Either "I'm Ugly and I'm Proud" or technology became the death of interactions?

  • FlashGreen

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    Mar 19, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    Question, seems lately, ever time I hit it off with a guy conversations die off, even before the mentioning of a meet and greet comes up. What is it about phone calls rather than text, or face to face meetings becoming so taboo? Is it just me? I know I'm not a bad looking guy, I've slimmed down, began to build, feel like I could pass as "cute" though Hell even those whom initiated conversations with me eventually drop off the face of the earth.

    *sigh* -defeated and yours-
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    Don't take it personally. Either the guy is just looking for chat buddies and nothing more. Or the guy is a fake profile.

    Just try not to get too emotionally attached to guys you meet online right away. It's usually better to meet them sooner than later. Then determine if it's feasible to pursue them further as more than friends.
  • FlashGreen

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:07 AM GMT
    I appreciate the reply. Its no surprise how you answered. I feel the same and am aware of chatting only types and such. I hold open arms for that, and I try to meet them sooner than later, but it scares people off I guess. I certainly don't get attached. I'll go with the bet that most are fake profiles haha. Just tired of meeting people without actually meeting them.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    The title of your thread caught my attention. I like it.

    Just---
    go to the place where you can meet people in person. Join the sports league, head out with them later to the bar. Say hello to the guy at work. Don't look to social networking sites as a guarantee for in-person interation.

    That being said, I'd prefer that we don't continue this conversation. ;)
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:31 AM GMT
    I'll be blunt ...seems like no one else will....
    ..There could be a baseline conflict between Your personality and the type of guys you are attracted to.

    ... I took a peak at your profile..dude you seem to be at ONE with YOU..very comfortable in your own skin...

    ...What kind of guys are you looking for??..
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    I FEEL THE same too , i think the guys i'm attracted to just aren't attracted to me .. i wish you luck bro
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:40 AM GMT
    "No one ever knows anyone..."
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  • FlashGreen

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:55 AM GMT
    Elusium said"No one ever knows anyone..."
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    This.. exactly. Hahah, totally haven't seen this in awhile. Thanks for summing it up.
  • FlashGreen

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidI'll be blunt ...seems like no one else will....
    ..There could be a baseline conflict between Your personality and the type of guys you are attracted to.

    ... I took a peak at your profile..dude you seem to be at ONE with YOU..very comfortable in your own skin...

    ...What kind of guys are you looking for??..


    Apparently the wrong kind, you may have a point.. And I could try to meet guys in person at the right place like previously suggested, though I'm not accustomed to being around the scene. Never been to a bar or club to meet guys, always been a bit estranged to go. Location could be a big thing too, close to Philly, but far away enough to be in a no man's land. Thanks for all the advice so far.
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    don't worry about it. would you want someone that only wants to date you because they like how you look and nothing else or because they like how you are as a person and etc? at least, you know who honestly gives a fuck about you and who doesn't.
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    Mar 19, 2013 12:59 PM GMT
    Just like the title except I wouldn't say I'm necessarily proud lol.
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    Mar 19, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    Bwahahahahaha that was funny.
    We went to look at the OP's profile and the laptop mouse (built in and I can't get used to it) hot listed him, which we since removed.

    That oughta traumatize the poor man for a week, lol.

    OP you're perfectly fine, The only way to meet that special kinda guy is to.....

    ....keep meeting guys.
  • Import

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    Mar 19, 2013 2:31 PM GMT
    xrichx saidDon't take it personally. Either the guy is just looking for chat buddies and nothing more. Or the guy is a fake profile.

    Just try not to get too emotionally attached to guys you meet online right away. It's usually better to meet them sooner than later. Then determine if it's feasible to pursue them further as more than friends.

    This.
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    Mar 19, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    meninlove said Bwahahahahaha that was funny.
    We went to look at the OP's profile and the laptop mouse (built in and I can't get used to it) hot listed him, which we since removed.

    That oughta traumatize the poor man for a week, lol.

    OP you're perfectly fine, The only way to meet that special kinda guy is to.....

    ....keep meeting guys.


    Riiiiiiiight. im sure that hotlisting was an accident, u scallywag!! icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
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    meninlove said Bwahahahahaha that was funny.
    We went to look at the OP's profile and the laptop mouse (built in and I can't get used to it) hot listed him, which we since removed.

    That oughta traumatize the poor man for a week, lol.

    OP you're perfectly fine, The only way to meet that special kinda guy is to.....

    ....keep meeting guys.


    Riiiiiiiight. im sure that hotlisting was an accident, u scallywag!! icon_wink.gif


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    Yikes, he's nearly as young as my god-son!
  • silverfox

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    Mar 19, 2013 3:06 PM GMT
    Ok great topic and some great points that I agree with:

    1. Online, not everyone you meet is who they say they are. For me, it isn't "real" until you meet face to face. If someone talks and talks and talks and seems to connect but doesn't want to meet I would assume good chance this guy is not real (or certainly not what it seems you are looking for).

    2. Not everyone online is looking for what you are looking for. Are you setting yourself up for failure? For example, take the REALJOCK site. What do you think the % of people in this universe are looking to meet face to face with others? How many are looking for "deep" interactions? Probably not as high as you think and again...might not be what you want.

    3. Why is it that you assume that it is a physical reason that someone does or doesn't like you? Is that solely how you measure your self worth?

    4. I read your profile and at first glance it seems as if you may not like to talk about yourself.

    No offense...but your first line in your profile says:

    Honestly not much to say here, if someone is interested, they will ask me.

    Breaking it down:

    Not much to say here- So.....what exactly is the point in talking with you?


    If someone is interested, they will ask me
    - Not the most inviting statement! Putting the burden on the person you are trying to attract to ask questions about you? Plus you are referring to your reader as THEY as opposed to YOU. Not personable.

    You seem like a good guy but you may be getting off on the wrong foot. How many attractive well adjusted guys are going to pass by you because of the first impression (not physical) you might be putting out there?

    Sorry if this comes across as nit picking but if you are looking for constructive feedback I would suggest that you look within instead of putting the blame on the entire world of men.


  • ASHDOD

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    Mar 19, 2013 3:38 PM GMT
    sigh
    all truth