Came out to my best Friend

  • comical44

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    Mar 17, 2013 11:12 PM GMT
    Came out to my best friend Last night....He basically is my last best friend That I havnt told.

    I started telling my closest friends a couple years ago at my own pace. My friend I told last night Was the one I was most scared to tell. It was harder for me to tell my guy best friends so I was def scared....I told him when we were drunk and I actually got a little emotional.

    He was so cool about it and was actually very upset that I waited to tell him and upset that I felt like He might think differently of me because he said he never would change the way he felt about me and said Im his best friend no matter what...at the end he gave me a hug.

    It felt good to be honest...Yea I wish I told him when I was sober but I kind dont give a F***...the fact that I told him feels good and that hes accepting.

    I told him today im going to email him about the situtation more in depth and really share with him what its been like thus far...because their is so much more to tell him about this journey Ive been on......he then said back hey lets talk about it in person more in depth when your ready...so he really seems so open and accepting about it.

    Just wanted to share
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    Mar 17, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    Don't you love when friends turn out to better friends than you thought they were??.. icon_biggrin.gif

    ..I applaud your courage..and i hope coming out makes things easier on you and yours!!
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  • comical44

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    Mar 17, 2013 11:21 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidDon't you love when friends turn out to better friends than you thought they were??.. icon_biggrin.gif

    ..I applaud your courage..and i hope coming out makes things easier on you and yours!!
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    Thank you. I appreciate it. I feel like a lot of times WE (myself included) tend to me our own worst enemies. This specific friend has been such a great friend and person in my life and I always kind of figured he would not change towards me. It def feels good. Im not gonna lie im still a little uncomfortable because the cat is out of the bag and Im going to feel a little uncomfortable talking to him about "dating" and things like that at first but the fact I i can eventually talk about these things with him feels good.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    Congrats! That's really great and I'm happy for you. It will just strengthen your relationship with him in the end and it will get easier everyday for you to talk to him about that stuff. I had a similar experience back in January, hug and all. And the "I love you no matter what, nothing has changed." And our friendship has never been better. Awesome!
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:16 AM GMT
    I'm happy for you man! Congrats!

    It will definitely make you feel closer to each other. At least it worked that way for me and my best bud.
  • comical44

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:23 AM GMT
    Thank you guys for the support...im glad your situations went well.

    Yea I still have a lot to talk to him about regarding my sexuality and dating....im going to write him a long email about it so I can get more in depth about everything and then once he reads and and has time to think about it...I wanna have a sit down talk with him ya know.

    Me and him are really close, you think this could make us even closer??
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidDon't you love when friends turn out to better friends than you thought they were??.. icon_biggrin.gif

    ..I applaud your courage..and i hope coming out makes things easier on you and yours!!
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    +1

    @OP, Congratulations, you'll see that a friendship can get even closer than you'd have ever imagined!
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    Congrats man! It's an awesome feeling icon_smile.gif You feel lighter now, right? I did.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    Good for you and your BFF, it's always nice to have those special friends that end up being exactly whom you thought they were
  • comical44

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
    Thanks guys!...Yes I def feel like a little weight is lifted off my shoulder
  • blueyedgrey20...

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    GREAT JOB MAN!
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:44 AM GMT
    Congrats! I remember what it felt like when I told my friends, it really does feel like a weight off your shoulders.
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    Hey Comical..just to let you know..My straight best friend is the guy i go to to talk about my relationships and sex..

    ..He was the one that came to me and and made it clear that he is offended that I don't talk to him about these things...
    ... Your friend might be WAY cooler than you think he is..
    ..Either way.. I'm totally happy for you..You have a great friend ...and good support on RJ.. icon_biggrin.gif
  • comical44

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidHey Comical..just to let you know..My straight best friend is the guy i go to to talk about my relationships and sex..

    ..He was the one that came to me and and made it clear that he is offended that I don't talk to him about these things...
    ... Your friend might be WAY cooler than you think he is..
    ..Either way.. I'm totally happy for you..You have a great friend ...and good support on RJ.. icon_biggrin.gif


    Thanks again everyone.

    Thats so cool that your best friend whos straight is the one who you go to for advice on bf's and sex....I would love it if thats how I was with this friend....he is a cool dude so im sure maybe one day ill go to him for advice on dating lol. thats crazy
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    Count your blessings for a great friend!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    Count your blessings for a great friend!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 18, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    Congrats on coming out icon_smile.gif

    It can definitely be a scary and uncomfortable thing. I came out when I was 18 to pretty much everyone. I was most terrified to tell my parents. But everyone has been super supportive...the worst reaction was actually my mothers. She just thinks it's some phase and chooses not to acknowledge it lol. It's no phase after 10 years, mom!


    But this is about you. Congrats, and i'm happy for you!
  • Apparition

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    Mar 18, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    okay, who is next!
  • comical44

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    Mar 18, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    thanks again guys...Whos next?...my family...I havnt told any of them...that will be a harder process to some extent
  • Import

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    Mar 18, 2013 2:34 AM GMT
    SO happy for u!

    I'm just not quite sure on the long email and the "sit down" with him.....
    I don't think it needs to be that deep, tbh.

    I just feel like....u told him, he accepted it....and now u should just casually be open about yourself without a writing as novel pouring out ur feelings to a straight dude. I just think it's a bit much is all. I dunno.
  • comical44

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    Mar 18, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    Thank you...I just wanted to write an email because when we talked last night...it was after a few drinks and It was like a 5-10 minute conversation. I just wanted to write an email just to share my opinion on how hard its been being open about my sexuality with him/the world and I just feel like he would get a better idea of the situation and have a better understanding from my perspective. I thought it would be a good thing.

    Thanks again for the support
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    Mar 18, 2013 2:40 AM GMT
    Mazel tov!
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    Mar 18, 2013 3:02 AM GMT
    comical44 saidCame out to my best friend Last night....He basically is my last best friend That I havnt told.

    I started telling my closest friends a couple years ago at my own pace. My friend I told last night Was the one I was most scared to tell. It was harder for me to tell my guy best friends so I was def scared....I told him when we were drunk and I actually got a little emotional.

    He was so cool about it and was actually very upset that I waited to tell him and upset that I felt like He might think differently of me because he said he never would change the way he felt about me and said Im his best friend no matter what...at the end he gave me a hug.

    It felt good to be honest...Yea I wish I told him when I was sober but I kind dont give a F***...the fact that I told him feels good and that hes accepting.

    I told him today im going to email him about the situtation more in depth and really share with him what its been like thus far...because their is so much more to tell him about this journey Ive been on......he then said back hey lets talk about it in person more in depth when your ready...so he really seems so open and accepting about it.

    Just wanted to share


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    Mar 18, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    comical44 saidI told him today im going to email him about the situtation more in depth and really share with him what its been like thus far...because their is so much more to tell him about this journey Ive been on......he then said back hey lets talk about it in person more in depth when your ready...


    Comical, you've been thinking and fearing this moment for a long time. But remember: it's also about him. Give him a chance to say how he feels about the situation, what it means to him, and how he has handled other people coming out to him.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 18, 2013 5:36 AM GMT
    congrats buddy