long distance realtionship---how long did your long distance relationship go?

  • glen1231

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    Mar 17, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    ive been in a long distance realtionship over 3 years with my bf. during the first 2 years, we stay with each other more or less 7 days every 2 monthes, 'cause he travels alot,and we are faithful couple. this frequency kept our relationship fresh like i thought at first, but it makes me miss him so much, even frustrated since the 3rd year, and we can only sea each other once every half year.
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    Mar 17, 2013 3:02 PM GMT
    Your thread might get some 'action'...if you did a little re-writing on the opening post...

    What is/are your question/questions ?

    How do other couples deal with long distance relationships?

    How to deal with your frustration?

    How to program your DVR?

    Come on Glen.. I'm bored here. icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 18, 2013 12:16 PM GMT
    Long distance relationships are kind of stupid in my opinion and reek of desperation. If you cannot see him at least once every week, I dont know how you can even call it a relationship?
  • jackooh

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    Mar 18, 2013 12:51 PM GMT
    3 years is a long time its bound to get frustrating, n its only gunna get more so, since its been such a long time you might wanna start thinking about your options, move closer to him or him move closer to you, you need to talk about it find out where its going or it'll drive you crazy
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    Mar 18, 2013 12:55 PM GMT
    If I were to ever want a relationship at some point I'd imagine it'd be long distance since almost everyone is from the U.S or Canada.
    That's if I were to have a relationship off of RJ, which I doubt will happen lol.
    I'm interested in seeing how long some people have kept theirs and if it eventually broke up or stayed strong.

    I'd imagine it'd be nice at first maybe, but then after a while it'd be very emotionally taxing.

    What is your partner's thoughts on your long distance relationship OP?
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    Mar 18, 2013 12:58 PM GMT
    My partner and i did one year of long distance and then I moved to be with him . We're about to celebrate 4 years together this May.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:41 PM GMT
    We lasted about 9 months before the time and distance made it unworkable for me. Long Distance can work if you trust each other and if you have a plan to be together in the near future. Long Distance just for the hell of it won't work, you have to want to eventually be with each other.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    whatever3009 saidLong distance relationships are kind of stupid in my opinion and reek of desperation. If you cannot see him at least once every week, I dont know how you can even call it a relationship?


    That is your opinion on what a relationship is. You could almost call any relationship forming out of desperation.
  • nomad4life

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    Congrats CuriousOne!

    I was in a ldr briefly. We had been dating while I was in school and then I got a temporary internship 8 states away right after graduation. It was only going to be for 7 months so we figured we could do it and then I'd just come back. The first three months went by very well. I went up for a visit in June, then he came down in July, then I went back in August. But then in September, I had an interview and got accepted to a graduate professional school in a different country for the next three years starting right after the internship. Then, the fourth year I'm to move out to California and lord knows how long I'll be out there. We talked about it. With me eventually ending up on the west coast and him rising up in his job and hoping to eventually land in DC, there just didn't look like an end to the distance. So we broke up. We still skype all the time and he's actually visiting in a week but it just seemed like the universe was trying to separate us too much.

    I guess I'm saying keep it up if it looks like the distance will come to an end at some point. But if it's permanent, you might need to discuss options.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:46 PM GMT
    So far it hasn't been that long of a timeline but I'm hoping this one will last. Right now everything seems perfect. However my previous long distance relationship lasted three years before I was cheated on.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:46 PM GMT
    dude, long distance relationships are a no no for me. i do not do them
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:47 PM GMT
    I dont know how you have a relationship where you see each other once a year or so. Its really just a close friendship. I wouldnt classify it as a romantic relationship.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:49 PM GMT
    whatever3009 saidLong distance relationships are kind of stupid in my opinion and reek of desperation. If you cannot see him at least once every week, I dont know how you can even call it a relationship?

    So if I'm in a relationship and I deploy I'm desperate because I choose to stay in the relationship?

    Sorry but this comment just seems a bit moronic because many can't help if their situation changes and one has to move in order to keep a job or school...whatever the case may be.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:53 PM GMT
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    whatever3009 saidLong distance relationships are kind of stupid in my opinion and reek of desperation. If you cannot see him at least once every week, I dont know how you can even call it a relationship?

    So if I'm in a relationship and I deploy I'm desperate because I choose to stay in the relationship?

    Sorry but this comment just seems a bit moronic because many can't help if their situation changes and one has to move in order to keep a job or school...whatever the case may be.


    You are taking it to the extreme. If you deploy, you are coming back. If you move for a job, there should be a discussion about moving. If its for school, its not an adult relationship and that would probably take care of itself one way or another.

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:55 PM GMT
    For school its not an adult relationship? Stupid Comment. I'm in school and my relationships are every bit as adult as anyone else.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:56 PM GMT
    one year until I quit my job of 22 years (I was gainfully employed), and moved to the midwest to be with him. That has been 4 years ago and with the exception of the birth of my children I have never been happier.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    msuNtx saidFor school its not an adult relationship? Stupid Comment. I'm in school and my relationships are every bit as adult as anyone else.


    yes.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:58 PM GMT
    Niceguy1964 saidone year until I quit my job of 22 years (I was gainfully employed), and moved to the midwest to be with him. That has been 4 years ago and with the exception of the birth of my children I have never been happier.


    Where did you live before?
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    Mar 18, 2013 2:10 PM GMT
    whatever3009 saidLong distance relationships are kind of stupid in my opinion and reek of desperation. If you cannot see him at least once every week, I dont know how you can even call it a relationship?


    Really? What about if you feel a connection and you want to make it work? My parents did it between Africa and America. My uncle between Asia and America. My brother and his between CA and KS. I'm doing it between Korea and the US. I love my boyfriend. With the exception of me (since I'm not married) the marriages have lasted. I feel that the love we share is based not only the physical, but also on the mental.

    It's challenging. However, sometimes the things we want are worth the wait for things to be more logistically feasible.

    Sometimes things are beyond your control, so you try your hardest and fight.
  • nomad4life

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    Mar 18, 2013 2:10 PM GMT
    Foolish comments are being made. Let this thread now be consumed by the worms crawling out of the can you have opened lol
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    Mar 18, 2013 2:13 PM GMT
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    Niceguy1964 saidone year until I quit my job of 22 years (I was gainfully employed), and moved to the midwest to be with him. That has been 4 years ago and with the exception of the birth of my children I have never been happier.


    Where did you live before?


    Birmingham, al...moved to Indianapolis, in
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    Mar 18, 2013 2:14 PM GMT
    msuNtx saidFor school its not an adult relationship? Stupid Comment. I'm in school and my relationships are every bit as adult as anyone else.


    I agree. College relationships can be just as serious as any other point in your life. It's about the maturity level of the people in the relationships, not the setting.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:45 AM GMT
    I learned the long distance relationship problem fairly early, he moved to japan. a couple months and it was over...because it was truly over the second he got in the airport cab.

    If you do not have an exact date of return, you are not in a relationship anymore, the second they leave, move on. Dont waste your time.

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    I will never do that again. ever. I also have a new rule that if you are capable and chose not to have sex for more than a month the relationship is also over. There is NO excuse for ever having to go without sex if you are healthy.

    This applies to me, but based on every relationship I have ever seen or read about who wasnt a total exception in so many ways, the rules are valid in the general population.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Mar 19, 2013 6:01 AM GMT
    Never been in one but I consider them more a relationship than "open relationships"
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:26 AM GMT
    2 years at being 4 hours apart. We saw each other about every 2-3 weeks. We made it work! Until about the 2 year mark when he said he didn't want a commitment. lol