So sad ;( School teacher Lucy Meadows took her own life after being harassed by the Media for her decision to transition from a man to a woman

  • MiamiRealJock

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    Mar 26, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    All Lucy Meadows ever wanted, she told her friend via emails shared with the Guardian, “was to be me“, the person she always felt she was meant to be, a woman and not the man she had been born 32 years earlier.

    Meadows had undergone gender reassignment surgery, a transition to become female, which lead the school she worked at to send a letter to parents informing them to the new identity of one of their children’s teachers.

    “Mr Upton has recently made a significant change in his life and will be transitioning to live as a woman. After the break, she will return to work as Miss Meadows,” wrote the head of St Mary Magdalen’s C of E school, Karen Hardman.

    What was unforeseen, was that this letter would leak to the press and make national tabloid headlines.

    Meadow’s life was turned upside down into a personal hell as newspapers phoned friends trying to get pictures of her. Her email correspondence suggested she had to go to work early and leave late to avoid media harassment. She would even slip out her back door early in the morning to avoid the press outside her home. She told her friend via email on New Year’s Day, “I know the press offered parents money if they could get a picture of me.”

    She then contacted the Press Complaints Commission (PCC), requesting that journalists and photographers stop hanging around outside her school and home in Accrington, Lancashire.

    Meadows even went as far as releasing the following statement asking for her privacy: This has been a long and difficult journey for me, and it was certainly not an easy decision to make. I’d now ask for my privacy to be respected so that I can continue with my job, which I’m committed to and which I enjoy very much.

    On Tuesday, March 19, Lucy Meadows was found dead in her Accrington home. News of the primary school teacher’s death has sparked widespread anger and calls for a Daily Mail columnist who belittled the teacher in a December article, to be immediately fired.

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    http://thegailygrind.com/2013/03/25/lucy-meadows-transgender-teacher-takes-her-own-life-after-relentless-media-harrasment/
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    Mar 26, 2013 10:16 AM GMT
    This is sad icon_sad.gif
    This is one of the reasons I abhor media...
    Media(not all) will go to any extent to get what they want at any cost...
    All they want is improve their channel ratings & publicity...

    Similar incident took place in Indian many years ago!
    A young man was raped by his class mates & somehow the media got the film taken by one of the witnesses with their mobile phone.
    The victim's mother begged the media to not telecast...but this media didn't care...and whole state watched it on tv on that same day.
    Next day, the victim's mother committed suicide to escape from embarrassment!

    Today the same news channel is one of the most popular news channels in India...
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    Mar 26, 2013 12:44 PM GMT
    I know I'm done with the DailyMail (UK) as a media outlet. They've received my last click. RIP Ms. Meadows.
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    Mar 26, 2013 2:50 PM GMT
    what a horrifying story. i can't believe she couldn't have done more to protect herself other than to write to Press Complaints Commission - there should have been a law in place to protect people like her.

    To actively seek for media and then ending up worse off than started is one story, but a story like this where the person at the heart of all wanted zero publicity is a serious one that should not be passed off as just another tragedy. I hope investigations are being done as to which presses/journalists tried to bribe parents into taking pictures of the teacher plus the ones who were literally stalking her to get a picture out her. The person who leaked the email informing parents about Meadows' new identity should be criminally charged as well.
  • Medjai

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    Mar 26, 2013 2:55 PM GMT
    stevee90 saidwhat a horrifying story. i can't believe she couldn't have done more to protect herself other than to write to Press Complaints Commission - there should have been a law in place to protect people like her.

    To actively seek for media and then ending up worse off than started is one story, but a story like this where the person at the heart of all wanted zero publicity is a serious one that should not be passed off as just another tragedy. I hope investigations are being done as to which presses/journalists tried to bribe parents into taking pictures of the teacher plus the ones who were literally stalking her to get a picture out her. The person who leaked the email informing parents about Meadows' new identity should be criminally charged as well.


    From a legal standpoint, I'm not sure anyone could. No laws were actually broken. It's awful, but I'm not sure anyone will pay.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Mar 26, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    Medjai saidFrom a legal standpoint, I'm not sure anyone could. No laws were actually broken. It's awful, but I'm not sure anyone will pay.


