i am gay or not?

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    Mar 22, 2013 10:22 AM GMT
    Hi guys, my name is "Mko" and i am 21. I am from Middle East but i live in Romania. I found out about this part of me from many years ago but so far i never could to have sex or to be in a relationship with some guy because i am little bit affraid (there are more reasons like: family,religion, traditions,community,friends and more.) of all this and i didn`t found the perfect guy for me. you know, that educated, smart, nice, funny and stabile guy in relationship. And as i saw it`s very hard to find that kind of guy because they are few. I really wanna change all this from my mind but i can`t. it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl but... i still believe that one day i will make it by finding that guy.
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    Mar 22, 2013 12:26 PM GMT
    First of all, are you Bi? if you are(since you have mentioned "it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl") it doesn't make any sense...unless you choose man instead of woman, you want to live for the rest of your life

    But, if you're gay, don't sacrifice your life to pretend not to be gay & don't ruin a girl's life.
    you're still 21, I'm sure you'll find someone.

    Of course you have many reasons to be afraid & so am I. When the time comes we have to overcome it. Because when we are afraid of something, we can't do what we want to do, what we love. Be strong ;)
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    Mar 22, 2013 12:33 PM GMT
    i think i am gay but i don`t accept that so far. and not because i am not ok with it that just because of society. thank you for support Harry! icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 22, 2013 12:39 PM GMT
    Mkoo saidi think i am gay but i don`t accept that so far. and not because i am not ok with it that just because of society. thank you for support Harry! icon_smile.gif


    I didn't get it!
    do you mean, you don't accept that you're gay because of the society in which you're living in?
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    Mar 22, 2013 1:26 PM GMT
    I understand what you are saying. You say that "it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl", but I think you know that this is only a short-term solution. If you have these feelings for boys, you are never going to be able to commit yourself 100% to a relationship with a girl. The sex will not feel right, you will start watching gay porn, visiting sites like this one..... then it will come out, maybe lead to a scandal, but certainly lead to an end to the relationship, so the end result will be worse. Move to a big city, where there are more opportunities to meet guys. Also, things are slowly getting better for gays. Twenty years into the future, who knows where we might be - definitely better than today, I think! So you will regret if you get into a relationship with a girl and then see, in the future, that things are not so bad for gays. The main thing is to be true to yourself, then you will never have anything to "beat yourself up" about.
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    Mar 22, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    Harry7785 said
    Mkoo saidi think i am gay but i don`t accept that so far. and not because i am not ok with it that just because of society. thank you for support Harry! icon_smile.gif


    I didn't get it!
    do you mean, you don't accept that you're gay because of the society in which you're living in?


    I think he means he doesn't accept himself because society has brainwashed him since the day he was born..

    @Mkoo

    Everyone has a different way of accepting themselves.. Find yours, start asking yourself questions.. Start answering your own questions! icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 22, 2013 1:38 PM GMT
    I know exactly how you are feeling- I could copy your post and it would be a good reflection of my feelings too. The trick as I've found is to keep looking- most gay guys quite frankly don't cut the mustard, but there are those few gems that make the search worth it. The one thing I'm keeping in mind is that before I do anything intimate (with a guy or a girl) I want to make sure I dont regret it afterwards. Good luck bro- I'm sure you will be able to find some sexy eastern European! (which I think have the best looks btw)
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    Mar 22, 2013 1:39 PM GMT
    Mkoo saidHi guys, my name is "Mko" and i am 21. I am from Middle East but i live in Romania. I found out about this part of me from many years ago but so far i never could to have sex or to be in a relationship with some guy because i am little bit affraid (there are more reasons like: family,religion, traditions,community,friends and more.) of all this and i didn`t found the perfect guy for me. you know, that educated, smart, nice, funny and stabile guy in relationship. And as i saw it`s very hard to find that kind of guy because they are few. I really wanna change all this from my mind but i can`t. it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl but... i still believe that one day i will make it by finding that guy.


    You cannot be your true self if you are afraid

    Fear of family, fear of religion, fear of traditions, fear of community, fear of friends.... That's a LOT of fear. Fear kills the truth. Be brave. Be you. Fear nothing EXCEPT the horror of hiding your truth and killing your spirit and avoiding your happiness.

    You cannot find what you seek if you are seeking from inside a lie, trapped in fear.
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    Mar 22, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    Mkoo saidHi guys, my name is "Mko" and i am 21. I am from Middle East but i live in Romania. I found out about this part of me from many years ago but so far i never could to have sex or to be in a relationship with some guy because i am little bit affraid (there are more reasons like: family,religion, traditions,community,friends and more.) of all this and i didn`t found the perfect guy for me. you know, that educated, smart, nice, funny and stabile guy in relationship. And as i saw it`s very hard to find that kind of guy because they are few. I really wanna change all this from my mind but i can`t. it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl but... i still believe that one day i will make it by finding that guy.


    Same here man, but I’m taking it a day at a time... I'm learning more about how I feel and gradually i know I'll fully embrace it without any fear or doubt. Just take it a day at time buddy.
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    Mar 22, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidFirst of all, are you Bi? if you are(since you have mentioned "it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl") it doesn't make any sense...unless you choose man instead of woman, you want to live for the rest of your life

    But, if you're gay, don't sacrifice your life to pretend not to be gay & don't ruin a girl's life.
    you're still 21, I'm sure you'll find someone.

    Of course you have many reasons to be afraid & so am I. When the time comes we have to overcome it. Because when we are afraid of something, we can't do what we want to do, what we love. Be strong ;)


    This.
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    Mar 22, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    Most likely you're gay..

