Monogamish?

  • metta

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    Mar 19, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    Monogamish?

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    Mar 19, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    Never heard of the world and I always thought the word monogamy was black or white, either you are or you are not. I have a feeling monogamish is a word that has been created so that people who sleep with others besides their partners don't feel so slutty. If you are going to have an open relationship, own up to it. It is no longer uncommon and you are not going to be sent to the sexual deviant corner. but in all honesty it really is no one else's business except to those involved so why would the word really need to be created. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    Summarized:

    "I respect all honest long term relationships. BUT, monogamy is better and guys who aren't completely monogamous annoy me."

    He doesn't even understand the word he's talking about. The whole point of the word "monogamish" (which I agree is kind of gimmicky) is NOT that you get to have sex with whoever you want whenever you want. The point is, you have an emotional and sexual connection with your partner but an occasional dalliance isn't the end of the world, for the two people involved.

    He conflates nonmonogamy and "cheating." He conflates nonmonogamy and sleeping with every guy you come across.

    He also conflates desire and action. In the clip from Dan Savage, Dan is stating that being in love doesn't mean that you aren't sexually attracted to others - regardless of whether you choose to act on it. This guy says he disagrees, but then goes on to say that he fantasizes about hot guys, just doesn't do it. In other words, he agrees with Dan but doesn't seem to recognize it.

    He also says that in a marriage/LTR you "become one" with your spouse. Huh. Sounds like a recipe for couples counseling to me.

    Even an idiot has freedom of Youtube...
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    i am !
  • great_scott

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    Mar 19, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    Just more folks trying to make hoeing sound dignified.
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    Mar 19, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    great_scott saidJust more folks trying to make hoeing sound dignified.


    And even an idiot has freedom of RJ.
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:14 PM GMT
    I watched part of it.

    Monogamish is just too blurry a term.
    Monogamy or open relationship, thanks.

    Open relationships can be anything from mad sex crazed bed hopping to once-in-10-year trysts, for example; it's a vast spectrum, and I think monogamish fails to encompass all those degrees in that it seems to infer trysts would be rare, which isn't always the case.
  • great_scott

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    Mar 19, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    showme said
    great_scott saidJust more folks trying to make hoeing sound dignified.


    And even an idiot has freedom of RJ.


    So basically anyone with a different opinion than you is an idiot. Very mature.
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    Mar 19, 2013 7:33 PM GMT
    So, if you are monogamish do you only date amish guys or what?
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    Mar 19, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    Ya but, according to the video clip, the Dan Savage definition for "Monogamish"
    is the same as "open relationship"...so nuthin' new here except a cutesy oh-so-clever and trendy new term that hipsters will throw around....lame.

    Anyhoo, I couldn't really get past the 40 foot wall of Star Wars action figuresicon_rolleyes.gif

    I stopped listening and started counting Storm Troopers.
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    Mar 19, 2013 8:05 PM GMT
    great_scott said
    showme said
    great_scott saidJust more folks trying to make hoeing sound dignified.


    And even an idiot has freedom of RJ.


    So basically anyone with a different opinion than you is an idiot. Very mature.



    Actually, in the main I am quite mature. However, you called guys in open relationships of even the mildest sort whores. I don't appreciate it.

  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Mar 19, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    "Marriage is a union between a man and a woman, and when you use words like marriage for same sex unions, it cheapens our traditions. I don't like that."

    I don't really have an opinion on open relationships one way or the other; but hypocrisy is such a bore.
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    Mar 20, 2013 12:44 AM GMT
    showme saidSummarized:

    "I respect all honest long term relationships. BUT, monogamy is better and guys who aren't completely monogamous annoy me."

    He doesn't even understand the word he's talking about. The whole point of the word "monogamish" (which I agree is kind of gimmicky) is NOT that you get to have sex with whoever you want whenever you want. The point is, you have an emotional and sexual connection with your partner but an occasional dalliance isn't the end of the world, for the two people involved.

    He conflates nonmonogamy and "cheating." He conflates nonmonogamy and sleeping with every guy you come across.

    He also conflates desire and action. In the clip from Dan Savage, Dan is stating that being in love doesn't mean that you aren't sexually attracted to others - regardless of whether you choose to act on it. This guy says he disagrees, but then goes on to say that he fantasizes about hot guys, just doesn't do it. In other words, he agrees with Dan but doesn't seem to recognize it.

    He also says that in a marriage/LTR you "become one" with your spouse. Huh. Sounds like a recipe for couples counseling to me.

    Even an idiot has freedom of Youtube...



    Never heard that term either but I agree with what you said.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 20, 2013 1:04 AM GMT
    I think if people don't want to be judged for the life choices they make, they shouldn't judge the life choices other people make.