    This is true. Certainly it is a tragic story, and the public has every right to put social pressure on this columnist, but there doesn't appear to be any legal violation. Although you never know, European law tends to be different than American law.

    It would seem to me that if you have gender reassignment surgery, you would need to be very, very emotionally resilient, preparing yourself to deal with any and all manner of questions, concerns, bullying, etc etc. I wonder if such surgeries are tied to mandatory therapy, and if not they should be. A professional mental health worker could have helped, and I wonder if this young lady was being guided by a professional.
  • Medjai

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    Mar 26, 2013 3:13 PM GMT
    TroyAthlete saidThis is true. Certainly it is a tragic story, and the public has every right to put social pressure on this columnist, but there doesn't appear to be any legal violation. Although you never know, European law tends to be different than American law.

    It would seem to me that if you have gender reassignment surgery, you would need to be very, very emotionally resilient, preparing yourself to deal with any and all manner of questions, concerns, bullying, etc etc. I wonder if such surgeries are tied to mandatory therapy, and if not they should be. A professional mental health worker could have helped, and I wonder if this young lady was being guided by a professional.


    It is my understanding that these surgeries cannot be requests by the patient, but are rather prescribed by a licensed psychiatrist. One who apparently failed in this regard.
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    Mar 26, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
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    Medjai saidFrom a legal standpoint, I'm not sure anyone could. No laws were actually broken. It's awful, but I'm not sure anyone will pay.


    This is true. Certainly it is a tragic story, and the public has every right to put social pressure on this columnist, but there doesn't appear to be any legal violation. Although you never know, European law tends to be different than American law.

    It would seem to me that if you have gender reassignment surgery, you would need to be very, very emotionally resilient, preparing yourself to deal with any and all manner of questions, concerns, bullying, etc etc. I wonder if such surgeries are tied to mandatory therapy, and if not they should be. A professional mental health worker could have helped, and I wonder if this young lady was being guided by a professional.




    I agreed , media coverage is not real and even a hot story is forgotten 2 weeks later so mandatory therapy should be linked to something so permanently life changing .She obviously jumped into it emotional unprepared. Another personality type would have flourished in the press coverage and sold the movie and book rights.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Mar 26, 2013 3:24 PM GMT
    Medjai said
    It is my understanding that these surgeries cannot be requests by the patient, but are rather prescribed by a licensed psychiatrist. One who apparently failed in this regard.


    Is that true in Britain though? It's a lot easier to get surgeries overseas than it is in the States.

    Having a client commit suicide does not mean the clinician "failed." Sometimes there is nothing you can do.

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    Mar 26, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    He was in a fragile state..
    The media attention made it worse..
    Very sad. icon_cry.gif
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    Mar 26, 2013 3:46 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    TroyAthlete said
    Medjai saidFrom a legal standpoint, I'm not sure anyone could. No laws were actually broken. It's awful, but I'm not sure anyone will pay.


    This is true. Certainly it is a tragic story, and the public has every right to put social pressure on this columnist, but there doesn't appear to be any legal violation. Although you never know, European law tends to be different than American law.

    It would seem to me that if you have gender reassignment surgery, you would need to be very, very emotionally resilient, preparing yourself to deal with any and all manner of questions, concerns, bullying, etc etc. I wonder if such surgeries are tied to mandatory therapy, and if not they should be. A professional mental health worker could have helped, and I wonder if this young lady was being guided by a professional.




    I agreed , media coverage is not real and even a hot story is forgotten 2 weeks later so mandatory therapy should be linked to something so permanently life changing .She obviously jumped into it emotional unprepared. Another personality type would have flourished in the press coverage and sold the movie and book rights.


    I disagree to this. She received her gender reassignment surgery during Christmas break and the harassment from media started ever since the letter to students and their parents informing them of the identity change of a teacher was distributed before the school started. This story did not lose its fame and die off in a matter of few weeks - she suffered from reporters and journalists trying to take pictures of her for months before she ended her life less than a week ago.

    The cause of her death is not that she did not receive proper psychotherapy after her gender reassignment to deal with the stress associated with such change, but that she was treated like some kind of a circus freak for months by the media. Gender reassignment is an extremely sensitive, personal matter that should only have been alerted to people whom the gender-reassigned individual should feel appropriate about sharing such an intimate information. It's not like Lucy Meadows was a sexual predator that everyone had to be told of her change of identity - she was just a teacher at an elementary school who wanted nothing more than privacy.

