size matters?

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    Oct 12, 2008 4:41 PM GMT
    I was wondering how much does size matters to you guys? I'm asking 'cause my boyfriend has a really, really small penis. I care about him, but I'm always conscious about his size. let's just saying that I won't be bottoming with him, cause it's so small.

    I don't want to sound shallow but I'm not so comfortable with his penis icon_confused.gif
  • Delivis

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    Oct 12, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
    I dont personally care about size there but then again i am much less of a walking raging hormone factory than a lot of guys my age.
  • MuslDrew

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    Oct 12, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    I'm a butt guy, so penis size doesn't matter much to me
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    Oct 12, 2008 5:35 PM GMT
    If you're a bottom and he's too small to bottom, that's a fundamental disconnect.

    I, on the other hand, prefer to top, though I'll bottom, too, sort of an 80/20 versatile. Not being a big-time bottom, I prefer a smaller dick for that. And what I really love to do is suck, where I find smaller guys a real treat.

    When I was still dating I had the field to myself, because most other guys passed over the shrimps for the whales. And trust me, there are lots of shrimps, and they are SO grateful when anyone wants them. And I wanted to suck them until I turned them inside out.

    So size is like any other quality or characteristic: 2 guys have to get the right mix to make it work. Small can be great, or it can be a deal-breaker.

    The answer is really up to you: what are your priorities, what's seriously important to you? There's no universally right or wrong answer, except what works for YOU.
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    Oct 12, 2008 7:06 PM GMT
    It will be interesting to see the responses to this thread! My personal observation is IT DOES MATTER because most guys seem to want a big penis vs. a small to average one. We'll see.....

    Me personally I am versatile 50/50 but I really find larger penises (say 8" or larger) uncomfortable and I am only slightly above average myself but I agree with Red_Vespa it's all a matter of what works for you.

    Sounds like your doing most of the topping at the moment but you'd like to bottom for him but are afraid you might not be satisfied. I know it seems like a shallow thing but sex is an important part of a relationship and if you guys can't discuss and come to some arrangement that works for you both eventually it's going to become a problem. If you really care about him don't let it fester. If he feels the same about you and you approach it correctly, I'm sure you guys can work it out.
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    Oct 12, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    I do prefer to top, but I like to bottom every now and then.

    I like small penises, but his is way to small, my finger is way larger and almost as thick, and I'm not kidding.

    I guess I got used to my ex's penis, he was big and thick.

    maybe I'll get used to it, 'cause I love him.
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    Oct 12, 2008 7:13 PM GMT
    Have you even tried letting him top you yet? Who knows, he might have AMAZING technique! icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 12, 2008 7:19 PM GMT
    metropolitan said
    maybe I'll get used to it, 'cause I love him.


    Then if love is your priority, that trumps size, you have your answer, so congrats! These things aren't really so difficult, if you know just what it is you really want.

    Do you do oral on this guy? I think "bite size" is wonderful, there's so much more I can do to a guy who's manageable, versus a jaw-breaker.

    If you love the guy, then the sex will flow from that. You will find the things that work best for him & you.

    On the other hand, I'd be wary of the love that comes from the sex alone. There's an important difference between being in lust and being in love. Can you guess which one usually lasts the longest?
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    Oct 12, 2008 7:27 PM GMT
    We actually waited to have sex, 'cause he was a virgin. So I know I love him for what he is, not what he's got.
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    Oct 12, 2008 7:50 PM GMT
    Size does matter to me. I kinda left me ex because of his enormous penis size. I know that it was selfish of me to leave him because of such reason but I know what I can or cannout take.. I'd prefer an average sized man. icon_razz.gificon_smile.gif Still a virgin. icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 12, 2008 8:25 PM GMT
    Size matters for me. I like to look at big dicks, but not blow them. For me I like below 8", but 6-7" I think is best.

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    Oct 12, 2008 8:50 PM GMT
    private41005 saidSize matters for me. I like to look at big dicks, but not blow them. For me I like below 8", but 6-7" I think is best.



    that would be my ideal size, but my bf is hardly 3 inches.icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 12, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    I'm a top, so size makes no difference to me. Psychologically, I find that smaller guys tend to be MORE infatuated with how big my dick is, which is a turn on for me. So to a certain extent, I guess guys who are smaller turn me on, in fact.

