw beer in my face because I simply told him that I didn't want to sleep with him. Seriously? Just because I'm being nice and having a conversation with you doesn't mean that I want to jump into your pants. Why can't gay men just connect with one another without the expectation of sex?
  • TadPohl

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    Mar 11, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    LOL! I was taught how to date as a gay man from straight guys.
    They have a very different perspective of dating from most gay men and straight women.
    They taught me how to pick my battles.
    I was taught that rejection is inevitable.
    You can be the most charming, sexy man, BUT you will eventually be rejected like any other man for reasons that are beyond your control.
    There is nothing to be gained from pining over the loss.
    They taught me to be indifferent to rejection and to accept that dating and mutual attraction is a "numbers game."
    There is nothing shameful about being rejected..... any more than it is shameful to not reciprocate someone's advances to whom you're not attracted.
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 11, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    Because they thought they found the one, and they don't think anyone can ever take their place.
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    Mar 11, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    jtz03932 said
    scaredmidget saidrejection is good. at least, you know who is on your side. anybody that is willing to stand with you are the ones you should worry about. you're not going to win over everybody, some maybe but it's not the end of the world.


    because gay white people making fun or marginilize others for having asian characteristics.


    OH SNAP!!! icon_twisted.gif
  • TrentGrad

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    Mar 11, 2013 4:22 AM GMT
    Rejection is hard...regardless if it's for a job you wanted, or a relationship you wanted.

    I suspect how people handle rejection...is probably dependent on how often they've been rejected, and their temperment to begin with.
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    Mar 11, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    TadPohl saidLOL! I was taught how to date as a gay man from straight guys.
    They have a very different perspective of dating from most gay men and straight women.
    They taught me how to pick my battles.
    I was taught that rejection is inevitable.
    You can be the most charming, sexy man, BUT you will eventually be rejected like any other man for reasons that are beyond your control.
    There is nothing to be gained from pining over the loss.
    They taught me to be indifferent to rejection and to accept that dating and mutual attraction is a "numbers game."
    There is nothing shameful about being rejected..... any more than it is shameful to not reciprocate someone's advances to whom you're not attracted.


    Yep, that's the attitude of straight guys who 'score' a lot. As blunt at making statistic about how many girl you need to hit on to get one in your bed, 9 out of 10 being a 'good score'.
    They grow self confidence out of the performance ratio, and don't give shit about rejection.
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    Mar 11, 2013 4:51 AM GMT
    jtz03932 said
    scaredmidget saidrejection is good. at least, you know who is on your side. anybody that is willing to stand with you are the ones you should worry about. you're not going to win over everybody, some maybe but it's not the end of the world.


    because gay white people making fun or marginilize others for having asian characteristics.


    don't you think that they're doing you a favor by letting you know that they're someone you wouldn't want to be associated with anyway. if someone doesn't like you because you're asian or because you're short, fuck them. it's not your problem. would you rather have someone smile in your face, acting like they care about you while stabbing you in the back or someone who let's you know that they don't like you because you're asian? why waste your time getting upset over people that don't like you? it's not like they have any importance on your life.
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    Mar 11, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
    ^ preach.
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:00 AM GMT
    TadPohl saidLOL! I was taught how to date as a gay man from straight guys.
    They have a very different perspective of dating from most gay men and straight women.
    They taught me how to pick my battles.
    I was taught that rejection is inevitable.
    You can be the most charming, sexy man, BUT you will eventually be rejected like any other man for reasons that are beyond your control.
    There is nothing to be gained from pining over the loss.
    They taught me to be indifferent to rejection and to accept that dating and mutual attraction is a "numbers game."
    There is nothing shameful about being rejected..... any more than it is shameful to not reciprocate someone's advances to whom you're not attracted.


    I get where you're coming from. I have a straight friend who is essentially a dog in the purest sense of the word and yet he gets so much ass. However he doesn't seem to let rejection get to him. He just keeps trucking. On the other hand I fall into a depression and try to analyze why a man doesn't want me and I book another session with my therapist
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:06 AM GMT
    Drama queens.
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    IAmTheOneWhoKnocks said
    jtz03932 said
    scaredmidget saidrejection is good. at least, you know who is on your side. anybody that is willing to stand with you are the ones you should worry about. you're not going to win over everybody, some maybe but it's not the end of the world.


    because gay white people making fun or marginilize others for having asian characteristics.


    Maybe gay white people just make fun of you because you're a whiny bitch who literally doesn't even have the balls to show his face.

