Voluntary Celibacy (Volcel)

  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 19, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    Wondering if anyone is voluntarily celibate.

    I haven't had sex in about five or six months and after I went through the "withdrawal" period (increased levels of horniness, staring at every guy's ass and physique shamelessly, increased masturbation) I realized that I was pretty much fine and there was something liberating about it. The constant search for someone to have sex with is frankly exhausting, and I realize that I want something meaningful anyway, so I should probably stop giving it away to the highest bidder on a Saturday night.

    So is anyone else volcel or were you in the past? I need your stories. What made you go into it? What made you come out of it?
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    After my ex left me for a girl I went through a period of celibacy(8 months I believe) it was really rough went through withdrawals too (especially in the gym I live in a college town so it was always packed with young fit straight studs who I wanted to climb). I dealt with it by focusin in my personal goals and when I recovered I decided to try dating again. I'm still single and I don't sleep around (have a friend who we sometimes do stuff) but hey I say stick with it man! It's tough and you are right giving yourself should be reserved for that special someone
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    Mar 19, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    NeutralObserver saidWondering if anyone is voluntarily celibate.

    I haven't had sex in about five or six months and after I went through the "withdrawal" period (increased levels of horniness, staring at every guy's ass and physique shamelessly, increased masturbation) I realized that I was pretty much fine and there was something liberating about it. The constant search for someone to have sex with is frankly exhausting, and I realize that I want something meaningful anyway, so I should probably stop giving it away to the highest bidder on a Saturday night.

    So is anyone else volcel or were you in the past? I need your stories. What made you go into it? What made you come out of it?


    Now, 2 months. After fuckfest. Just putting myself together and promising to myself having next time something more than just sex...icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 19, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
    Arcturian said
    NeutralObserver saidWondering if anyone is voluntarily celibate.

    I haven't had sex in about five or six months and after I went through the "withdrawal" period (increased levels of horniness, staring at every guy's ass and physique shamelessly, increased masturbation) I realized that I was pretty much fine and there was something liberating about it. The constant search for someone to have sex with is frankly exhausting, and I realize that I want something meaningful anyway, so I should probably stop giving it away to the highest bidder on a Saturday night.

    So is anyone else volcel or were you in the past? I need your stories. What made you go into it? What made you come out of it?


    Now, 2 months. After fuckfest. Just putting myself together and promising to myself having next time something more than just sex...icon_rolleyes.gif


    So you binge then fast huh icon_biggrin.gif

    How is it being gay in Prague?
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    Mar 19, 2013 10:21 PM GMT
    NeutralObserver said
    Arcturian said
    NeutralObserver saidWondering if anyone is voluntarily celibate.

    I haven't had sex in about five or six months and after I went through the "withdrawal" period (increased levels of horniness, staring at every guy's ass and physique shamelessly, increased masturbation) I realized that I was pretty much fine and there was something liberating about it. The constant search for someone to have sex with is frankly exhausting, and I realize that I want something meaningful anyway, so I should probably stop giving it away to the highest bidder on a Saturday night.

    So is anyone else volcel or were you in the past? I need your stories. What made you go into it? What made you come out of it?


    Now, 2 months. After fuckfest. Just putting myself together and promising to myself having next time something more than just sex...icon_rolleyes.gif


    So you binge then fast huh icon_biggrin.gif

    How is it being gay in Prague?


    Honestly? It´s a paradise city in many ways. First is tolerancy of the majority. That´s great. I´m not the type who shows much his sexuality but even if You do with Your boyfriend hand to hand a kiss each other, no problem. I´m 27 and haven´t - I swear - not a one single negative reaction from people aroung. Was out since 15 on all my schools, all my jobs and everywhere ok.

    I´m not the part of gay scene, but those who are are sorry that our is not organized. It´s relatively small. But You can find guys out of the scene also so everone can choose.

    Come on visit :-D
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 19, 2013 10:27 PM GMT
    cel·i·bate
    /ˈseləbət/
    Adjective
    Abstaining from marriage and sexual relations, typically for religious reasons.
    Noun
    A person who abstains from marriage and sexual relations.

    Since you masturbate, you are not celibate.
  • MikeW

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    Mar 19, 2013 10:57 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidcel·i·bate
    /ˈseləbət/
    Adjective
    Abstaining from marriage and sexual relations, typically for religious reasons.
    Noun
    A person who abstains from marriage and sexual relations.

    Since you masturbate, you are not celibate.

    ? It doesn't explicitly say no masturbation in the definition you've provided. I agree "sexual relations" is a bit ambiguous but "relations" usually implies another besides one's self, right?
  • MikeW

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    Mar 19, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    In answer to the OP: I haven't bee sexual with anyone for over a decade and the reason is due primarily to the last LTR. Long story short, It was emotionally devastating and left me feeling I can't trust myself to make good decisions ESPECIALLY when I'm sexually attracted to someone. Worse, I can't do hook-up type sex. I'm very empathic and get emotionally attached very easily so casual sex isn't healthy for me.

    Jerking off to porn on the other hand icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 19, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    I heard celery is awesome.
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    Mar 20, 2013 11:29 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidcel·i·bate
    /ˈseləbət/
    Adjective
    Abstaining from marriage and sexual relations, typically for religious reasons.
    Noun
    A person who abstains from marriage and sexual relations.

    Since you masturbate, you are not celibate.


    I see....so I´m bot in celibate icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 20, 2013 11:49 AM GMT
    I was celibate for 3 years. The hookup thing gets old....fast! I just think there's too much time and energy in going for a 1-nighter as well as that empty feeling I get after having meaningless sex. All of that time of not screwing around, I was focusing on a career and building friendships. Afterwards, I met a guy who became my bf.




    Then he turned out to be a dickhead so I dumped his ass!