Is this really happening? or just my overactive imagination..

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    Mar 22, 2013 4:55 AM GMT
    My str8 roommate took me to Lifetime fitness for the first time. (He teaches tennis as a job there) & I encountered this one dude about 6 times.


    When we were done working out, we walked back to the men's locker room and I noticed this really gorgeous looking man. He had a very tone muscular body. His face was sex like Daniel Conn (He was like a 9.9 on my scale)

    I can see him from the corner of my eye across the mirror at another section of the room. I looked away, didn't wanna freak him out.

    Then I get to the steam room and 5 min later he walks in and sits next to me. I had to pry my eyes off his big muscular thighs peeking through his towel. I pretended to make oblivious turn of the head to check him out. He'd make little turn of the head, but I didn't wanna make eye contact and make it awkward especially if he's str8!

    Then I get into the shower and chooses the shower stall right across mine! I can see his head through the curtains.

    After changing I go up to the mirror to put moisturizer of my face and still see him at the corner of my eye in the mirror. Then I walk back to my locker and see him up at the same mirror I was just at.

    THEN!!! My roommate and I were walking out the building and I was behind him several feet. My roommate opens the door and walks out and a guy behind him holds the door open for me. He went out of his way to turn around and look at me. I see his face and it's THE SAME DUDE. I smile and thank him and go our separate ways... sadly. But at that point I'm like wtf is happening??!

    Am I being Black Swan and hallucinating or is he giving me subtle hints? Because now I'm getting a vibe of attraction. And even if he was what was I supposed to do? We're at fitness center, not exactly Club Amsterdam.

    How would you have handled this situation?
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    Mar 22, 2013 5:29 AM GMT
    well guess I am just delusional
  • Apparition

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    Mar 22, 2013 5:49 AM GMT
    francoshells saidwell guess I am just delusional



    kind of impatient for 1am dude/


    Anyway, unlike the entire forum full of bottom boys in the other topic who all said they wanted "someone to approach them" you man up and take what you want.

    You extend your hand and say, "Hi, my name's Franco" and after he shakes and he doesn't dismiss you, you say, "If your are straight, or I've been reading your body language wrong all day, don't worry about it, but if you've been trying to flirt with me all day just let me know, because I so need some fun this week. "



  • calibro

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    Mar 22, 2013 1:44 PM GMT
    delusional... or desperate
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    Mar 22, 2013 1:48 PM GMT
    I always make up a fake "did you by any chance work at...? Your face looks really familiar." Or if the guy appears to be my age I'll ask if they went to my college, again, with the whole familiarity slant. Oftentimes the guy is married but is just a really friendly guy. In fact, the straighter he is, the better the conversation tends to go, of course.
  • davidsticky69

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    Mar 22, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    Okay. I think the REAL problem here is... how is Daniel Conn a 9.9 on your scale? Or is your scale capped at 20 ?

    To stay relevant to your question, I think you are maybe reading too much into it. Play it cool and just perhaps start with a few casual exchanges the next time you see him around at the gym. Friendship before f*ck is never a bad thing.
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    Mar 22, 2013 5:21 PM GMT
    calibro saiddelusional... or desperate

    Both?
  • gwuinsf

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    Mar 22, 2013 6:56 PM GMT
    I would have said "Thanks, I'm Greg" I probably would have complimented him on his body. He'll either take it as a compliment or if he's gay take it as you flirting with him.

    But honestly, I think you're reading too much into it. People don't stalk each other like that in the gym. You either make eye contact and cruise or it's just coincidence. They don't think "OH! I'm going to use the mirror that that hot guy just used to show him I'm interested".
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    Mar 22, 2013 7:24 PM GMT
    You can't make assumptions on just one day. But best of luck.
  • mybud

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    Mar 22, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    You puttin moisturizer of your face in the locker room...He knows you're gay...he's bein a cock tease...Don't hope for more...just being honest with the information you provided....
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    Mar 22, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    loL Some of you guy's response are funny. Most of you we're str8 forward and honest (which I really appreciate a lot)

    davidsticky69 I think you're right friendship before fucking is never a bad thing.
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    Mar 22, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    francoshells saidwell guess I am just delusional


