LoveAndPeace said ...sometimes I feel inadequate whether it be looks,personality, intelligence, money, or clothing...
The last 4 factors mean absolutely nothing at a gay club, unless your clothes look horrible on you
That's not even a little bit true.
At least in the boston/cambridge area intelligence and personality easily put you in high demand. Though obviously those only apply after you start talking to someone.
And fashion sense is a decent way to get noticed though (thankfully for me : ) not a necessity.
But yeah, what other people said.
Always look to better yourself, but don't get caught up in self-loathing or irrational worry. Work what you got with confidence and it will be more than enough to find the right people in your life. ;)