WHY ARE UGLY GUYS REJECTED

  • sannn

    Posts: 11

    Mar 26, 2013 12:54 PM GMT
    Hi Dear friends and fellow netizens

    i know we all move and live in a world which is harsh and wants beauty.

    I feel very depressed and shocked to find I am not required by other guys,

    Some guys tell my facial features are chubby some say my face is not manly.

    But many straight guys tell I am good looking but its only the online net gays who refuse my beauty and tell im not hot or good.

    Some say my penis is ugly and small.

    But when they do find me attractive some say my character is too innocent and honest .

    I know each have their likes but its been 13 long lonely years and still no one likes me .

    I am not after sex but at least a friend who wants friendship even if he is not attracted to me .

    Is being ugly so bad even for friendships with gays?

    straights are great but i want to speak about my gay side to gays but no gays are interested .

    Even on dates gays keep staring at other guys from head to toe and tell sorry I have to go my friend is calling.

    I have nothing against anyone but this the truth !

    Have anybody gone through this rejection?

    thank you



    p.s i have felt i am attractive ,guys do stare at me but not gays whom i meet.

  • Karl

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    Mar 26, 2013 1:26 PM GMT
    ugly or not , it depends on how you feel about yourself.
    /thread.
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    Mar 26, 2013 2:14 PM GMT
    Karl saidugly or not , it depends on how you feel about yourself.

    This...

    If you feel good, the whole world looks good
    if you feel bad, everything looks bad
    if you're sad, it feels like everything that is happening around you is happening against you.
    If you feel bore, you don't know how to enjoy with the things around you
    If you feel you're ugly, it feels like everything is disgusted by you
    If you're happy, you'll make others happy
    If you complain on yourself, you didn't understand yourself !

    So, feel good, learn how to enjoy yourself and with your surroundings, complain less, reason more, build confidence.
    If you look closely Beauty is everywhere. Accept yourself & love yourself! :-)

    & BTW, you're not at all ugly!
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    Mar 26, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    I think your'e a little mixed up..
    You have a really Odd mixture of Narcissism and self loathe.

    "I feel shocked to find I am not required by other guys"
    Some guys will like you ..some won't..
    This is how the dating world works.

    "Some say my penis is ugly and small"
    You really should really learn to love your dick!

    "I am not after sex but at least a friend who wants friendship even if he is not attracted to me .Is being ugly so bad even for friendships with gays?"

    You are upset that gays are picky..So are you!
    You totally picked yourself apart to the point where it's messing with your self esteem!


    "straights are great but i want to speak about my gay side to gays but no gays are interested "

    Great friends come in all different sexes,shapes, colors, orientation and sizes

    "Even on dates gays keep staring at other guys from head to toe and tell sorry I have to go my friend is calling"

    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Something tells me you would be an awkward date!!
    Either way you should not be disrespected.

    You have to lighten up!!
    You need to learn how to love and appreciate yourself..(and your penis)

    Btw.. I have been in your shoes.
    Hugz





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    Mar 26, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    you know something. i'll be honest with you because this is on my mind right now. i feel that in the gay community, there's too many men that basically are about that lookism bullshit and they really use it as a basis on how they deal with other people. in order for them to even treat you like a human being where they can have a simple word with you about whatever, they have to think that you're attractive. it's as if they think with their dicks and hearts and not their brains even in simple social situations. it pisses me off, man. i feel as if they are projecting how they feel about themselves onto others and it's fucking lame. like you know, you shouldn't be over obsessed with looking beautiful and how the world sees you to the point where you simply can't even talk to another guy about whatever without looking at how good he looks. it just amazes me.

    i've ran into many gay guys and it's funny how they are when they want you. when they think you're attractive, they act a certain way which you can tell that they like you even if you're not even trying to take it there with them. if they don't think you're attractive, they'll give you an attitude and act all rude and shit. like i don't have time for that. if you feel the need to act out of pocket where i don't even say a word to you without you giving me a weird face like i want your dick or something, then i'll just punch you in the face and kick your ass instead. you know, i really don't got time to deal with assholes and if someone wants to be an asshole towards me, i'll show them what a real asshole is. just because we're both gay doesn't mean that i won't hurt you or treat you like trash if you disrespect me.
  • MikeW

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    Mar 26, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
    It's called "prejudice." Think of all the ways we (meaning human beings) divide the world up into different classes, races, sexes, sexual orientations, ages, religions, nationalities, degrees of 'attractiveness', degrees of 'masculinity' and 'femininity', etc., etc.

