Marriage is good for your health...until you get sick

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    Mar 17, 2013 11:12 AM GMT
    An interesting study shows that Marriage Is Good for Your Health — Until You Get Sick

    Compared to married people, unmarried people have a 75% higher chance of dying than their love bird counterparts.

    Specifically, separated folks were 58% more likely to die during these studies, divorced people were 62% more likely and widowed people were 93% more likely to kick the bucket compared to married people.

    My parents are 84 and 77 and they've been healthy and had health challenges. They've been married for 59 years!

    Til death do us part?

    What are your thoughts?


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    Mar 17, 2013 2:10 PM GMT
    Makes sense to me:
    You are more likely to stay healthy if you not just doing it for yourself; plus you can't just ignore things--hope they go away, if he's constantly nagging you about them.
    My man has gone as far as make appointments for me: "you're going...I'm taking you..."
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    Mar 17, 2013 2:23 PM GMT
    Does this apply to women and men equally? I've always heard it's single straight men that get the short end of the stick because men don't go to the doctor unless their wives tell them to.
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    Mar 17, 2013 2:28 PM GMT
    I don't think you posted the right statistics -- or at least the ones that are supposed to be surprising
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    Mar 17, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    I'm not surprised by this research because, It is obvious, isn't it?
    That we all know when we are in love, we feel less pain & less stress...which are good for our health.
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    Mar 17, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
    I read something similar a while back. I think it said that this doesn't so much apply to people who have always been single and comfortable with that, but rather the lessened longevity occurs for those who are lonely alone (not everyone is) or for those who experience continuing stress from the loss of a relationship.

    I've buried two so far and I definitely notice the added stress. Certainly my waistline noticed it. And yes, I blame my weight problem on my dead guys. But even with that, my father's been married 3 times and he's already into his mid 80s in relatively good health even though he's a couch potato. So I could wind up in my 90s one day anyway. I might just not hit that 110 mark I was aiming for. And yeah, I'm blaming the dead guys for that too.
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    Mar 17, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    AGE is the factor. Married or not, the older you are when you get sick, the more likely you are to die.
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    Mar 17, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    Meanwhile, a separate Danish study published this week in the International Journal of Epidemiology has found that gay men are doing pretty well with longevity: their mortality rate has dropped below that of unmarried or divorced men.

    I believe as you get older it's safer to be living with someone than alone. My own partner has already had a heart attack and a stroke. With the heart attack he refused to admit what it was, and it might have progressed to a fatal outcome. I finally insisted on taking him to the ER where he got quick care.

    When he had his stroke he was completely immobilized on the floor. Had I not been right there and called 911 immediately the stroke may have caused a fatal outcome. As it was, prompt treatment caused the clot to dissolve with no lingering effects. Today you'd never guess he'd had a full stroke at all (it was not a TIA).

    Living with someone as you get older can be a life saver.
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    Mar 17, 2013 6:57 PM GMT
    All I know is when I'm 80 and my partner increases my life insurance policy and buys 1 new pillow for no particular reason..I'll sleep with 1 eye open...POPEYE STYLE.