Could you date someone who was really messy?

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    Mar 18, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    My bedroom is usually really messy. You can't really see the floor and it doesn't smell great.

    I usually make it look nice if I know for sure someone is coming over, but once when I got lucky I forgot how bad it was (it was really bad) until he was in the room. So, I did what anyone would do, turned the light off again and threw him on the bed icon_cool.gif he forgot about it until the next morning.

    Anyway, how big a turnoff is this for you? Also, if you have any stories about untidy accommodation, please feel free to share icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    I admit I have a bit of an OCD about tidiness, so it would be damper for me.

    Car has to be immaculate,
    Can't leave dirty dishes,
    Underwear is folded...


    But maybe if you use enough Febreeze icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    No, I couldn't date a guy who was messy because his filth tells me he has cockroaches for roommates.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 19, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    When I was younger I was a bit of a slob .. clothes and papers all over the place ... but food and beverages were cleaned up pronto .. I have my limits ... now that I live alone, I'm still not the tidiest person, but nothing major ... If you are living in a smelly place that is not good and definitely would be a huge turn off
  • mybud

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    Mar 19, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    I'm a little OCD...messy makes me angry...
  • Shenyu

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    Mar 19, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]bus9ja2d said[/cite]My bedroom is usually really messy. You can't really see the floor and it doesn't smell great.

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    Mar 19, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    NO. Just, NO.
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    Huge turnoff, HUGE.

    I don't know if this has any truth to it, but to me if you can't have your room/house organized/clean, I can't trust you yourself are clean. I mean, obviously just because your room is messy doesn't mean you're always dirty, but it's just a huge pet peeve of mine. I personally can say I stopped talking to a guy because of it. Even if it's a hookup it would disturb me.
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidNO. Just, NO.


    This.
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    I wouldn't mind, I love cleaning, used to clean up after my roommates all the time, so cleaning up after 1 person would be a breeze.
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    XDanW saidI wouldn't mind, I love cleaning, used to clean up after my roommates all the time, so cleaning up after 1 person would be a breeze.


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  • Apparition

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:00 AM GMT
    XDanW saidI wouldn't mind, I love cleaning, used to clean up after my roommates all the time, so cleaning up after 1 person would be a breeze.


    ^^^you get better and better every day!!!

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    um, im not really worried about the mess so much as the TYPE of mess.
    Untidy and Dirty are two different things. Some messes have to be contained to the rooms they should be associated with.

    Dirty clothes all over the bedroom. OK
    Dirty dishes in the kitchen or around the couch OK
    Art projects in the living room. OK
    Papers and books in the office. OK
    Toothpaste in the bathroom sink. OK
    Dust everywhere. OK


    Now if there are moulding pizza boxes in his laundry, and toothpaste on the bed, underwear on the kitchen table, and office supplies on toilet....you need to be a little neater..at least when youre first dating me.

  • calibro

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:14 AM GMT
    if you're rich and hot enough you could be a cannibal and it wouldn't matter
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    I would date 30 year olds because of maturity, but having a bedroom where you can't see the floor means they haven't grown up, so I might as well stick with the college-aged slobs icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 7:33 AM GMT
    I am a bit of a slob - but - especially in the summer - food and anything that can attract bugs gets cleaned up quickly.
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    Mar 19, 2013 9:07 AM GMT
    By default NO!!

    If that sexiness in him weighs > then his hygieness?
    NO!!

    If his hygieness is > then his messiness?
    Yes - but just on a okay level of saying pass.

    Well, being messy has a link of being unhygienic, and while being hygienic does not necessarily means organize.

    That said being messy it does relate to a person's character.

    By all means lets say he is handsome and all round likeable but a mess.
    My personal answer would be : NO!

    Say he is like averagely just handsome (to you) but very well organized.
    For me I would say : A 101% YES!

    Then again there are many levels of being messy:

    - Idiot.
    - Terrible.
    - Horrible.

    Do the math.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 9:39 AM GMT
    Oh I am not talking about anything unhygienic, just newspapers and clothes on the floor, that sort of thing.

    But I always go to their place now. This also has the advantage of allowing me to go when I want to rather than having to convince someone else to go or stay.

    One time I was walking past a house that had a very messy room at ground level, I saw a pile of junk move by itself which made me stop and look. It turned out to be a cat that was underneath it for some reason icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 9:53 AM GMT
    I'm not the tidiest person in the world but like to keep my room/flat in order and get really annoyed when i have to clean up after people.

    My conclusion is a bit of mess is alright but if its as bad as not being able to see the floor or a funky smell its a turn off
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    Mar 19, 2013 11:19 AM GMT
    a little messy is alright, if hes hot or not will determine how much ill put up with
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    Mar 19, 2013 11:40 AM GMT
    i'm an ocd tidier/furniture mover so its a no from me
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    Mar 19, 2013 12:05 PM GMT
    I really don't like a mess! It affects how I feel. When the room is tidy and clean I feel myself happy haha. My bf can be messy sometimes.
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    Mar 19, 2013 12:16 PM GMT
    N O !
  • Fable

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    Mar 19, 2013 12:24 PM GMT
    A little mess is fine. But not ring able to see the flor is gross. Buy a laundry basket, bin and a chair to sling your clothes over and you'll find your room magically becomes neater.
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    Mar 19, 2013 1:00 PM GMT
    I am a bit messy too, and my bf knows that, I had told him in the beginning itself that I am lazy, I dont like to cook and I dont like to clean. I clean my apartment once a week that's all. I also clean if a visitor is coming else I dont really care.
  • spacemagic

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    Mar 19, 2013 1:15 PM GMT
    XDanW saidI wouldn't mind, I love cleaning, used to clean up after my roommates all the time, so cleaning up after 1 person would be a breeze.


    I hated cleaning up after my last two boyfriends. They were both pretty messy and rarely cleaned up after themselves. This quote from Ann on Parks and Recreation pretty much sums up how I felt:
    " I always had fun with Andy. The problem is when you're his girlfriend, you're also his mother, and his maid, and his nurse. He's completely helpless. He's like a baby in a straightjacket."