    All of us to some degree or another have these prejudices whether we're aware of them or not. All of us to some degree or another have experienced prejudice in one form or another.

    The first step in becoming free of them is watching these prejudices in ourselves. Once we see them, then we can begin to choose not to be driven by them.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 26, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
    how many hideously ugly guys have you asked out OP? Start with one of them. Work your way up to what you want. Or stick with him because hes hot on the inside.
  • sannn

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    Mar 26, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidI think your'e a little mixed up..
    You have a really Odd mixture of Narcissism and self loathe.

    "I feel shocked to find I am not required by other guys"
    Some guys will like you ..some won't..
    This is how the dating world works.

    "Some say my penis is ugly and small"
    You really should really learn to love your dick!

    "I am not after sex but at least a friend who wants friendship even if he is not attracted to me .Is being ugly so bad even for friendships with gays?"

    You are upset that gays are picky..So are you!
    You totally picked yourself apart to the point where it's messing with your self esteem!


    "straights are great but i want to speak about my gay side to gays but no gays are interested "

    Great friends come in all different sexes,shapes, colors, orientation and sizes

    "Even on dates gays keep staring at other guys from head to toe and tell sorry I have to go my friend is calling"

    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Something tells me you would be an awkward date!!
    Either way you should not be disrespected.

    You have to lighten up!!
    You need to learn how to love and appreciate yourself..(and your penis)

    Btw.. I have been in your shoes.
    Hugz





    ..
    Something tells me you would be an awkward date!!
    Either way you should not be disrespected.

    Something tells u i am awkward
    i guess u r the kind of guy i was referring to
    who can never respect.

    .....and you are ordering i should not be disrespected

    bravo!


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    Mar 26, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    Beauti is in the eye of the beholder. There is no accounting for some peoples tastes. Go figure huh?? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 26, 2013 7:06 PM GMT
    While I am the kind of person who looks for physical attractiveness as well as a good personality, I will tell you this.

    Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder.

    When I met my first boyfriend, the first person I ever loved, I didn't think he was anything special. He was pretty plain, not my type at all. We didn't even meet for the purpose of dating. But I spent a lot of time with him, got to know him, and learned about his amazing personality. And the more I fell in love with him, his personality just sort of became him, and he became so beautiful to me. I'm not sure how it happened, he went from someone I wouldn't give a second glance to, to the most handsome guy in the world. Therefore, I believe no one is truly ugly, if you're willing to get to know him.

    I believe that true beauty comes from the heart, and that the more you get to know someone, the more you see their inner beauty. You can meet the most gorgeous guy, but he can be ugly on the inside.

    But I digress, my point is, you've got to show a guy the true you so that he can see your inner beauty. If they're not willing to look past your physical appearance, they're not worth your time.
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    Mar 26, 2013 8:05 PM GMT
    What straight guys say is kind of irrelevant because they are not expected to act on what they say. I find it hard to believe that literally nobody is interested in you. More likely you are approaching guys who have a lot of options. Why do you reject guys yourself?
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 26, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    Because they are too hung up on appearances and fail to embrace their good qualities????
  • Guycicle

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    Mar 26, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    Seriously tho . . . low self-esteem is a total boner killer.
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    Mar 27, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    sannn said
    Anocxu saidI think your'e a little mixed up..
    You have a really Odd mixture of Narcissism and self loathe.

    "I feel shocked to find I am not required by other guys"
    Some guys will like you ..some won't..
    This is how the dating world works.