    +1
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:24 AM GMT
    scaredmidget said
    jtz03932 said
    scaredmidget saidrejection is good. at least, you know who is on your side. anybody that is willing to stand with you are the ones you should worry about. you're not going to win over everybody, some maybe but it's not the end of the world.


    because gay white people making fun or marginilize others for having asian characteristics.


    don't you think that they're doing you a favor by letting you know that they're someone you wouldn't want to be associated with anyway. if someone doesn't like you because you're asian or because you're short, fuck them. it's not your problem. would you rather have someone smile in your face, acting like they care about you while stabbing you in the back or someone who let's you know that they don't like you because you're asian? why waste your time getting upset over people that don't like you? it's not like they have any importance on your life.

    I wouldn't see it that way.

    No one is born racist. You assume that all racists are just shitty people, but that's not true per se. In a racist society, many "good" people become racist.
    Just trying to ignore racist people just ignores the fundamental issue at hand, which merely perpetuates racism.
  • O5vx

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    Mar 11, 2013 5:33 AM GMT
    I got enjoy my daily dose of gay drama.
  • toastvenom

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    Mar 11, 2013 5:39 AM GMT
    well there are some people out there who feel that a rejection is a verification of all the things they find wrong/hate about themselves physically and/or mentally. Plus there are people out there who experience more rejection than another person might so this could add to the trauma of being told no. if you're taking the chance and initiating and being shot down more times than you are scoring, yeah, I think that would kinda piss me off too. jus sayin
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:41 AM GMT
    Toastvenom saidwell there are some people out there who feel that a rejection is a verification of all the things they find wrong/hate about themselves physically and/or mentally. Plus there are people out there who experience more rejection than another person might so this could add to the trauma of being told no.


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    Mar 11, 2013 5:46 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    TadPohl saidLOL! I was taught how to date as a gay man from straight guys.
    They have a very different perspective of dating from most gay men and straight women.
    They taught me how to pick my battles.
    I was taught that rejection is inevitable.
    You can be the most charming, sexy man, BUT you will eventually be rejected like any other man for reasons that are beyond your control.
    There is nothing to be gained from pining over the loss.
    They taught me to be indifferent to rejection and to accept that dating and mutual attraction is a "numbers game."
    There is nothing shameful about being rejected..... any more than it is shameful to not reciprocate someone's advances to whom you're not attracted.


    I get where you're coming from. I have a straight friend who is essentially a dog in the purest sense of the word and yet he gets so much ass. However he doesn't seem to let rejection get to him. He just keeps trucking. On the other hand I fall into a depression and try to analyze why a man doesn't want me and I book another session with my therapist


    Don't discount your therapy. I've been in three serious relationships, and after all of them ended I needed therapy to process it. I've grown in ways previously unimaginable.

    We are all delivered into the world with a deck of cards. My deck of cards was shitty, shitty, shitty. I grew up in a not-so-great household, with parents who were kids themselves when they had me. Now, we all get along great, but its taken a LOT of self growth, and that is due to remarkable therapists and tons of great authors. And, even though I felt the loss of the three great men that I dated, I've come accept that I want more from life, and can work harder for the next love(s) that cross my path.

    So keep up with the therapy, but do it for you and your self growth.
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    I don't know about the end of the world...but a lot of people just hate being rejected because no matter how masculine or tough they are it affects your self esteem in a negative way. Some people who aren't used to it or don't know how to handle it can become pretty offensive to you if you happen to be the one doing the rejecting...

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    Mar 11, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    To be honest I think gay men in general feel like they are so entitled to everything, even when it comes down to getting "their" man. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 11, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    Seric saidTo be honest I think gay men in general feel like they are so entitled to everything, even when it comes down to getting "their" man. icon_rolleyes.gif


    What makes you believe we think we are so entitled?
  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 11, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    I bet the hottest guys on here get rejected all the time
    While they reject you, they are probably being rejected by someone they wanna date too icon_razz.gif
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    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Seric saidTo be honest I think gay men in general feel like they are so entitled to everything, even when it comes down to getting "their" man. icon_rolleyes.gif


    What makes you believe we think we are so entitled?


    sorry, didn't mean to say all gay men, but in conjunction with the title "why do they act like it's the end of the world because they get rejected." my answer to that would be, they feel that they are entitled.
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    Mar 11, 2013 6:46 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidBecause they thought they found the one, and they don't think anyone can ever take their place.


    ^This