    Don't think about it twice, embrace it
  • jakekid123

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    Mar 22, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    I think I know your position. I was in a similar situation until last year. Until you fully accept that you are gay (assuming you are), it is impossible to try and come out. Once you stop second guessing yourself, you will realize it's healthiest for you, and those around you, to come out.
    It will feel great once you reach that point, until then, I would say look to those who are gay and out. They may be good role models and help you reach you point of acceptance with yourself. This is what helped me.

    Remember, we are identified by MANY things other than gay.
  • GAYROMANIA

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    Mar 22, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    Hi Mko

    Well I would like to say that Romania is more accepted towards gay people even churches are welcoming so doesn't matter what your sexuality is. You have a few gay bars and clubs in Bucuresti so that's one place you can meet new people and making friends.

    I'm gay 26 and I'm Romanian and I come from a small farming village called Gurbediu, Commune Tinca, Bihor County. It's near Salonta and not far from Oradea.

    Everybody knows I'm gay and they are all fine with it so yes the Romanian society does accept you.

    Even with Bucuresti gay pride is getting better and better every year so things are changing for the good.

    So if you are gay then please accept yourself for who you are.

    Thank you Alin x
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    Mar 22, 2013 3:06 PM GMT
    Any n00dz?
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    Mar 22, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    thank you very much for the answers and telling me your opinion and advices about it.i really needed the opinion of other people. maybe i didn`t made me clear because i have too much to say and everything is mixed in my mind and my life. as most of you told i think that i have to accept myself that maybe will be the hardest part and stay strong.
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    MKoo you need a good rimming and you'll know for sure... that the answer is YES!

    ..You are expressing homosexual reservations in a public forum.. !!

    ..Stay away from girls and guys till you figure out what you want!!

    It's not fair to USE people for the sake of YOUR self discovery!!
    Easier to muk up some poor girls life while you "Dream of Sausages" ??

    Come on GurL..Git' it together or be patient!
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    It wouldn't hurt to meet guys. A date or two just to see how it differs from dating a woman. If you can have a friend who you can always talk to who will have an unbiased opinion will help as well. Someone who can help you see things from different perspectives.

    Don't think that having sex with a guy will answer your problems, or running away from your hearts desires too. Explore enough so that you don't feel like you are getting in over your head.
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidIt wouldn't hurt to meet guys. A date or two just to see how it differs from dating a woman. If you can have a friend who you can always talk to who will have an unbiased opinion will help as well. Someone who can help you see things from different perspectives.

    Don't think that having sex with a guy will answer your problems, or running away from your hearts desires too. Explore enough so that you don't feel like you are getting in over your head.


    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Isn't this how most of us get hurt?
    ..Hurt by that one guy who has no clue what he wants.. icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    Anocxu said
    MidwesternKid saidIt wouldn't hurt to meet guys. A date or two just to see how it differs from dating a woman. If you can have a friend who you can always talk to who will have an unbiased opinion will help as well. Someone who can help you see things from different perspectives.

    Don't think that having sex with a guy will answer your problems, or running away from your hearts desires too. Explore enough so that you don't feel like you are getting in over your head.


    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Isn't this how most of us get hurt?
    ..Hurt by that one guy who has no clue what he wants.. icon_confused.gif


    Unless something has changed drastically in the decades since I went on a date, how do you get hurt going out with someone once or twice? If it doesn't work you both move on, you don't have a lot invested in it.
  • hawkeye7

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    Mar 22, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    the last two guys just said much of what I would
    you are 21,there is nothing that you have to make up your mind on today

    What you do need to do is live, not in fear but in a world that you want.
    I know it is a line but, there is nothing to fear but fear itself.
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    Come on Showme.. put my the post in context.!!

    ..the op stated he might do what is "easier" for him.

    "it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl but... i still believe that one day i will make it by finding that guy."

    ^^^^^^^^^
    How responsible does this sound to you?
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    Mkoo saidi think i am gay but i don`t accept that so far. and not because i am not ok with it that just because of society. thank you for support Harry! icon_smile.gif


    Lol. There is only one test: do the guys on RJ make your cock hard?

    Yes or no. That simple.
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:46 PM GMT
    read this book:

    http://www.amazon.com/Answers-Frequently-Questions-Lesbian-Edition/dp/0060832800/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1363970730&sr=8-1&keywords=is+it+a+choice
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    Mar 22, 2013 4:59 PM GMT
    Mkoo saidi think i am gay but i don`t accept that so far. and not because i am not ok with it that just because of society. thank you for support Harry! icon_smile.gif


    When you masterbate what do you fantasize about: Men or women? If it is predominately men, accept the fact that you are gay and live your life according to your orientation. To try and do otherwise is sheer folly and a recipe for disaster. Many have gone down that road only to fail.You can't pray it away. Wish it away, Ignore it away. It is who you are.

    There I just saved you thousands in psycoanalysis fees, divorce attorney fees, etc. You're welcome.
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    Mar 22, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
    Mkoo saidHi guys, my name is "Mko" and i am 21. I am from Middle East but i live in Romania. I found out about this part of me from many years ago but so far i never could to have sex or to be in a relationship with some guy because i am little bit affraid (there are more reasons like: family,religion, traditions,community,friends and more.) of all this and i didn`t found the perfect guy for me. you know, that educated, smart, nice, funny and stabile guy in relationship. And as i saw it`s very hard to find that kind of guy because they are few. I really wanna change all this from my mind but i can`t. it will be more easy for me to be in relationship with a girl but... i still believe that one day i will make it by finding that guy.


    Here's an easy, easy, easy, way to tell your sexuality. If you jerk off to guys, you're gay...period.

    You're making this way too hard (no pun intended). Your dick knows. Now, get on with your life.