    That being said, I've never been with a guy that is as small as you've said. 3"? Thats like 1/3 of the size of my dick. I don't think it would bother me, but I'd be worried that he'd be really self-conscious being around ME, you know?
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    Oct 12, 2008 9:15 PM GMT
    GregStevensTX saidI'm a top, so size makes no difference to me. Psychologically, I find that smaller guys tend to be MORE infatuated with how big my dick is, which is a turn on for me. So to a certain extent, I guess guys who are smaller turn me on, in fact.

    That being said, I've never been with a guy that is as small as you've said. 3"? Thats like 1/3 of the size of my dick. I don't think it would bother me, but I'd be worried that he'd be really self-conscious being around ME, you know?


    He hasn't said anything that shows he is self-conscious about his penis size, but then again I haven't said anything either
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    Oct 12, 2008 9:18 PM GMT
    GregStevensTX saidI'm a top, so size makes no difference to me. Psychologically, I find that smaller guys tend to be MORE infatuated with how big my dick is, which is a turn on for me. So to a certain extent, I guess guys who are smaller turn me on, in fact.

    That being said, I've never been with a guy that is as small as you've said. 3"? Thats like 1/3 of the size of my dick. I don't think it would bother me, but I'd be worried that he'd be really self-conscious being around ME, you know?



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  • Timbales

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    Oct 12, 2008 9:37 PM GMT
    Size does matter, but I don't think it would be a total deal breaker for me in a relationship unless the guy was totally inflexible. I've been with a few guys that were pretty small or slim, and it can hurt worse than a bigger guy. A bigger guy would need to be patient and not think he can just pop it in without any warm-up.
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    Oct 12, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    Delivis saidI dont personally care about size there but then again i am much less of a walking raging hormone factory than a lot of guys my age.


    Thats awesome, a young man with something other than sex being a priority!
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    Oct 12, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    Oh silly topic by the way, obviously size matters....... to you.
  • germanguy888

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    Oct 12, 2008 10:09 PM GMT
    seriously why do you care? if you like him it should be a non issue. its what is in his head that matters and if that is pea sized then you have a problem. dont worry about it! there is more to life than sex
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    Oct 12, 2008 10:28 PM GMT
    Chizzad saidOh silly topic by the way, obviously size matters....... to you.


    I have to agree..

    For me, size does not matter in a relationship. Rather or not we have a connection for the long run is my #1 concern. I you are having a problem on what he is packing below the belt you should talk to him about. icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 12, 2008 10:31 PM GMT
    metropolitan saidI was wondering how much does size matters to you guys? I'm asking 'cause my boyfriend has a really, really small penis. I care about him, but I'm always conscious about his size. let's just saying that I won't be bottoming with him, cause it's so small.

    I don't want to sound shallow but I'm not so comfortable with his penis icon_confused.gif


    Gosh, I sure hope your BF isn't on Real Jock...I doubt he'd be too thrilled with you announcing his shortcomings.

    For me, size doesn't matter unless it's insanely small or obesely large because then the size isn't so much a turn-off as it is a distraction icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 12, 2008 10:38 PM GMT
    Hi Metropolitan, since your BF has a 3 inch cock, and you do want to bottom, you've got to let him try to do it. If he can't, then if you want to, ask him if he would insert a rubber cock while you guys 69 or something, if the feeling of anal sex is important to you. He's gonna have the same problem with any other guy as far as topping anyway. It sounds from what you've said that he is not a bottom...yet. Hope he doesn't feel like he has to be limited to that. How about him fucking between your legs.

  • SanEsteban

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    Oct 12, 2008 11:00 PM GMT
    If you truly care for the guy, then it is a mute point. Sexually, he may have a shortcoming regarding his size but he may more that make up for it in other ways! Love the person, not the member...
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    Oct 13, 2008 1:28 PM GMT
    metropolitan saidWe actually waited to have sex, 'cause he was a virgin. So I know I love him for what he is, not what he's got.



    Maybe you need to reevaluate your "love". From the posts, seems like your fixating more on what he's got below the waist.
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    Oct 13, 2008 1:49 PM GMT
    buy him a strap on