People who abuse positive adjectives in self-description

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    Mar 11, 2013 5:23 PM GMT
    It seems a rule that whenever someone tells you that he's a nice guy during the first conversation, he is bound to be a jerk. Same goes for honesty, loyalty, or any quality that cannot be ascertained through prolonged interactions.

    Which do you think is a better explanation? Can you tell the difference?
    1) He would like to think of himself in a good light and is trying to coerce others into reaffirming his shabby self-deception
    2) He is a true hypocrite and just enjoys deceiving people and taking advantage of them
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:39 PM GMT
    There is such a thing called implicit positive self-affirmation.
    He may not be as positive as you expect, but he may surely be getting there or at least wanting to be seen as such in others' eyes.

    While I agree with 1) more, I think it is unnecessary to put a negative, mean twist to it. People across cultures practice self-affirmation all the time, consciously AND subconsciously. Number 2) seems like an idea taken right out of a cheesy chick-flick icon_lol.gif
    Take it easy man, life is not that dramatic.
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    Mar 11, 2013 5:54 PM GMT
    When guys tell me this:
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    My immediate reaction is:
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    Mar 11, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    davidsticky69 saidThere is such a thing called implicit positive self-affirmation.
    He may not be as positive as you expect, but he may surely be getting there or at least wanting to be seen as such in others' eyes.

    While I agree with 1) more, I think it is unnecessary to put a negative, mean twist to it. People across cultures practice self-affirmation all the time, consciously AND subconsciously. Number 2) seems like an idea taken right out of a cheesy chick-flick icon_lol.gif
    Take it easy man, life is not that dramatic.


    Lol actually 2) comes directly out of "Mean Girls".

    Your explanation sounds like what people commonly refer to as vanity.

  • davidsticky69

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    Mar 11, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    If you actually use the quote from a half-decent Hollywood movie as a guiding principle in judging people, then good luck to you in the dating world.


    You made a thread here asking for others' opinion, but you seem to be just looking for those who agree with you. Now, that is really what people commonly refer to as vanity.

    Seriously, take it easy. Living the gay life doesn't entail the "necessary" drama concocted by the toxic and rampant reality TV nowadays. At least where I come from, what you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less.
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    Mar 15, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    Well, guess what happens with guys who self-proclaim to be "drama-free". Case in point lol
    davidsticky69 saidIf you actually use the quote from a half-decent Hollywood movie as a guiding principle in judging people, then good luck to you in the dating world.


    You made a thread here asking for others' opinion, but you seem to be just looking for those who agree with you. Now, that is really what people commonly refer to as vanity.

    Seriously, take it easy. Living the gay life doesn't entail the "necessary" drama concocted by the toxic and rampant reality TV nowadays. At least where I come from, what you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less.