Is my co-worker gay?

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    Mar 25, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    I have a colleague and he's in his late 20's, and I'm confused if he's into guys or not:

    1. He has a soft-spoken voice but with a gentleman-ly tone (He grew up being a mormon, but not anymore).
    2. He socializes well with both guys and girls; an extrovert to say the least.
    3. He is a spiffy dresser.
    4. He doesn't play sports with the guys, but he hangs with us for drinks and stuff.
    5. His facebook says "he's interested in women," but never had a girlfriend since I've known him for over a year and a half.
    6. Recently, the entire team went to a Karaoke bar, and his song of a choice was a George Michael song called 'Faith'. (Ummm... don't gay guys gravitate to George Michael?)

    Yeah, i'm interested in being romantic with the guy, but man I don't know if he's into guys or not.
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    Mar 25, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
    help anyone?
  • Timbales

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    Mar 25, 2013 11:35 PM GMT
    Ask him out.
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    Mar 25, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    Really? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Only he knows, and the only way you're going to find out is to get him to tell you.
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    Mar 25, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    Just ask him. And stop using stereotypes to figure it out...there are many gay men who don't even fit into any "gay category".
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    Mar 25, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    Every man is gay!!!!!!!
  • Apparition

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    Mar 26, 2013 12:01 AM GMT
    "Hey, buddy, if you weren't straight and i was drunker i would SOOOO ask you out, you are sooo my type. You are straight right?"
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    Mar 26, 2013 1:24 AM GMT
    I actually disagree about the bold approach. If the guy is in the closet you might scare him off, causing him to avoid you for fear of being found out. I personally spent a long, long time in the closet and remember the paranoia that goes with it. Tread lightly there...

    That is, if he's gay... he could just be a atypical straight guy. I know quite a few guys that are straight as an arrow, but have a laundry list of stereotypical gay behaviors.

    Your best bet is to take it slow and try to get to know him better. Ask him to hang out outside of work one on one. If he is gay, you need to get him to trust you and he'll be more likely to open up.
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    Mar 26, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    nobody is in the closet in this days and ages. If his facebook says hes interested in woman, that mean hes interested in woman. He could leave it blank if he wanted to keep its a secret.
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    Mar 26, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    BlueJeans90 saidnobody is in the closet in this days and ages. If his facebook says hes interested in woman, that mean hes interested in woman. He could leave it blank if he wanted to keep its a secret.


    I needed a good laugh today. Thanks.
  • honestsweat

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    Mar 26, 2013 1:57 AM GMT
    Don't shit where you eat. Never date a coworker. Ever.
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    Mar 26, 2013 2:02 AM GMT
    FLgator said
    BlueJeans90 saidnobody is in the closet in this days and ages. If his facebook says hes interested in woman, that mean hes interested in woman. He could leave it blank if he wanted to keep its a secret.


    I needed a good laugh today. Thanks.


    you have odd sense of humor, but whatever tickle your pickle icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 26, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    BlueJeans90 said
    FLgator said
    BlueJeans90 saidnobody is in the closet in this days and ages. If his facebook says hes interested in woman, that mean hes interested in woman. He could leave it blank if he wanted to keep its a secret.


    I needed a good laugh today. Thanks.


    you have odd sense of humor, but whatever tickle your pickle icon_biggrin.gif


    What got me was when you said that "nobody is in the closet in this days and ages". It is pretty naive to believe that is true.
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    Mar 26, 2013 2:28 AM GMT
    honestsweat saidDon't shit where you eat. Never date a coworker. Ever.


    Thank you.
  • LJay

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    Mar 26, 2013 2:40 AM GMT
    And you are asking us????

    How would we know??

    My suspicion is that you are wanting something that is not there, but the only way you are going to find out is by getting to know him and bringing up the question. It is completely possible for someone to be all of the things you list and be straight as a stick.
  • toybrian

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    Mar 26, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    Be careful because he is a co-worker and if he is not gay you could lose your job for harassment if he says something to his boss. Just gonna have to throw out some hints and see what he says. Just because he does not play sports or hangs with guys is not a hint.. Just be careful and good luck to you. all I can suggest is ask around to the women and see what they say..
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    Mar 26, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    Shawnathan saidAre there straight guys in San Fran?

    The str8 guys here are actually gay but in the closet str8s icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 26, 2013 3:36 AM GMT
    FLgator said
    BlueJeans90 said
    FLgator said
    BlueJeans90 saidnobody is in the closet in this days and ages. If his facebook says hes interested in woman, that mean hes interested in woman. He could leave it blank if he wanted to keep its a secret.


    I needed a good laugh today. Thanks.


    you have odd sense of humor, but whatever tickle your pickle icon_biggrin.gif


    What got me was when you said that "nobody is in the closet in this days and ages". It is pretty naive to believe that is true.


    it was more of an expression. Its the perfect time to come out, why should stay in the closet and carry around a big burden.
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    Mar 26, 2013 3:45 AM GMT
    Well he's probably not gay but you most certainly are stupid.
  • Import

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    Mar 26, 2013 3:47 AM GMT
    lmao. bro. are u serious?

    You're writing out a list of things about a co-worker? who u suspect is gay?

    are u fucking nuts?
    Just look on grindr while you're at work. And see if his green dot is lit up./ icon_wink.gif
  • RaggedyMan

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    Mar 26, 2013 3:48 AM GMT
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    Mar 26, 2013 6:36 AM GMT
    If he was into you..you'd know!