Alright I've had it

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    Oct 12, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    So, I've been talking to this guy and he seemed nice enough so I agev him my number and stuff. We talked a little more until he stopped me and said
    ," How Much do you weigh?"

    and I told him 190, which is the truth


    he got this super disgusted look on his face,and says to me ," Well, it wouldn't kill you to hit the gym every once and a while, People like you have no dedication."


    Needless to say I hung up. I'm really tired of people looking down on me. when I Tell them ive lost 20sih pounds since the Olympics I'm not fucking kidding. I think ahlf the guys my age have never let themselves get to where I was a couple months ago sure. But Jesus Christ. I get complimented on the size of my arms and shoulders and my legs. an then they bust me for my torso.



    Sorry for teh rant. Just frustrated.
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    Oct 12, 2008 9:09 PM GMT
    So, Looking to a training buddy here in Lexington. I really would like someone who knows a bit about lifting as I try to bumble through it the best I can but i have no clue if I am doing it right.
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    Oct 12, 2008 9:12 PM GMT
    Sorry that happened to you, but just know that anyone who would talk to someone that way is a total jerk. Believe me, you're better off.

    I saw your pics and you're a good looking guy. Keep doing what you're doing, keep going to the gym, etc, and you'll be great!
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    Oct 12, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    Well I was never as ripped as lot of these guys But I was in good shape. i wonder if this is karmic retribution of wasting away.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 12, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    I wouldn't let people like that get to me. They just ant worth it. Keep up the good work and don't let him set you back icon_smile.gif

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    Oct 12, 2008 10:22 PM GMT
    You're a nice looking guy; and smart. That jerk didn't take the time to read your posts, listen to your interests, and notice that you are motivated to change yourself. The only one who needs to be happy with you is you. And from what I know about you from this site, you're a great guy. If your goal is to lose weight, and you're doing that, then just keep going. Some guy will come along and snag you up.
    Peace comes from within.
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    Oct 12, 2008 10:40 PM GMT
    haha I wish I was mature enough nto to get pissed off about that sort of thing. hahaicon_razz.gif
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    Oct 12, 2008 10:43 PM GMT
    Dude so sorry to hear that... that guy was a real jerk. I don't think I've met anyone who was so... I don't even know how to describe him. Keep up the great work, i'm cheering you on from the sidelines! And feel free to ask if you need any advice.
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    Oct 12, 2008 10:47 PM GMT
    Sounds like you just came across a total jerk. I really wouldn't let it bother you, it's not worth wasting your energy on.
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    Oct 12, 2008 10:55 PM GMT
    The guy was a total arse! Just keep up the good work! Let his rude comment be a driving factor!


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    Oct 12, 2008 11:00 PM GMT
    Thanks guys. This si why I Love RJ
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    Oct 12, 2008 11:15 PM GMT
    reedw said I don't think I've met anyone who was so... I don't even know how to describe him.


    I think the words you're looking for are boorish and insensitive.

    Greygull, I wish I had your dedication. Keep your eyes on the prize! And remember, the only person whose expectations you need to worry about is YOU.
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    Oct 12, 2008 11:20 PM GMT
    Greygull saidSo, I've been talking to this guy and he seemed nice enough so I agev him my number and stuff. We talked a little more until he stopped me and said
    ," How Much do you weigh?"

    and I told him 190, which is the truth


    he got this super disgusted look on his face,and says to me ," Well, it wouldn't kill you to hit the gym every once and a while, People like you have no dedication."


    Needless to say I hung up. I'm really tired of people looking down on me. when I Tell them ive lost 20sih pounds since the Olympics I'm not fucking kidding. I think ahlf the guys my age have never let themselves get to where I was a couple months ago sure. But Jesus Christ. I get complimented on the size of my arms and shoulders and my legs. an then they bust me for my torso.


    Wow! I am impressed at such a weight loss....losing weight is the hardest fucking thing to do, IMHO.

    Just put this mental image in your head....how much he is going to regret being so precipitous after you have continued your weight loss!
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    Oct 12, 2008 11:25 PM GMT
    Greygull said

    he got this super disgusted look on his face,and says to me ," Well, it wouldn't kill you to hit the gym every once and a while, People like you have no dedication."


    Needless to say I hung up.


    Not trying to bust your chops at all, but this phrasing has me genuinely curious about something. If you were talking on the phone, how do you know what the expression on his face was?

