I'm not a bottom or a top

  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 19, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    Honestly I prefer doing everything else with a guy, even foreplay that usually leads to penetration, but penetration itself icon_neutral.gif I just get nothing from it.

    The few times I "topped" the guys really liked it and it turned me on to know they were turned on but it did nothing for me.

    The few times I tried to "bottom" I would ride the guy a little or he would enter me but after a few thrusts I would call cut. It felt uncomfortable, not the least bit pleasurable for me, but the guys, of course, were disappointed.

    Maybe I just haven't met the right man yet. I'm sure when I meet someone I actually want to be with, he will be patient and we will explore together. But for now, I'm not a bottom or a top. I just hope this won't turn out to be a problem in the future.
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    What?!?! How could you call it cut when a guy is banging you, learn to take it!

    JK.. Not everyone is into anal, oral is where it's at.. Clean, fun, and easy
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 19, 2013 7:19 PM GMT
    Buppi saidWhat?!?! How could you call it cut when a guy is banging you, learn to take it!

    JK.. Not everyone is into anal, oral is where it's at.. Clean, fun, and easy


    Haha, you're right. This one guy that I was seeing grew bored with me because I wasn't a bottom I guess. I really liked him. Cute russian boy.

    One time he had just put it inside me and was like, "Oh man, you feel so good" and then I just told him to stop because it was so uncomfortable. I felt bad.

    Fuck, this is going to be a problem in the future.

    Well, one time this hot British guy fingered me and that felt fucking fantastic, so I know I will get there eventually icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    I've tried topping and bottoming more times than I have fingers and toes to count. Well, that, multiplied by an unspecified number.

    And I still don't enjoy it.
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 20, 2013 3:03 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've tried topping and bottoming more times than I have fingers and toes to count. Well, that, multiplied by an unspecified number.

    And I still don't enjoy it.


    So you are more into frotting, foreplay, things like that? I mean, there are many things two men can do together besides anal sex.
  • FunkyJay45

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    Mar 20, 2013 12:07 PM GMT
    NeutralObserver saidHonestly I prefer doing everything else with a guy, even foreplay that usually leads to penetration, but penetration itself icon_neutral.gif I just get nothing from it.

    The few times I "topped" the guys really liked it and it turned me on to know they were turned on but it did nothing for me.

    The few times I tried to "bottom" I would ride the guy a little or he would enter me but after a few thrusts I would call cut. It felt uncomfortable, not the least bit pleasurable for me, but the guys, of course, were disappointed.

    Maybe I just haven't met the right man yet. I'm sure when I meet someone I actually want to be with, he will be patient and we will explore together. But for now, I'm not a bottom or a top. I just hope this won't turn out to be a problem in the future.


    If topping done nothing for u how were u even able to get it up?

    Are u saying u were turned on by the dude so u got hard but once u entered it wasn't enjoyable?
  • FunkyJay45

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    Mar 20, 2013 12:08 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've tried topping and bottoming more times than I have fingers and toes to count. Well, that, multiplied by an unspecified number.

    And I still don't enjoy it.


    im more into frottage as well
  • Apparition

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    Mar 20, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
    you should be upfront about what you like at all times with guys you meet. then they can reject your immediately or be okay with you immediately when you have "non-standard" expectations.
  • davidsticky69

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    Mar 20, 2013 4:59 PM GMT
    You are a closeted straight guy.

    Time to go vag-hunting. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • MarvelBoy23

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    Mar 20, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    NeutralObserver saidHonestly I prefer doing everything else with a guy, even foreplay that usually leads to penetration, but penetration itself icon_neutral.gif I just get nothing from it.

    The few times I "topped" the guys really liked it and it turned me on to know they were turned on but it did nothing for me.

    The few times I tried to "bottom" I would ride the guy a little or he would enter me but after a few thrusts I would call cut. It felt uncomfortable, not the least bit pleasurable for me, but the guys, of course, were disappointed.

    Maybe I just haven't met the right man yet. I'm sure when I meet someone I actually want to be with, he will be patient and we will explore together. But for now, I'm not a bottom or a top. I just hope this won't turn out to be a problem in the future.


    For me I'm mostly oral. But when my partner wants me to top I do. I enjoy it enough, but when he wants to top it's not so enjoyable plus (he's incredibly girthy). I rarely do it because I too feel uncomfortable. For me I think mostly it's being too submissive and that's not my personality. Then I think about how incredibly oral I am how much I like to please with my mouth and I think, is it possible for bottoming to feel too submissive but to have a cock pounding my face not be too submissive? So maybe I just don't get into it that much and same for you! I HAVE gotten into it before with him, but it is very rare and it's only felt great 2 or 3 times. I'd rather use my other talents to please!

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    Mar 20, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    My ex was like that and didn't tell me. I ended up finding out in time but it was a major disappointment that our desires didn't align.

    Be honest up front with people. Maybe you'll find an oral-only partner.
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    Mar 23, 2013 12:23 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    Be honest up front with people.