Do you ever feel...

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    Mar 13, 2013 8:26 PM GMT
    as if the city you live in is just absolutely depressing??

    Hard to meet/make new friends

    the choice of guys is below average and depressing

    the majority of the people who message you have nothing going for themselves...

    sheesh whats up with that? *not a pity party*

  • Mar 13, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    Umm not really!
  • Kel_

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    Mar 13, 2013 9:59 PM GMT
    Nope, not Toronto, lots of hot gays all around icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    ...you attract what you put out there........so try a different attitude....Memphis is a good size city....gotta be a few good guys out there for you and why do you think the "BLUES" were born there?
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    Sporty_g said...you attract what you put out there........so try a different attitude....Memphis is a good size city....gotta be a few good guys out there for you and why do you think the "BLUES" were born there?


    pff if you only lived here... it may be a big city, but that doesn't say anything
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:08 PM GMT
    Kel_ saidNope, not Toronto, lots of hot gays all around icon_twisted.gif



    ya, you should make some of them move. you have too many.
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:16 PM GMT
    Sporty_g said...you attract what you put out there........so try a different attitude....Memphis is a good size city....gotta be a few good guys out there for you and why do you think the "BLUES" were born there?


    This. If you go in with a bad attitude, you'll only find people with bad attitudes or no-one at all. And I think that you can't expect great guys to find you. You have to put in some effort as well -- put yourself out there and be the kind of guy that great guys want to be around.
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
    Ehhhh. I meet great people wherever I go. Even cities that are infamous for sucking ass, I tend to meet interesting people. Your attitude is like a radio station. People that are tuned into the vibe you're broadcasting will flock to you like flies.
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    I think London can be depressing but not for that reason.
  • Kel_

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    Mar 13, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    Apparition said
    Kel_ saidNope, not Toronto, lots of hot gays all around icon_twisted.gif



    ya, you should make some of them move. you have too many.


    Nope. ALL MINE! MINE!!!!!
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    Vancouver's pretty depressing this time of year but that's just cause of the rain.
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    Mar 13, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    No
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    Mar 13, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    Whenever I see this thread I immediately think "Do you ever feel like a plastic bag"
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    Mar 13, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
    Yep move to a big city it might fare you better I have been there grew up in a small town so it was the same people different day. I just do better in bigger cities, more and different types of people you find your own niche and then you feel better.
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    Mar 13, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    The city isn't depressing.
    The fact that the only gays you'll find are at the clubs/bars is what annoys me.
    I don't have trouble making new friends, making gay friends however is a different story and that's mostly in part to the above reason.

    In reference to the guys that message me on here, it's seldom but the ones I do get messages from are decent conversations.
    It lulls away over time but it doesn't bother me, I can expect its eventuality.

    All in all, acceptance to certain things and indifference has stopped the jaded/bitterness cycle for me personally, but to each their own.
    Something that I do, which I'm not sure is particularly good or bad, but I just don't have any expectations at all.
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    Mar 14, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    I was raised in a rural town in the sticks of Arkansas.

    I was suicidal through all of high school and most of my 20's.

    Then I took steps for a career change to move to a more progressive area.

    Yeah...location is VERY important to a person's mental well-being.
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    Mar 14, 2013 12:28 AM GMT
    Start making plans to move..
  • Kairr

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    Mar 14, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    Draw on some black eye liners.

    Join the emo club and you'll start to appreciate life again.
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    youngRJ1 saidas if the city you live in is just absolutely depressing??

    Hard to meet/make new friends

    the choice of guys is below average and depressing

    the majority of the people who message you have nothing going for themselves...

    sheesh whats up with that? *not a pity party*


    I'm in Nashville, and I can sort of feel your pain. I moved to Nashville from just outside of NYC. For me Nashville isn't doing it, so I've made strides to leave and I am happy that I am leaving this coming May for other work. With that being said, I still have great friends here and have made all sorts of connections with people that "Get me" and "Get my reasoning." So don't give up hope, but perhaps do some travelling, some searching online, and set your life into a new location?
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    Do you live in Buffalo?
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:16 AM GMT
    Every day of my life.
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    Yep SLC is pretty closeted and clicky, but so are a lot of gays :p
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:48 AM GMT
    After I moved back home to Buffalo from Providence, it was a culture shock of sorts...the gay population here is really limited...so meeting people is def a struggle. When out in new england, gays were everywhere lol. I wouldnt say my city is depressing...the area is what you make of it. I use to not like it- but I love it now. Just wish there were more gays ;)
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    Mar 16, 2013 3:04 PM GMT
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    youngRJ1 said


    I'm in Nashville, and I can sort of feel your pain. I moved to Nashville from just outside of NYC. For me Nashville isn't doing it, so I've made strides to leave and I am happy that I am leaving this coming May for other work. With that being said, I still have great friends here and have made all sorts of connections with people that "Get me" and "Get my reasoning." So don't give up hope, but perhaps do some travelling, some searching online, and set your life into a new location?


    Thanks for seeing it the way I do. Again, I'm not being all emo and what not. I do make the best of it, but after for so long you get tired of the same o' some o' things. I have looked but with the job I have now it will turn into my career so I know I will have to be in memphis maybe for the next 3-4 years, hopefully not as long, but may have some connections to move to the Chicago area. Not holding my breath though.
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    Mar 16, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    Houston is depressing from June-August (90 straight days of 95 degrees plus will do that to you)

    It is relatively easy

    The choice of guys is below average compared to our counterparts up in Dallas or Chicago mainly due to the mix of guys.