A message for you players out there who think its fun braking a heart

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    Mar 19, 2013 1:50 PM GMT
    First of all ....respect for the guys who love and respect there bf and that think of a forever....u guys are one of the rare ones congratz....
    Now for you guys who think its fun to play with peoples hearts ....how can you live with yourselfs just playing people and making them love you and when you get bored u go to the next person you find on the streets....Do you feel good being an animal? Does it pump your ego being such a alfa male that can get who they want? What do you accomplish with all this...is there a prize at the end of the road?....seriously i wanna know at least ill know all my effort to make you love me was for you rewording in someway cuz for me it was hell...yes hell.
    You probably think im overreacting and sound like a crazy person...well im not im just sick of all the crap i have to take from the guys i think there nice and then end up ignoring me and getting me hurt(oh come on guys you know deep down that im right and it hurts to be replaced with someone else and not even know what you done wrong)....well hope karma will bite you in the ass when you least expect it!!!!icon_evil.gif
    Its said that when a soul is created (not a body) it will divide in 2 parts only to reunite when there will be a body for each one ...thats the so called "couple, relationship, perfect love story" .....well then there must be a soul murderer somewhere cuz many people cant find there mate....or it must be something pathological and the souls are infected with a really grave disease.
    Im really sad this world is so crazy....why is it so hard to commit to something guys....yes im young and i have time to find someone ....but why can i commit to something and can keep it in my pants and you cant??? icon_rolleyes.gif
    I really wanna know why players are players and what makes it so good to be one....i one cant understand this...icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 1:59 PM GMT
    P.S. sorry for my bad English its not my main language
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 19, 2013 2:50 PM GMT
    You have a sensitive heart ... unfortunately there are a lot of people that don't have one
  • wellwell

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    Mar 19, 2013 2:54 PM GMT
    Cheer Up Med, Buddy, I Still Love You !!
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    Mar 19, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    Let it out... if you don't let it out, it will turn you cold and bitter.

    Write your feelings down, or take them out on the gym. It helps- trust.

    As far as guys- they can really suck, and I'm sorry someone broke your heart. No one deserves that.
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    Mar 19, 2013 3:07 PM GMT
    Well...two things.

    "im just sick of all the crap i have to take from the guys i think there nice and then end up ignoring me and getting me hurt(oh come on guys you know deep down that im right and it hurts to be replaced with someone else and not even know what you done wrong)....well hope karma will bite you in the ass when you least expect it!"

    If guys you think are nice end up ignoring you and hurting you (replacing you or dumping you for example) then perhaps examine what you found nice about them, and think of changing what you find nice or be more cautious when you meet men that you find nice. icon_wink.gif

    This is the second thing,

    " seriously i wanna know at least ill know all my effort to make you love me was for you rewording in someway cuz for me it was hell...yes hell."

    My good and handsome young man, I discovered long, long ago that you cannot make someone love you. They have to do that all by themselves. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    Agreed 1000%icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 3:11 PM GMT
    Dude, your rant does not help your cause, life is not always a box of chocolates in many respects, gay, straight, work, finance, family..etc! Why waste your time hating on others and getting angry because you don't know what makes them tick, who cares, move on, be you, if people like it, great, if not well we all get hurt, its part of the process and you grow from it. Be positive, not bitter, whiney and angry, the former is way more attractive than the latter!
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    Mar 19, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    Oh man! that sucks icon_sad.gif
    but, on the bright side, you should consider yourself as lucky, for you have discovered such a rogue he is...

    MedGen said
    I really wanna know why players are players and what makes it so good to be one....i one cant understand this...

    Because...they all have hearts just like ours, but with one exception...Theirs is sickened and dead by lack of compassion, morals, love etc.,.


    It pains, it hurts,it makes us anger, it sucks the happiness from us....but we have to live with it...be strong and cherish for the new life and better future you're going to have...Then it doesn't cause us pain nor it hurts nor can makes us anger...it can suck the happiness from us ONLY when we want it to...
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    Mar 19, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    Also, it might be different where you live versus where many others live. You sound like you've been burned and you're hurting. There are plenty of nice, loving, caring guys out there. If they're not in the pond that you're fishing in, find a new pond.

    Don't let the actions of others change you. Keep your guard up a little more so that you don't get hurt so easily. Date a guy for a while before you fall head over heels for them, get to know them, who they are, what they are. You'll save yourself a lot of pain!
  • camfer

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    Mar 19, 2013 3:31 PM GMT
    People cannot play with your heart unless you give your heart to them.

    If you could consider moving a little more slowly, investing your emotions in a man only to the same extent that he is invested in you, then the two of you are relating in a balanced way to each other. Let the pace of the two of you together unfold naturally, rather than talking about soul mates within a month or even year of meeting someone.

    You didn't necessarily do anything "wrong" that caused you to be "replaced." If you're lucky, each relationship you are in makes you a little bit wiser for the next one. The end of relationship does not mean it was a failure.

    I hope you feel better soon.
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    Mar 19, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    Braking? hearts

    Freudian slip?

    Did your heart break because they put the brakes on it?



    Get used to it early. This shit happens all the time in all sorts of relationships from the most intimate to the casual.

