Is he or is he not :-/

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    Mar 22, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    Hey


    I've been doing gymnastics since the beginning of the semester and I met this guy in my group who's just absolutely jfklfhqfmkzhgFMZgfjskfbkzg ughhh perfect.

    We've been talking a lot during our classes and help each other out when one of us has trouble doing the move or whatever and whenever the class is over, we always wait for each other in the locker room and walk together to the subway.

    Thing is I can't figure out if he's gay or not. For example, one day he forgot his gym pants so I lent him 1$ so he could go borrow one at the front desk and the week after, just as a joke, I said "hey, when am I getting my dollar back" and then he replied by saying "aw shit I forgot but hey, I'll buy you beer" so I was like "oh cool, 1$ the beer? If I would've lent u 5$ u would've bought me 5 beers?" and he was like yeah ;). Is that just normal attitude?. I mean I guess it wouldnt shock me if it was just a random dude who said that to me but since its specifically him and I like him maybe im just imagining the whole thing :/

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    Mar 22, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    Hmmmm, I'd say the ball's in your court now.
    Next time you see him, why don't you say: "Hey, how 'bout that beer you owe me?"

    Sounds to me like he's interested in you...in one way or another.
    Worst thing that could happen is that you develop a closer friendship...could be more, time will tell.
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    Mar 22, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    Please DON'T think too much about this. Sounds like he's just bing a nice guy and y'all have a good friendship going on.

    The whole "buy you a beer" thing. . . COMPLETELY normal behavior. It doesn't sound like he's hitting on you, just being friendly.
    Maybe he's gay and has a thing for you, maybe he isn't; just play it out and see what happens.
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    Ah the eternal question. Some straight guys are VERY comfortable with their sexuality. They may drop hints without realizing it, especially if they don;t know you're gay. In my experience, it;s not wise to play the guessing game, just straight up ask.
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:36 AM GMT
    i think you're letting your imagination get the best of you--- trust me. i work with a whole bunch of guys and they do like to flirt. but it's only that. don't read into it. cherish the friendship you have with the hot guy now--- FYI, hot guys like hanging out with other hot guys and he may have a buddy that'll go "our" way...

    good luck! xoxo
  • Apparition

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    Mar 22, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    Doesnt facebook solve this problem? Or just borrow his phone and look at his apps, or ask his friends, or whatever. A simple non-commital way is just at some random point say....hey dude we talk all the time and I dont even know you. where you from? Hows school going? "you got a girlfriend or boyfriend?'
    are you looking for one?....



    this is a lot easier if you are out and he knows YOU are gay. I would definitely start with that. Have you let him know that yet? Flaunt the rainbow and see if he reacts if you arent.


    If you are and he knows...there are ways to ask someone without asking them, by asking if they "know anyone" instead of asking him himself.

    I got one guy quite easily that way.

    "Man, i could really use some lovin right about now. Not even really picky who, just a nice guy, with big strong hands willing to massage my sore muscles, who would go down on me at the end and then sit back and let me do the same for him...know anybody who would be up for that? " and then stare at him.

    (the boy I said that to said "ME?" as a response, which of course was what i wanted. )

    If the guy is straight he will laugh, if he is gay and been waiting to break the tension you will be able to see it in his head.
  • pharmstudent

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    Mar 22, 2013 7:25 AM GMT
    I think he is. If this was basketball or football I'd not push you as much but we're talking about gymnastics here, which tend to attract a lot more gay dudes or curious dudes. So he's already on our "your" territory.
  • imbrad

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    Mar 22, 2013 8:18 AM GMT
    Omg... Go have a damn beer icon_rolleyes.gif just enjoy... Don't pot so much pressure on the hypothetical.
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    Mar 22, 2013 9:14 AM GMT
    imbrad saidOmg... Go have a damn beer icon_rolleyes.gif just enjoy... Don't pot so much pressure on the hypothetical.


    this!
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    Mar 22, 2013 9:48 AM GMT
    Mac1986 said
    imbrad saidOmg... Go have a damn beer icon_rolleyes.gif just enjoy... Don't pot so much pressure on the hypothetical.


    this!


    +++3
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 22, 2013 10:37 AM GMT
    ha ha ha buddy, it sounds like is just being friendly. does he know that you are gay? that is my question to you. if he knows that you are gay then find out if he is gay.
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    Mar 22, 2013 11:16 AM GMT
    Slim2010 saidPlease DON'T think too much about this. Sounds like he's just bing a nice guy and y'all have a good friendship going on.

    The whole "buy you a beer" thing. . . COMPLETELY normal behavior. It doesn't sound like he's hitting on you, just being friendly.
    Maybe he's gay and has a thing for you, maybe he isn't; just play it out and see what happens.



