How do you deal with hostile co-workers

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    Mar 21, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    It happened again today! My bitchy coworker just went apeshit on me for o reason!

    I mean, WTF. All I was doing is asking her if she can go through some things with me that our boss said to me, and she just went apeshit on me.

    How do you deal with hostile workers?
  • Apparition

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    Mar 21, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    thank her for her time and find a male coworker?
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    Mar 21, 2013 7:55 AM GMT
    JOOU said
    How do you deal with hostile workers?


    By avoiding them,even when we need them or have to work with them.
    build that kind of attitude & you'll never be bothered by those crazy people.
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    Mar 21, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    It must have been " her bad time of the month " , that is always the excuse they gave me when they apologised afterward ...icon_smile.gif
    In my field men / women ratio is unfair ..Hahaha..., so i have learn to live with it and not stress 'bout it anymore ...icon_smile.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 21, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    Ignore her and avoid her always ... if she approaches you, never have time for her and remove yourself from the situation
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    Mar 21, 2013 7:18 PM GMT
    Snatch her purse.. Douse her tampons with Tabasco sauce..Return purse...sit back and enjoy !! icon_biggrin.gif
  • thatirishbast...

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    Mar 21, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    Fight fire with ice. Never do a thing for her again. If she asks why you're so cold and unfriendly, tell her why then walk away.
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    Mar 21, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    could be worse...your management creating hostility, thank your stars its only a co-worker
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    Mar 21, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    JOOU saidIt happened again today! My bitchy coworker just went apeshit on me for o reason!

    I mean, WTF. All I was doing is asking her if she can go through some things with me that our boss said to me, and she just went apeshit on me.

    How do you deal with hostile workers?


    you don't.
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    Mar 21, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    People like this gradually alienate everyone around them until they have problems getting stuff done as everyone is too "busy" to help them. Then they get promoted to being your line manager, and they put you on a performance improvement plan for not being a team player.
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    Mar 21, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    Maintain your professionalism and integrity. Other people are noticing. At some point you will gain the upper-hand and have the power to turn it around in your favor.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 21, 2013 10:37 PM GMT
    I used to work with a woman who heaped abuse on everyone, then she did it to me.

    I said, "Hold on a minute, Kim. I think you are confused about something. I'm not your friend, your brother, your husband or any other relation. I'm your co-worker and you are out of line talking to me like that. If you can't be civil and courteous, then don't' talk to me at all."

    She of course went off and I just walked away. It elevated to my boss and her boss, with other people getting involved and saying she treated them the same.
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    Mar 21, 2013 10:40 PM GMT
    My (ex)boss handled one person in particular...brilliantly.

    He wouldn't say anything. They're still talking. Just turns around and walk away.
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    Mar 21, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    JOOU saidIt happened again today! My bitchy coworker just went apeshit on me for o reason!

    I mean, WTF. All I was doing is asking her if she can go through some things with me that our boss said to me, and she just went apeshit on me.

    How do you deal with hostile workers?


    Basically just don't worry about her, have decorous attitude, and do your work well.
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    Mar 21, 2013 11:02 PM GMT
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  • Rhi_Bran

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    Mar 21, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    Whenever they... uh... go "apeshit" on you, just give them a really creepy blank stare. Keep staring at them even after they wind themselves bitching at you. Just keep staring.

    After an appreciable amount of this, respond only with, "you mad, bro?", and then walk away.
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    Mar 21, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
    I usually run away from them.
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    Mar 21, 2013 11:36 PM GMT
    JOOU saidIt happened again today! My bitchy coworker just went apeshit on me for o reason!

    I mean, WTF. All I was doing is asking her if she can go through some things with me that our boss said to me, and she just went apeshit on me.

    How do you deal with hostile workers?


    Be cordial but from a distance. stay away from the drama and gossip, you should deal fine. keeping to yourself keeps you out of the petty, tedious non sense that goes on in a work place, happens at every job. trust me. I deal with that too, but I never get involved and stay to myself while interacting and getting my work done. good luck!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 21, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    Remain calm and professional even if the nutty co worker isn't. I'd
    document the behavior and report them to a supervisor. Be defensive, you never know how nutty the co worker may be or what may happen!
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    Mar 21, 2013 11:42 PM GMT
    i can't help but heartily lol. imagine an organization that encourages people who are less intelligent than you to go apeshit on you for no reason and if you try to reply in a tone that might seem insubordinate you may risk losing pay and not be able to listen to music, watch tv or eat candy for 2 months. also, war. lol civilians.
  • 1blind_dog

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    Mar 21, 2013 11:43 PM GMT
    I've been a similar situation with a fellow bartender. She's a bitch day in and day out. My buddy suggested I invite some friends to the bar and basically set her up. Do/say something that would normally set her off and have witnesses to her BS so they can make formal complaints as customers.
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    Mar 21, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    I typically laugh at them which normally does not diffuse the situation.

    As a practical note, you should have another co-worker (prefably a female) around you if you are going to interact with her again. At least there will be a witness if there ever becomes an issue of who to believe.
  • He_Man

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    Mar 21, 2013 11:57 PM GMT

    I am nice and offer him or her a fresh cup of coffee with a couple of drops of Visine eye drops in it!

    Hahah.. I'm just joking.... Or am I? icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 22, 2013 12:02 AM GMT
    OOooo, tell me what does Visine in coffee do?!? I'd never do it, but it sounds like fun!
  • He_Man

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    Mar 22, 2013 12:18 AM GMT
    Blakes7 saidOOooo, tell me what does Visine in coffee do?!? I'd never do it, but it sounds like fun!


    Disclaimer: Never put eye drops in someone's drink, btw, because it could have very negative consequences!

    Bartenders will get even with patrons who annoy them by "dropping" them, which means they put eye drops in their drinks. This is supposed to cause diarrhea and induce vomiting immediately upon drinking. Some claim that it doesn't actually work, but many bartenders still do this today, even though it is highly illegal.

    Again, DO NOT put Visine in someone's drink. "Dropping" is bad, umkay!