    I've had people in my life who I thought my friends, dear friends, for five, 10, 20 or more years before they revealed truly who the fuck they were the whole damned time. And I'm like, wait a minute, what the fuck did you think you were doing for the last three decades that suddenly changed now? You couldn't figure out you didn't like me in our first five minutes together, in our first five days, five weeks, five months? You had to wait five years? Douchebag!

    Life's a tricky thing and it can be cruel to the max. There's a lot of good people out there. I have people who have stuck with me since we were three. But also there are a lot of users out there. Pretender who seem to care when times are good but who scatter like cockroaches in sudden daylight when times turn tough. They're very good at hiding their true character. And often they have other good characteristics that seem to make the bullshit worthwhile. And we so badly want to have friends that sometimes we let the monsters into our lives.

    Be whole within yourself and realize that just because you feel one way about a person does not mean that person feels the same way about you. The problem with that of course is that you still have to be you, who else would you be? And they know that. Beware but don't close yourself off. Often the way towards love is a perilous journey. The open heart hurts a little; the closed heart dies completely.
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    There, there now. We've all been there. The pain will pass; until then sitting in a dark room listening to Nazareth's "Love Hurts" will soothe the anguish.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcf2rfL_6Sw
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    Well ty guys, im glad some of you relate to what i feel now and ty for the good advice.
    I noticed someone told me i should go at the same extent as the other person in the relationship....the idea was ...a player says what you want to hear...and does what you like...till that moment when you become boring for him...you find him still someone you find interesting and fall like a stupid teenage girl in love with him and then guess who gets hurt? (clearly not him)
    Im glad i have friends here that say nice things about me...you all are amazing icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:24 PM GMT
    meninlove said Well...two things.

    "im just sick of all the crap i have to take from the guys i think there nice and then end up ignoring me and getting me hurt(oh come on guys you know deep down that im right and it hurts to be replaced with someone else and not even know what you done wrong)....well hope karma will bite you in the ass when you least expect it!"

    If guys you think are nice end up ignoring you and hurting you (replacing you or dumping you for example) then perhaps examine what you found nice about them, and think of changing what you find nice or be more cautious when you meet men that you find nice. icon_wink.gif

    This is the second thing,

    " seriously i wanna know at least ill know all my effort to make you love me was for you rewording in someway cuz for me it was hell...yes hell."

    My good and handsome young man, I discovered long, long ago that you cannot make someone love you. They have to do that all by themselves. icon_wink.gif
    i really admire you guys ...hope you will last forever together...cuz its a cruel world out there to be alone icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
    afl35 saidDude, your rant does not help your cause, life is not always a box of chocolates in many respects, gay, straight, work, finance, family..etc! Why waste your time hating on others and getting angry because you don't know what makes them tick, who cares, move on, be you, if people like it, great, if not well we all get hurt, its part of the process and you grow from it. Be positive, not bitter, whiney and angry, the former is way more attractive than the latter!
    yep what he said.
  • OrangeCTGuy

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:13 PM GMT
    You're young and although you may not see it now, you will bounce back.
    Love and giving your heart to someone is all about taking a risk. If you take it, you may end up with a great reward. If not, you may end up regretting it in the end. Trust me, I did and I'm sorry everyday that I didn't take a chance on someone. Bottom line is that, while your feelings are valid and probably all consuming at this point, it will get better. Have faith in yourself and others.
  • thegaymessiah

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    It might be a matter of your location.

    You live in LA. It's chock full of narcissists who operate only on the superficial level....

    if you want 'forever' might have to move out and meet a nice midwestern boy like me. (btw im single i never dated a 21 year old dude before but im into all ages).

    It's not just that you have a big heart, it might be you have a big heart around people whose hearts aren't so big.

    So changing your external environment might make you feel better. While most Hollywood stories are about 'coming of ages'- a gay midwestern person finding life in the big city, I think the other way around might be more valid: a boy from LA moving to the midwest and liking it better.

    on your profile you state bitterly: "the world is filled with just sex and money" if i lived in la or hollywood or some porn-y place in california i would think that, but there are places with love. you just have to integrate your internal self with an external one. if you really don't like something, then change it - only u have the power to do this.
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:54 PM GMT
    So a friend of mine gave me a really funny pep talk to cheer me up "Dont be sad think on the bright side ...you are never alone ...somebody out there must be masturbating thinking of you" hahahahaha was pretty funny when she said it lol ....im not good at telling jokes -.-"icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    MedGen saidP.S. sorry for my bad English its not my main language

    I think your English is very good for a second language.

    Ty very much, i try to do my best icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
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    Please kill me now.
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    MedGen saidSo a friend of mine gave me a really funny pep talk to cheer me up "Dont be sad think on the bright side ...you are never alone ...somebody out there must be masturbating thinking of you" hahahahaha was pretty funny when she said it lol ....im not good at telling jokes -.-"icon_redface.gif


    Actually MedGen, your friend is very likely right, and smart.

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    Mar 19, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    As an 18 y/o I've already broken a few hearts and mine has been too.. You live and learn.. You're older, you should have atleast know not to fall in love so quick.


    Life isn't a Cinderella story
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    Mar 19, 2013 7:15 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said(Reads entire thread...)

    Please kill me now.

    Sure no problem, how do you want me to do it?.... do you prefer nice and slow or quick and painless?icon_twisted.gif