How do you handle when multiple guys show interest in you?

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    Mar 14, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    How do you handle when multiple guys show interest in you? Do you date multiple people? If so when do you stop and focus on one? Or do you never date more than one person at a time?
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    If it's just a date without any commitments, I'll date all of them and I have. It's just too bad that none of them were compatible.
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:29 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidIf it's just a date without any commitments, I'll date all of them and I have. It's just too bad that none of them were compatible.


    Yeah I understand if its only been one date there's no restrictions... but once you get into multiple dates, is it bad form to still date other people?
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:56 AM GMT
    S34n05 said
    Erik101 saidIf it's just a date without any commitments, I'll date all of them and I have. It's just too bad that none of them were compatible.


    Yeah I understand if its only been one date there's no restrictions... but once you get into multiple dates, is it bad form to still date other people?


    I don't think so! Again, if there's no commitment, then you should be free to date whomever and whenever, despite the number of guys involved.

    So.....are you in this predicament? If yes, do tell! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 14, 2013 5:36 AM GMT
    Last time multiple guys showed interest in me, I was only interested in one of them. I obviously had to tell the other two I didn't feel the same way about them. But, even if I was interested in all three of them, I wouldn't date them all at the same time.
  • highforthis

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    Mar 14, 2013 5:38 AM GMT
    ^^think that goes without saying haha. The minute u create a dating profile online, a dozen guys will message you.

    They're usually over 40...

    I think OP is talking about when the attraction is mutual.
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    Mar 14, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    I'd actually love to be in that situation but its not happened yet lol.
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    Mar 14, 2013 5:50 AM GMT
    You're not married, or in a relationship so date all of them (not implying that you should sleep with them). Find out if you click with one, though be careful, don't bite off more then you can chew. I learned that the hard way.
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    Mar 14, 2013 8:19 AM GMT
    You only date as many guys as you want to date.
    If you're still at the point where you're just dating then it's ok to date more than one guy.
    You stop and focus on one guy when you want to spend more time with that one guy and perhaps get more serious.
  • davidsticky69

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    Mar 14, 2013 10:41 AM GMT
    Invite them over for a gang-bang and then deciding from there ?

    Have a good time and you're welcome!
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    Mar 14, 2013 12:10 PM GMT
    It is socially acceptable to date around until you have that commitment talk aka the boyfriend talk. I would be transparent that you are seeing other people to prevent hurt feelings and accusations of lying.
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    Mar 14, 2013 12:19 PM GMT
    dealing with this now , well i don't have sex with them im just hanging out with both and see which one i feel a better connection with .
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    Mar 14, 2013 12:20 PM GMT
    buddybuff86 saidIt is socially acceptable to date around until you have that commitment talk aka the boyfriend talk. I would be transparent that you are seeing other people to prevent hurt feelings and accusations of lying.


    I let the guys I hang out with know I'm also seeing other guys and they're fine with it. If they aren't, you know who to avoid. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 14, 2013 2:27 PM GMT
    davidsticky69 saidInvite them over for a gang-bang and then deciding from there ?

    Have a good time and you're welcome!


    Seems legit....
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    Mar 14, 2013 2:28 PM GMT
    Ill let you know if it ever happens. Right now just one would be nice.
  • stratavos

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    Mar 14, 2013 2:36 PM GMT
    buddybuff86 saidIt is socially acceptable to date around until you have that commitment talk aka the boyfriend talk. I would be transparent that you are seeing other people to prevent hurt feelings and accusations of lying.


    he's got the right idea.
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    Mar 14, 2013 2:44 PM GMT
    I honestly freak out. I can't focus on more than one person at a time without completely unraveling.
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    Mar 14, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
    If it's just kicking it, I can do it with a few people because then there's nothing other than hanging (no sex or anything); if I find myself falling more for one, and the feeling is mutual, then I would clearly speak to them about it.
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    Mar 14, 2013 2:47 PM GMT
    stratavos said
    buddybuff86 saidIt is socially acceptable to date around until you have that commitment talk aka the boyfriend talk. I would be transparent that you are seeing other people to prevent hurt feelings and accusations of lying.


    he's got the right idea.


    Transparency is key for any interpersonal relationship. However, being honest must be flanked by tact, which most people struggle with.
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 14, 2013 2:47 PM GMT
    Um, consider yourself very fortunate.
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    Mar 14, 2013 2:53 PM GMT
    Hothouse saidUm, consider yourself very fortunate.


    Fortune is in the eyes of the beholder...not all attention is well-intended or positive.
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:05 PM GMT
    drelit0000 saiddealing with this now , well i don't have sex with them im just hanging out with both and see which one i feel a better connection with .


    I'm dating two . One of is dating other guys as well. Im seeing a third guy tonight. You won't end up loving them all and eventually if will sort itself out but not probably the way you intend. For example, the guy you like the most may dump you. My only problem is not being able to invite both to an event to hang out together . Friends say that is problematic.
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:07 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidIll let you know if it ever happens. Right now just one would be nice.

    Same here.
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    I guess it depends from person to person. Is your heart on your sleeve ? If yes - focus on one. If no - look around within boundries untill someone knocks your socks off.
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    Mar 14, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    S34n05 saidHow do you handle when multiple guys show interest in you?


    I message them both back saying, "I'm sorry, but I can't date you from 1,800 miles away."