    Yup. Pretty much. It's probably a coincidence.
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    Mar 22, 2013 8:36 PM GMT
    It's happened to me before. It's most likely a coincidence. If you didn't make eye contact or say anything, then you don't really know. People often seem to have a routine in the locker room. He probably just following his routine, and it happened to sync up with yours. If you see him in the gym in the future, then you can make eye contact, smile, or say hi. You may not want to do this in the locker room as it can have unintended consequences. LOL

  • Mar 22, 2013 8:46 PM GMT
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    How would you have handled this situation?[/quote]

    Service his cock when you were in the steam room with hiim... or at least grab it and then exchange email outside. icon_evil.gif

    I think it's pretty obvious he had interest in you... just waiting who is going to break the ice. You can always engage in a friendly conversation first.
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    Mar 22, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    Sounds like some confirmation bias is going on here as well as projection...

    From what you've said here it all sounds like you were seeing what you wanted to see.

    There is no evidence in what you said that he was checking you out.
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    Mar 22, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidFriends before fucking is never a bad thing?



    Yea because if I come at him in a friend seeking manner, then he'd prolly feel more comfortable and it opens the possibilities for more whatever it may be. But if I came at him a sexual way, well it might just get awkward instantly if he's str8 or if he's not even attracted to me.


    And reading back at my post it does sound like all these events are brush-off coincidental. The only reason why I posted this was that last moment when he held the door for me. He didn't just open the door and held it at the tip of hand, glance back, and saw someone behind him; he turned his whole body around and gave me eye contact. It may sound like I could be dramatizing it but I'm really not loL. But oh we'll I just wants to see how much o you would think something off it too and what you would have done.
  • jtz03932

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    Mar 22, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    ummm why dont you strike a conversation with him... why does it have to be sex even if the opportunity is there. Hold back the raging hormones for sakes.
  • calibro

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    Mar 22, 2013 10:08 PM GMT
    smartmoney said
    calibro saiddelusional... or desperate

    Both?


    delusperate
  • TheBizMan

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    Mar 22, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    Hahaha gay guys and their little delusions that every other man is also gay.... *sigh* icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 22, 2013 10:46 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidSay "hello". icon_wink.gif


    Works for me icon_smile.gif

    OP I have seen this topic posted so many times. It really is sad that we live in such a world that we can't even say hello without feeling awkward.

    If He's gay and interested he will say hello back, just make sure you have a question or statement to say next ( the art of communication).

    If he is straight and friendly he will say hello back, again be ready for conversation as this is the only way to discover his intentions or make a new friend.

    Set your out come expectations low and you should have no problem sparking up some conversation.

    I personally love to flirt with woman I dont know, I have no expectations and both them and I always have a great time. Guys are another matter completely as I am always second guessing them so my communications skills check out usually.

    It is amazing what we are capable of when we feel we have nothing to loose.
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    Mar 22, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    If it doesn't go the way you want you have the basis for some gay fantasy literature

    Some suggested titles

    I lost my tennis balls....but didn't kick up a raquet

    Love forty....let's get naughty

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    Mar 22, 2013 10:59 PM GMT
    ozmuscle2 saidIf it doesn't go the way you want you have the basis for some gay fantasy literature

    Some suggested titles

    I lost my tennis balls....but didn't kick up a raquet

    Love forty....let's get naughty




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  • Kel_

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    Mar 22, 2013 11:13 PM GMT
    I think some people out there are just plain courteous to one another.

    Take for example the time I was grabbing a hot dog from the street vendor. I was behind this attractive guy and his friend, and while I was waiting, he turned around and smiled at me. I, of course, smiled back. I had a feeling he wanted to chat, but his friend was with him.
    Didn't think anything of it, but simply someone sharing a smile.
  • gwuinsf

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    Mar 22, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidFriends before fucking is never a bad thing?


    Just having hot friends is never a bad thing either.
  • jtz03932

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    Mar 23, 2013 12:16 AM GMT
    gwuinsf said
    Shawnathan saidFriends before fucking is never a bad thing?


    Just having hot friends is never a bad thing either.


    In the gay world it's the reverse... fucking before friends.