new yorks men - is it really impossible to find a date in ny?

  • hotshorts85

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    Mar 22, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    i give it up, or has someone any idea?!?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 22, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    If you can't make it there, you can't make it anywhere.

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    Mar 22, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    If you can't find one here, then go to Florida. it's where I found my guy. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 23, 2013 3:29 AM GMT
    I've been in NYC for a little over a year. I've gone on a couple dates and actually met a guy who was super awesome who I've been seeing on and off since february last year. And this was on Grindr and Scruff, no less.

    But I feel you. I'm 25 and still never had a boyfriend and with a New Yorkers schedule, dates are hard to come by. icon_confused.gif

    I'm sure you've seen what happens when spring time comes in New York. Couples making out everywhere! And summertime...PLAYGROUND!
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    Mar 23, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    dude, is that right? i've been told by people that live in new york that it's easy to date and get laid. are you using online dating sites? try going over to the lgbt center or looking for groups to meet up other gay guys such as the meetup.com site. i'm 100 percent sure that you WILL be able to find a date or two if you try hard enough.

    as a jersey guy that lives not too far from the city, i think you have it a BIT more easier than us jersey guys do. there's tons of gay guys in manhattan. TONS. try living out here where you have to look for where all the gay guys are at. it's hard to find gay guys out here in the jerz. icon_cry.gif just be happy that you live in new york or a city with a large lgbt population.

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    Mar 23, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    scaredmidget saiddude, is that right? i've been told by people that live in new york that it's easy to date and get laid.



    Laid is one thing. Dating...whole other monster. I feel like finding something consistant is super hard in New York for whole host of reasons. One being that New York is a very gay city where you'll find someone hotter, richer, taller, muscular, than the last guy just around the corner. Also, everyone is on the go. Dates? Ain't nobody got time fah dat!
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    All of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???
  • tomjack

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    Mar 23, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    try posting a face pic... not just a body shot..
  • heyom

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    Mar 23, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    I always get dates in NY, it's much easier to date there than any other city I've been to. People there seem much more accepting of all manner of types and origins of people and aren't very judgemental nor afraid to be themselves. (at least, that's how I experience the place, but I also admit that might be due to the areas I go to.)
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary for the first time. Wish I could just forget about him.
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary. Wish I could just forget about him.


    Seems there is an epidemic of suicide going on right now. Sorry for the loss.
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:18 AM GMT
    heyom said
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary. Wish I could just forget about him.


    Seems there is an epidemic of suicide going on right now. Sorry for the loss.


    Blah.
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary for the first time. Wish I could just forget about him.


    could you blame him? ?
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary for the first time. Wish I could just forget about him.


    could you blame him? ?


    Fuck you faggot.
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:22 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary for the first time. Wish I could just forget about him.


    could you blame him? ?


    Fuck you faggot.


    cry moar rosarita

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    Mar 23, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary for the first time. Wish I could just forget about him.


    could you blame him? ?


    Fuck you faggot.


    cry moar rosarita

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    No wonder why you got your ass beat on the streets. I would have joined in.


    Make sure to tell that to the AF recruiter...
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:27 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary for the first time. Wish I could just forget about him.


    could you blame him? ?


    Fuck you faggot.


    cry moar rosarita

    icon_biggrin.gif


    No wonder why you got your ass beat on the streets. I would have joined in.


    Make sure to tell that to the AF recruiter...


    yeah because your kind relies to group pussy faggot pack bully mentality and can't fight one on one
    stick to the streets, where you belong, scumbag
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    Well, this thread just got hijacked! icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    I'm in NY a lot. I'm from Jersey City and I've met up with guys from Brooklyn, Queens, and the Bronx... Manhattan? That really is a different story, it's very competitive there.
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    timshel said
    jmusmc85 said
    unfounded7 said
    jmusmc85 saidAll of you stfu. NYC is no different than any other big city out there. It's what you make of it. There are plenty of couples out there, how do you think they started dating?

    Jesus H Christ....


    Time to change your tampon???


    No. These idiots just keep having the same discussion over and over.

    I haven't had much success dating in Miami. I don't chalk it up to being in this city. Hell, my last would be date killed himself. Do I blame Florida?

    And just to let you know, the above reason is why I'm a little off tonite. Saw his obituary for the first time. Wish I could just forget about him.


    could you blame him? ?


    Fuck you faggot.


    cry moar rosarita

    icon_biggrin.gif


    No wonder why you got your ass beat on the streets. I would have joined in.


    Make sure to tell that to the AF recruiter...


    yeah because your kind relies to group pussy faggot pack bully mentality and can't fight one on one
    stick to the streets, where you belong, scumbag


    Bitch, you're acting like I was actually there.

    And did you go by the name Shell before?
  • MidwesternKid

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    Mar 23, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    You are 24, and giving up?

    Go have some fun and think about a boyfriend later.
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:47 AM GMT
    NYC is like any other major city... if anything I think it's EASIER to meet men here... the problem is schedule, more than anything else. Are your lives and schedules in sync? Where are you inflexible - where do you compromise?

    The 'better', cuter, hotter, richer, bs story is in any major city. At least here there's a well represented cultural variety (in terms of people and art/music/etc). If you're swimming in the wrong pool - go try another one. Here there are thousands.

    I moved back to NYC from CT because I was single. Dating for gay men is a challenge anywhere(!) but most arguments agains NYC for dating are bogus and silly. If you want a relationship, you will find other men that do as well.

    No other city offers a greater variety of ways to meet people in general. Learn to use your resources intelligently. Sometimes the inability to meet other compatible people means one needs to work on oneself for a while. That's ok too. Sometimes it's when you "give up" that unexpected good surprises happen. It's happened for me again and again.

    Good luck!
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    Mar 23, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    manboynyc saidNYC is like any other major city... if anything I think it's EASIER to meet men here... the problem is schedule, more than anything else. Are your lives and schedules in sync?

    The 'better', cuter, hotter, richer, bs story is in any major city. At least here there's a well represented cultural variety (in terms of people and art/music/etc). If you're swimming in the wrong pool - go try another one.

    I moved back to NYC from CT because I was single. Dating for gay men is a challenge anywhere(!) but most arguments agains NYC for dating are bogus and silly. If you want a relationship, you will find other men that do as well.

    No other city offers a greater variety of ways to meet people in general. Learn to use your resources intelligently. Sometimes being single also means one needs to work on oneself for a while. That's ok too. Sometimes it's when you "give up" that unexpected good surprises happen. It has for me.

    Good luck!


    He said it much more elequantly than I did...