    In any case, congrats big time on the weight you have lost. Don't waste time on people who are that superficial, critical, and insensitive. He sounds like someone you wouldn't want to be around anyway.
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    Oct 12, 2008 11:32 PM GMT
    Lol we were talking over Skype
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    Oct 12, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
    Congratulations!

    You just saved yourself valuable time from talking to an asshole. What a great thing for this person to do. Instead of stringing you along from conversation to conversation, this guy reared let his ugly, subhuman nature.

    And more genuine congrats on the weight loss. Keep it up. icon_biggrin.gif
  • EricLA

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    Oct 12, 2008 11:59 PM GMT
    Grey, keep at it. There will always be people out there who will not accept you for who you are. You're obviously an attractive guy with a bit of extra weight. I bet, when you post pictures of yourself when you hit your ideal weight that guy will be back trying to hit you up. Then you can put him in his place.
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    Oct 13, 2008 12:05 AM GMT

    Since when is 195 a bad weight?

    LOL, don't let guys on the internet have any effect on how you feel about yourself. The reason being: opinions are so varied. Plus, internet dating has been reduced to take out and free delivery. Perhaps this why so many online are so insensitive....because they have reduced you from a human being into an item or food stuff.

    I know men that had you said 170, they'd have hung up because they like guys who are above 190 only. Then, other guys who won't touch any arm with veins bulging out of it and others that is all they'll talk to. Moving on, some men won't date a guy their age even if he is perfect for them and ofcourse, those who won't spit on you if you're under 25.

    Personally, I like larger guys. I found this pic online and have been enjoying it all week.

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    Not all I like, mind you, muscle men who view my profile, but I sometimes prefer something nice and soft to push into instead of your ass pecs. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 13, 2008 12:06 AM GMT
    I echo what many others are saying....that guy is a jerk for talking to you like that. It doesn't do anyone any good when someone makes a comment like that. Congrats on losing 20 lbs and keep up the good work. Don't let some dweeb get you down.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 13, 2008 3:21 AM GMT
    Lol you know I originally posted this thread as a rant. But then I got about 85.000 emails of support.


    If I didn't know any better I'd say you guys are decent haha!




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    Oct 13, 2008 3:26 AM GMT
    What a douche. You're a damn good looking guy, and anyone who thinks otherwise can go get f***ed with something hard and sand-papery (<3 Kelly). And go you on losing 20 lbs already!!
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    Oct 13, 2008 3:26 AM GMT
    dude, don't lose the faith. that guy sounds like a total dick. keep doing what you're doing, you've made a lot of progress in a short time. that's fantastic.
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    Oct 13, 2008 3:32 AM GMT
    I don't know I've had to tip toe around too many people (mainly girls) with weight problems.

    It only really bothers me if they are going on about it endlessly and do nothing about it or blame everyone and everything else.

    I've gained so much weight, I tried on last years bathing suit and it popped open, it's so unfair you have skinny genes I don't . That's it, i'm going on a crash eat nothing diet........starting next week now i'll have the cheese cake with extra whipped cream.

    Or people who constantly complain there fat and expect me to reassure them they are not when they actually are.
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    Oct 13, 2008 4:19 AM GMT
    some guys are just bitches... and yeah, size can be a factor in who i date, but if the guy is going to the gym, i dont dog on him for it... especially since i get so much shit for my size, mostly from strangers though, most gay men think its adorable for some reason...
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    Oct 13, 2008 4:27 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidI knew of a girl that was sort of like this and would complain that because she was insulin resistant that this was the reason she was heavy. Since she married a wealthy young man she opted for liposuction surgery and always blamed her obesity on her condition (insulin resistance).

    I got so tired of hearing it. She ate like hog, made no effort to watch her diet and complained that she was too embarrassed to go to the gym in fear that other people will laugh at her for being so overweight. I told her, "Don't be so full of yourself, people aren't standing around at the gym looking for people to mock and laugh at." Because when you think about it, it is really vain to feel this way and think that when you walk into a room that you're getting all of the attention whether it be bad or good.


    You would think a medical professional would point out Insulin resistance is a consequence of obesity not the other way around.

    Knew a girl, friend of a friend had her stomach stapled and between confirming the appointment and the operation less than 2 weeks she binged herself 10 pounds heavier under the logic she wasn't going to be able to eat the same again and she had to empty her kitchen of food.

    Every minute of the day she was pushing food in her face, and people were telling her how brave she was for doing it. I have no idea how it constituted bravery....I was a little disgusted but then I'm against such things on principle