The one that got away

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    Mar 19, 2013 7:01 PM GMT
    Hey Gentlemen

    Thought I ask this question. Have you ever really met one guy and hanged out for a bit and fell so in love with him that 4 years later you still randomly send him a text msg asking him how he is doing?

    Should you keep that memory as the one that got away or just say f@ck it and block him completely out of your mind? I mean you haven't seen him since the last phone call that went like " well if I make u unhappy by not dating u then I will go" he put the down the phone and u just never hear or see him again,

    He is a lawyer so just cuts off all emotion or response,.....icon_question.gif?
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    Mar 19, 2013 7:51 PM GMT
    there were plenty of guys that i liked, had crushes on but never really went as far as that. one day, it will though. until then, i'm glad to have met those guys though. they made me acknowledge that i was gay and forced me to accept it at a moment of time that i didn't want to. even if i even got a chance to date them, they did change my life so it's still a win for me.
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    Mar 19, 2013 8:53 PM GMT
    I'm not clear about what you're asking. Are you saying he sent you a text message after four years or that you are thinking about him and thinking of texting him? Or something else entirely?

    I certainly have had crushes on guys that didn't work out and have found myself thinking about them years later. I think I "ought" to be able to just be friends with them but the truth is its not always that easy to do. Sometimes that can work but not always.

    I think part of this is that as a general rule gay guys don't start dating one another as teens the way heterosexuals do. Consequently we don't get the opportunity to work through these crushes or 'puppy loves' or whatever you want to call them as teens. We end up having to deal with all this later on in life when, perhaps, we're less emotionally flexible.
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    Mar 19, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    Cutting him off is how I got over him. Blocked him on my cell account minutes after I said goodbye.

    Two years ago. Only regret was trying to start something real despite the signs.


    (there's something about a guy from a large Mormon family that... damn..)
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    Mar 19, 2013 9:00 PM GMT
    1st question - "Have you ever really met one guy and hanged out for a bit and fell so in love with him that 4 years later you still randomly send him a text msg asking him how he is doing?"

    Answer - No

    2nd question - "Should you keep that memory as the one that got away or just say f@ck it and block him completely out of your mind?"

    Answer - F@ck it and block

    3rd item to be turned into a question - "He is a lawyer so just cuts off all emotion or response"

    Question - What does his profession have anything to do with sending a text 4 years later?
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    Mar 19, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
    Rubycube saidHey Gentlemen

    Thought I ask this question. Have you ever really met one guy and hanged out for a bit and fell so in love with him that 4 years later you still randomly send him a text msg asking him how he is doing?

    Should you keep that memory as the one that got away or just say f@ck it and block him completely out of your mind? I mean you haven't seen him since the last phone call that went like " well if I make u unhappy by not dating u then I will go" he put the down the phone and u just never hear or see him again,

    He is a lawyer so just cuts off all emotion or response,.....icon_question.gif?


    He's a fool to not see a quality guy like yourself.
    I've cut off several guys who smashed my heart. I'm in the process of getting rid of one...

    My opinion is to cut him off completely. Why waste your precious memories when there are guys who would want to be with you completely..


    Crap am I sounding like a romantic wishy washy! icon_eek.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 19, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    Damn dude ... you look more like a heart breaker then a member of the broken hearts club. If I were your best friend I would tell you to forget him and move on ... but only so I could have a chance at you. If you feel that strongly about him, maybe you should find out where it went wrong and in the process you just might find out you were living under an illusion.
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    Mar 19, 2013 10:14 PM GMT
    Been there, done that, blocked him out of my mind . . . but as you've found out, it's easier said then done. When my "one that got away" pops into in mind, I pull out my mental list of the pain he put me through and I quickly remember how glad I am he got away.
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    Mar 20, 2013 4:52 AM GMT
    *le sigh...*icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 20, 2013 5:13 AM GMT
    Thanks guys!!