    The media - in this case, Daily News and other presses that journalists who were trying to take pictures of her are associated with - is at fault here. This is a horrifying display of abuse of power and invasion of privacy by the media.

    Right now, people are coming up with a petition to fire a journalist from Daily News who ridiculed Lucy Meadows upon getting hold of one of the emails the school sent out to the parents. While I would not go as far as to place complete blame on the journalist for this tragedy, I do believe that he should be removed from his position of respect and influence after his display of obvious biases and bigotry. You can find & sign the petition here:

    http://action.sumofus.org/a/daily-mail-littlejohn-lucy-meadows-intl/

  • MiamiRealJock

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    Mar 27, 2013 12:00 AM GMT
    stevee90 said
    Alpha13 said
    TroyAthlete said
    Medjai saidFrom a legal standpoint, I'm not sure anyone could. No laws were actually broken. It's awful, but I'm not sure anyone will pay.


    This is true. Certainly it is a tragic story, and the public has every right to put social pressure on this columnist, but there doesn't appear to be any legal violation. Although you never know, European law tends to be different than American law.

    It would seem to me that if you have gender reassignment surgery, you would need to be very, very emotionally resilient, preparing yourself to deal with any and all manner of questions, concerns, bullying, etc etc. I wonder if such surgeries are tied to mandatory therapy, and if not they should be. A professional mental health worker could have helped, and I wonder if this young lady was being guided by a professional.




    I agreed , media coverage is not real and even a hot story is forgotten 2 weeks later so mandatory therapy should be linked to something so permanently life changing .She obviously jumped into it emotional unprepared. Another personality type would have flourished in the press coverage and sold the movie and book rights.


    I disagree to this. She received her gender reassignment surgery during Christmas break and the harassment from media started ever since the letter to students and their parents informing them of the identity change of a teacher was distributed before the school started. This story did not lose its fame and die off in a matter of few weeks - she suffered from reporters and journalists trying to take pictures of her for months before she ended her life less than a week ago.

    The cause of her death is not that she did not receive proper psychotherapy after her gender reassignment to deal with the stress associated with such change, but that she was treated like some kind of a circus freak for months by the media. Gender reassignment is an extremely sensitive, personal matter that should only have been alerted to people whom the gender-reassigned individual should feel appropriate about sharing such an intimate information. It's not like Lucy Meadows was a sexual predator that everyone had to be told of her change of identity - she was just a teacher at an elementary school who wanted nothing more than privacy.

    The media - in this case, Daily News and other presses that journalists who were trying to take pictures of her are associated with - is at fault here. This is a horrifying display of abuse of power and invasion of privacy by the media.

    Right now, people are coming up with a petition to fire a journalist from Daily News who ridiculed Lucy Meadows upon getting hold of one of the emails the school sent out to the parents. While I would not go as far as to place complete blame on the journalist for this tragedy, I do believe that he should be removed from his position of respect and influence after his display of obvious biases and bigotry. You can find & sign the petition here:

    http://action.sumofus.org/a/daily-mail-littlejohn-lucy-meadows-intl/



    I had actually come across this story as I was doing my own research on the demonetization of transgender persons in the media and even in our own LGBT community. The sad truth is that as gay men and lesbians have gained a voice in the struggle for equal rights, the transgender community has been left behind in some cases. It is very important to understand that they see themselves as being born into the wrong body, and even though they are physically a man or woman they know in their minds they are the opposite sex.

    For centuries and even up until the middle of the last century homosexuality was considered a psychological disorder. So we should not be quick to judge someone who is transgender as having a psychological disorder. What happened to Ms. Meadows is a direct result of the relentless assault by the media on her private life. They would camp out at her home, write horrific stories about her in the media and worst of all is she couldn't even settle into her new life as a woman after her surgery. What she had struggled her entire life to become, had now become a media spectacle and made her into a circus freak. Although nothing can really be done for poor journalism practices, perhaps new laws will be introduced to penalize such horrific attacks on innocent victims like Ms Meadows. RIP
  • hdurdinr

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    Mar 27, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    So sad to read that. I hope this person is now at peace and free from pain.