    "Some say my penis is ugly and small"
    You really should really learn to love your dick!

    "I am not after sex but at least a friend who wants friendship even if he is not attracted to me .Is being ugly so bad even for friendships with gays?"

    You are upset that gays are picky..So are you!
    You totally picked yourself apart to the point where it's messing with your self esteem!


    "straights are great but i want to speak about my gay side to gays but no gays are interested "

    Great friends come in all different sexes,shapes, colors, orientation and sizes

    "Even on dates gays keep staring at other guys from head to toe and tell sorry I have to go my friend is calling"

    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Something tells me you would be an awkward date!!
    Either way you should not be disrespected.

    You have to lighten up!!
    You need to learn how to love and appreciate yourself..(and your penis)

    Btw.. I have been in your shoes.
    Hugz





    ..
    Something tells me you would be an awkward date!!
    Either way you should not be disrespected.

    Something tells u i am awkward
    i guess u r the kind of guy i was referring to
    who can never respect.

    .....and you are ordering i should not be disrespected

    bravo!




    I dont think there was anything disrespectful in Anocxu's reply. You are 33, by now you should know that not every body in this world is going to like you or find you attractive, physically or emotionally. Learn to take criticism, sometimes it helps.

    I agree 100% with what MikeW said.

  • LEANDRO_NJ

    Posts: 1116

    Mar 27, 2013 2:34 AM GMT
    To the OP! Not to be disrespectful but you must suffer from a severe case of low self esteem? you are not ugly at all!!! and your facial features are definitely very masculine looking!

    My current boyfriend what he may lack in looks he more makes up for a dozen personable qualities I like in my type of man.! we started out in a casual friendship, and as our friendship got us closer his inner beauty overshadowed his outer beauty. Lets just say that he is like an ugly ducking turned into a beautiful swan!! every now and then I come across very good looking single gay men, and so far none have being able to measure up to my man! he is still beautiful in my eyes!!
  • sannn

    Posts: 11

    Mar 27, 2013 12:45 PM GMT
    whatever3009 said
    sannn said
    Anocxu saidI think your'e a little mixed up..
    You have a really Odd mixture of Narcissism and self loathe.

    "I feel shocked to find I am not required by other guys"
    Some guys will like you ..some won't..
    This is how the dating world works.

    "Some say my penis is ugly and small"
    You really should really learn to love your dick!

    "I am not after sex but at least a friend who wants friendship even if he is not attracted to me .Is being ugly so bad even for friendships with gays?"

    You are upset that gays are picky..So are you!
    You totally picked yourself apart to the point where it's messing with your self esteem!


    "straights are great but i want to speak about my gay side to gays but no gays are interested "

    Great friends come in all different sexes,shapes, colors, orientation and sizes

    "Even on dates gays keep staring at other guys from head to toe and tell sorry I have to go my friend is calling"

    ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
    Something tells me you would be an awkward date!!
    Either way you should not be disrespected.

    You have to lighten up!!
    You need to learn how to love and appreciate yourself..(and your penis)

    Btw.. I have been in your shoes.
    Hugz





    ..
    Something tells me you would be an awkward date!!
    Either way you should not be disrespected.

    Something tells u i am awkward
    i guess u r the kind of guy i was referring to
    who can never respect.

    .....and you are ordering i should not be disrespected

    bravo!




    I dont think there was anything disrespectful in Anocxu's reply. You are 33, by now you should know that not every body in this world is going to like you or find you attractive, physically or emotionally. Learn to take criticism, sometimes it helps.

    I agree 100% with what MikeW said.



    well thank you for supporting Anocxus reply ,

    u r talking like as though before 30 everybody was interested in u or any guy ,

    which is false ,

    and just because there is a stereotype against 30 ish people does not mean people should not be attracted to me,

    And have you learn't to take criticism?

    Is Criticism only intended for certain people or everyone?

    Is criticism the only thing left on earth for me?

    how can taking criticism help ? Will accepting criticism get me a true friend?

