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ok so my ex couldn't even bottom for me because he was too tight. today, i had sex with this guy, i didn't even have to loosen him up, i just plunged in.

he claims he hasn't had sex in 5 months. is he lying and a slut, or is it normal for some ppl not to be that tight?

maybe he was just really relaxed.

Hmmmm. Really? I would say he has been having sex on a consistent basis. But hey...he might have a "loose" hole i guess.

people who have sex regularly are sluts. Thank you.

He may not have had sex in five months. Perhaps he has a but plug that resembled a greased up fire hydrant. Just because he says he wasn't sitting on dick doesn't mean he wasn't sitting on something else.

its possible he has some toy or something, supposedly the ass goes back to being tight after about 30 minutes. so i doubt he had sex with someone or used a toy right before we spent time.

something isnt adding up

Any of you guys have a butt plug? Been thinking about trying one. Any thoughts on them.

Hope you used a condom. It sounds that suspicious to me.

Give it a try. They aren't much different from having a penis in your ass, except they stick in and you can wear it to work. The cost isn't prohibitive either.

MunchingZombie saidyou can wear it to work.

Forgive me for my stupidity, but, why would you wear it to work?

or it could be that the reason he is your "EX" is because your a slut.

lilTanker said

MunchingZombie saidyou can wear it to work.

Forgive me for my stupidity, but, why would you wear it to work?

beats me. Sometimes I don't think when I write, I just let a perverted muse course through me.

MunchingZombie saidpeople who have sex regularly are sluts. Thank you.

He may not have had sex in five months. Perhaps he has a but plug that resembled a greased up fire hydrant. Just because he says he wasn't sitting on dick doesn't mean he wasn't sitting on something else.

I concur.

Regular anal sex results in the ability to relax the anal sphincter, and this ability does not significantly diminish in a few months time. This individual may also have been using a dildo.

Meaning he could have truthfully answered that he has not had anal "sex" with another man, but still kept his sphincter in a relaxed state.

my ass is really loose because i typically have sex with guys that have very large dicks. if i have sex with an average size cock, it really doesn't feel like much. 6" or less feels like nothing. i don't even get sore a sore ass anymore like i did when i first started fucking, even if it is a very large/huge cock.

god i hope he isn't a dirty hoe, gross. and yes i did wear a condom. now im gonna be all worried that he is some nasty whore who is disease ridden.

not to be a jerk, but how long have you known him? should you really be judging if this is just a hook-up?

Jesus Christ, are you upset he wasn't a virgin?

Why are you wasting time here speculating about this person instead of talking to them?

you fucked him sweet heart, you got no place to judge!

Hmm...wonder if some of the hot baristas at local coffee establishments wore their butt plugs to work. And to think I thought a snakeskin belt was cool.

Now that I am thinking about it, he probably was just really relaxed and pushed out which would make anyone "loose". If you tense up it will be tight but if you push out as if you were excreting it would be lose. Maybe he also did use a toy before and douched because when I pulled out there were no poop stains on the condom which surprised me.

The thing is even if one were to have sex every day and was a slut from what I understand the anus goes back to being normal after about 30 min. Unless somebody is doing something crazy like a huge dildo or fisting it should go back to normal I think to the point where a doctor wouldnt even be able to tell if you engage in anal sex.

hippie4lyfe saidNow that I am thinking about it, he probably was just really relaxed and pushed out which would make anyone "loose". If you tense up it will be tight but if you push out as if you were excreting it would be lose. Maybe he also did use a toy before and douched because when I pulled out there were no poop stains on the condom which surprised me.

The thing is even if one were to have sex every day and was a slut from what I understand the anus goes back to being normal after about 30 min. Unless somebody is doing something crazy like a huge dildo or fisting it should go back to normal I think to the point where a doctor wouldnt even be able to tell if you engage in anal sex.

Some guys are just very relaxed physically. Others, like yours truly, could create the "Hope Diamond" in a week if they had a lump of coal stuck into where the sun don't shine. Does not mean the guy is a "slut". Although even if he was, why does it really matter? As long as you were being safe then I would not worry too much (BTW nearly every man on the face of the earth is either a "slut" or a potential "slut", blame evolution).

I don't get fisted, and am still able to relax myself enough to where a guy can feel free to plunge in. If they're big, it may hurt a little at first, but in a good way. Maybe they're just used to guys a bit bigger than yourself?
Oh yeah, and I'm always clean. Not all of us like to decorate our partner's cock with feces.
Sounds like your ex was just not much of a bottom.

Wow...sorry for going off topic...but some of you people really need to find more important things in life to worry about other than someone's ass that you fucked.

I mean..really. If you were safe and you both had fun and it felt good, WTF does anything else matter?

musclebud i am interested in gayness and sexuality so i think its normal to bring a question like that here to get a perspective from other gay men. am i supposed to bring it up in church?

when i have questions about asshole or cock i think id rather discuss it in this "safe-space"

Perhaps you just have a very small cock.

redhead that could be true for some, but it isn't in my case ;)

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