    Agreed ^^
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    Mar 22, 2013 2:27 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidha ha ha buddy, it sounds like is just being friendly. does he know that you are gay? that is my question to you. if he knows that you are gay then find out if he is gay.



    No he doesn't know (officially) but maybe he guesses. A friend of mine watched me during a class and said that my flips have a slightly feminine connotation, haha
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    Mar 22, 2013 2:29 PM GMT
    Apparition saidDoesnt facebook solve this problem? Or just borrow his phone and look at his apps, or ask his friends, or whatever. A simple non-commital way is just at some random point say....hey dude we talk all the time and I dont even know you. where you from? Hows school going? "you got a girlfriend or boyfriend?'
    are you looking for one?....



    this is a lot easier if you are out and he knows YOU are gay. I would definitely start with that. Have you let him know that yet? Flaunt the rainbow and see if he reacts if you arent.


    If you are and he knows...there are ways to ask someone without asking them, by asking if they "know anyone" instead of asking him himself.

    I got one guy quite easily that way.

    "Man, i could really use some lovin right about now. Not even really picky who, just a nice guy, with big strong hands willing to massage my sore muscles, who would go down on me at the end and then sit back and let me do the same for him...know anybody who would be up for that? " and then stare at him.

    (the boy I said that to said "ME?" as a response, which of course was what i wanted. )

    If the guy is straight he will laugh, if he is gay and been waiting to break the tension you will be able to see it in his head.



    yeah but i mean i dont feel that close to him to just randomly take his phone and start going through his apps
    and he wouldn't be on those kinda apps cuz he's a very atypical kinda guy, very pro-nature and stuff like that
    for example he refuses to use the escalator when we take the subway but would rather take the stairs icon_smile.gif
    isn't he just absolutely adorable????? aww
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    Mar 22, 2013 3:06 PM GMT
    Chances are he is not gay. Just playing the percentages of gay vs. straight. It's like roulette but only one space is red out of every 10 black spaces. It is much more likely he is straight than he is gay.

    If he knows you're gay, then you probably have a much easier time of this.

    I'd probably do something like that guy suggested above, but less extreme. Say you are sore from gymnastics, and that you wish you had a boyfriend with strong hands that could give you a massage. Don't build it up to a big thing or anything. It will be as big a deal and as awkward as you make it. Don't make it a big deal.

    -Joey
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    Mar 22, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    Isn't it obvious? He wants to see you outside of class and have you drunk so he can have his way with you. Can't you read between the lines??
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    Mar 22, 2013 5:20 PM GMT
    Blow jobs are a leading indicator when trying to figure out if someone is gay or not, also works to figure out if they're into you.
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    Mar 22, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
    sammy_asare said
    Mac1986 said
    imbrad saidOmg... Go have a damn beer icon_rolleyes.gif just enjoy... Don't pot so much pressure on the hypothetical.


    this!


    +++3


    +4
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 24, 2013 12:44 AM GMT
    Seric said
    sammy_asare said
    Mac1986 said
    imbrad saidOmg... Go have a damn beer icon_rolleyes.gif just enjoy... Don't pot so much pressure on the hypothetical.


    this!


    +++3


    +4


    +5 don't fuck up a good thing
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    Mar 24, 2013 12:50 AM GMT
    Ask him if he has a GF, or just FB friend him and do some stalking.
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    Mar 24, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod said
    Seric said
    sammy_asare said
    Mac1986 said
    imbrad saidOmg... Go have a damn beer icon_rolleyes.gif just enjoy... Don't pot so much pressure on the hypothetical.


    this!


    +++3


    +4


    +5 don't fuck up a good thing


    +6 and make sure you carry condoms with you at all times.
  • Tombo

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    Mar 25, 2013 7:54 AM GMT
    What happened to good old fashioned ASKING?
  • tautomer

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    Mar 25, 2013 7:59 AM GMT
    Let him know your gay offhandedly is the first step. If you're lucky, he'll be gay too and inform you as such. If not, just build a friendship.
  • WApilot

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    Mar 25, 2013 8:21 AM GMT
    I'd say just ask him... I mean, don't straight up come at him with "are you gay?" no. Since you both are still getting to know each other you can easily get a ton of information about him by just asking nonchalant questions while in conversation as well as pay attention to his reaction to some of your questions.

    Since he owes you a beer, call him out on it next time you meet, like "hey man, when are we gonna get that beer?" when he makes the time and date (calendar date) to meet up, then while you're having a drink just talk about who each of you are, maybe hint at a previous relationship you've had, ask him about his gf if he has one... With all this being said, it's probably easier if you're out and he's out, but, worst case scenario, he's just a friendly straight guy. Don't run him off, just talk to him without being forceful about it
  • ASHDOD

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    Mar 25, 2013 8:41 AM GMT
    after the fifth beer ,you will know [and he will know about you] icon_smile.gif