I've been hooking up with a girl and my best friend wants to have a threesome... badly

  • Baseballguy

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    Mar 21, 2013 8:05 PM GMT
    So I'm 23, bi, and not out/nobody knows. I've been hooking up with this girl for the last 3 weeks or so and my best friend (who is 23, straight and a virgin) has brought up having a 3some with me and her. My friend and I are really close, we hang out all the time and some have even joked that we are gay together although we have never done anything outside of drunkenly fallen asleep next to each other. Honestly I'd be completely down to have a three some with him and I'm pretty sure this girl would be down also. My question is do you think this kid wants more from me? Like we do everything together; when our other friends ask to hangout/come to their place it's understood that we will be together. Last weekend he borrowed my computer to jerkoff in my bathroom, then handed me the computer and was like "dude u should jerkoff to this," and i did, in my room. He's pretty good looking and very shy with girls, like if a girl wants to hookup with him they literally need to throw themselves at him and then even I need to be like, "go hook up with her!" I mean I'd be down to mess around/watch porn and jerkoff with him but I dunno if he would be down or how I would even bring it up. What should i do?
  • Baseballguy

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    Mar 21, 2013 9:45 PM GMT
    no i don't intend to fool around with him during the threesome. im just sayin it could open things up between me and my friend if we have this 3some.
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    Mar 22, 2013 1:20 AM GMT
    Wow, that's hot.

    Like Yourname said, it could ruin your friendship, but I know a couple guys that have done the threesome thing and are still really close. It could go either way.

    Sounds like you're already close as it is, I'd say go for it. Just make sure you're all comfortable with it to begin with.

    And maybe he has feeling for you, maybe he doesn't. You would know better than us.
  • davidsticky69

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    Mar 22, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    If you are really best friends, talk to him. Open communication will do both of you good in this sticky (no pun intended) situation. He is not an idiot ( I assume) to not know what an m/f/m entails, especially when he initiated the offer. If you are keen, tell him that so as to reassure his confidence (you mentioned he was shy)

    Good luck and keep us all updated! PLEASE!

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    Mar 22, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    Baseballguy saidno i don't intend to fool around with him during the threesome. im just sayin it could open things up between me and my friend if we have this 3some.


    You may not be intending to fool around with him but how do you know what his intention is? You have three naked bodies going at it and things happen, if you're OK with all that could happen, then go with it. If he's looking to open the door to dick this would be the perfect opportunity.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 22, 2013 5:55 AM GMT
    "So if I ask this chick if it's okay, are you looking for a spitroast or is one of us going to be lucky pierre?"


    pretty non-commital just ask.
  • MarvelClimber

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    Mar 22, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
    Honestly, it sounds like you're already boyfriends and neither has realized it yet because you're both afraid of taking a chance and ruining the cat and mouse game that you both tortuously enjoy.

    Try to think about what you want in life and the nature of your friendship. Is there a reason you're still in the closet? Is this how you want to live your life? You're in a situation where you want someone to know and your closest friend would be the natural choice. Having someone that really knows you and that you can be completely open with is extremely reassuring. Go through the coming-out threads on here and you'll find that it uplifts your life in ways you couldn't imagine. So far you've been indulging in boyfriend-esque activities without crossing the line. A 3-some is gonna cross that line and it'll be really hard to have a normal convo after that.

    If you continue to intertwine that closeness with lust before being honest with him about who you are, you're likely to end up hurt. Coming out to close friends is one of the quick wins. Take it and use it as a starting point...maybe he's the same way and was afraid to tell you. I mean, a 23 yo, good looking guy that's still a virgin... Does he really want the 3-way or does he just want to be in a sexual situation with you, but can't bring himself to initiate anything?

    If you want this guy in your life long-term, just tell him who you are face-to-face without the guise of a 3-way. You might yourself a happy couple the next day.
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    Mar 22, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    Oh my, the things you bisexuals get up toicon_eek.gif
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    Mar 22, 2013 7:23 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    tru_blu_aussie saidOh my, the things you bisexuals get up toicon_eek.gif
    Aren't you all for polyamory?


    Big difference, but I am all for marriage equalityicon_razz.gif

    But still, the things those bisexuals get up to.; I'm content being a Bona Fide Homosexual, and that's all male on male.icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 22, 2013 7:24 AM GMT
    Just do it and go with the flow mmf is fun
  • wellwell

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    Mar 22, 2013 7:43 AM GMT
    I'm Bi & looking for same (someone, almost, exactly like yourself).

    ...Have yr 3way & find out how much he wants . . .
  • Lucky350

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    Mar 22, 2013 11:25 PM GMT
    Yikes...

    *walking the other way*

    =P
  • MikeW

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    Mar 22, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    Youth is for having adventures like this. I say go for it. Not saying their couldn't be unwanted consequences. There could also be some good ones. Sex should be fun, not drama.
  • camfer

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    Mar 22, 2013 11:43 PM GMT
    If you can't talk with your close friend about you having sex with him now, you surely won't be able to talk about it after you're in a 3-way with him and a girl.
  • mybud

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    Mar 22, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    Bisexuals say duh darnest thangs....
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    Mar 22, 2013 11:47 PM GMT
    Well first off all you two need to have a very quick discussion to lay down the rules. I'm guessing your hook up girl knows you are into guys too.

    Threesomes can be fun and does create dialogue. Other wise it can fail badly.