    People always praise criticism but accepting criticism never guarantees anything! not even criticism.

    ty for your efforts of hurting others so easily.



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    Mar 27, 2013 12:55 PM GMT
    Is there a stereotype against guys in their 30s? I guess we are always going on about how the Ninja Turtles were so much better in our day and how you can't find a decent shell suit for love not money...
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    Mar 27, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    Also there have been people who have told me that I am very attractive or my jeans or my t shirt look really good. I thank them and feel good about it but dont let those things get to my head.

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  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 30, 2013 12:07 AM GMT
    Dude, you got to be in it to win it. Get out there and meet guys and fuck those dicks that are shallow douche bags they did you a favor, don't even consider their opinion just keep looking. Base your parameters on those set by shallow douche bags and you'll end up constantly unhappy meeting shallow douche bags. Toss them aside and move on to the next, you'll find someone.
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    Mar 30, 2013 12:57 AM GMT
    Karl saidugly or not , it depends on how you feel about yourself.
    /thread.


    THIS. "Ugly" is a judgement made by one person upon another...usually because the person using the word is (at their core) feeling inferior or superior to others.

    We're all the same. Neither inferior nor superior.
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    Mar 30, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    we're all pink in the inside right?? icon_wink.gif
  • WApilot

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    Apr 01, 2013 6:44 PM GMT
    Here's the answer... YOU HAVE A SHITTY PERSONALITY!!!


    I've met some fugly guys in my life and I'm not saying I'm God's gift to the human race or anything but these guys had a personality that a person could get attached to, they're easy going, friendly, caring, etc...

    Yeah, there are some guys out there to whom look at a person for looks only. I'd say, if you're trying for a relationship, those guys aren't guys you want to be with anyways. But, a real man can compensate for his vanity's short comings by having a stellar personality that could attract even the most shallowest of man.

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    Apr 01, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    Ugly ugly ugly. Neurotic is uglier than getting hit by a shovel. Get over it.
  • jtz03932

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    Apr 02, 2013 6:46 AM GMT
    scaredmidget saidyou know something. i'll be honest with you because this is on my mind right now. i feel that in the gay community, there's too many men that basically are about that lookism bullshit and they really use it as a basis on how they deal with other people. in order for them to even treat you like a human being where they can have a simple word with you about whatever, they have to think that you're attractive. it's as if they think with their dicks and hearts and not their brains even in simple social situations. it pisses me off, man. i feel as if they are projecting how they feel about themselves onto others and it's fucking lame. like you know, you shouldn't be over obsessed with looking beautiful and how the world sees you to the point where you simply can't even talk to another guy about whatever without looking at how good he looks. it just amazes me.

    i've ran into many gay guys and it's funny how they are when they want you. when they think you're attractive, they act a certain way which you can tell that they like you even if you're not even trying to take it there with them. if they don't think you're attractive, they'll give you an attitude and act all rude and shit. like i don't have time for that. if you feel the need to act out of pocket where i don't even say a word to you without you giving me a weird face like i want your dick or something, then i'll just punch you in the face and kick your ass instead. you know, i really don't got time to deal with assholes and if someone wants to be an asshole towards me, i'll show them what a real asshole is. just because we're both gay doesn't mean that i won't hurt you or treat you like trash if you disrespect me.


    Ding ding ding ding. Let's start with an experiment shall we? Two online profiles. Two different profile pictures.

    One profile has the "less attractive face" but he is detailed in his profile listing hobbies, preferences, outlook on life, goals, etc..

    The other one, is white, "attractive" symmetrical masculine Caucasian face, with the very bare minimum on his profile, writing only one sentence, something like "just looking around and seeing what happens".

    Guess which has the most replies? Do the people that messaged the Caucasian guy even care if they are incompatible in terms of interests and hobbies?
  • jtz03932

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    Apr 02, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    Guycicle saidSeriously tho . . . low self-esteem is a total boner killer.


    An attractive guy with a low self-esteem attracts more date-able guys than an ugly guy with a high self-esteem. What's your point?