Husband's Back Home From Hospital! My Thanks To You All!

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    Mar 27, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    After numerous delays and false starts, got him home around 8:30 PM tonight. He's in our own bed now and sleeping. I'd still like to have seen him have another day in the hospital, but I guess a gaggle of doctors can't be wrong.

    A guy who's nearly 79 has open heart triple bypass surgery on a Friday, and is home the next Tuesday - amazing to me! Of course it helped that we had gotten him to the ER before a heart attack developed, that would have complicated and slowed things. But on the other hand, he had a stroke 10 months ago, and a mild heart attack (due to a left bundle branch block condition) 3 years ago, and yet he still bounced right back once again.

    I don't know if it's modern medical science, or his toughness, or some of each. But whatever it is, I've got him back where he belongs. icon_biggrin.gif

    Thanks to everyone who offered support, encouragement and sympathy online here, and to those who phoned me. I passed your thoughts to him.

    So now I get to play amateur nurse for a few weeks, my main challenge being to put the brakes on this guy, who's gonna wanna overdo it, I can guarantee it. A visiting nurse comes tomorrow, hopefully he/she will impress on him the importance of going slow and taking it easy. I'll keep you all informed on his further "adventures". icon_biggrin.gif
  • tazzari

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    Mar 27, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    I'm sure the support of a loving husband helped.

    Congratulations - and a speedy and full recovery!
  • rnch

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    Mar 27, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    Atta boi!
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    Mar 27, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    *hugs* May your Hubby have speedy recover. And you mister need to have a quick bit of me time for a recharge.
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    Mar 27, 2013 3:32 AM GMT
    You're right Bob. Now the real work begins. The docs probably, most likely were excellent at what they did and Carmine has shown incredible resilience over the years in the stories you've told us so I know he has strength to fight, but like another poster stated, I am also quite sure that in his mind, Carmine was thinking of YOU and clearly was not ready to leave you or let go of your life together just yet. Says a lot about him. and it says a lot about YOU. Bravo! and glad he is home!

    Yea, you will be Nurse Bob for awhile, but at least ONE DAY A WEEK, take a few hours for yourself to recharge. You can't help him recover if you aren't energized too. Caregivers also need care. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 27, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    Thanks guys! Well, first full day home, and he helped make his own breakfast in the kitchen! Then a neighbor "babysat" him while I went out to get the rest of his prescription meds, buy him some extra loose 4XL white cotton T-shirts (recommended against his chest incisions, and easy to slip on), buy some food, etc.

    I went out again near noon for more things he needs, and stopped by one of our favorite places, Rosie's restaurant, to spread the good news. One of the owners insisted on preparing a special Mahi-Mahi lunch for him, bringing out the head chef to make sure the preparation satisfied his diet requirements. It was on the house, his treat, along with my drink while I waited. icon_eek.gif

    He was wonderfully surprised when I brought it home, and he ate it all. Good thing, because I have no idea how I'm gonna keep him fed at home myself. I need outside assistance, since I don't want him overdoing it in the kitchen, just enough activity there to keep him happy.

    But earlier back at Rosie's who had walked in but Fort Lauderdale's newest city commissioner (our personal attorney), along with the former Mayor of Broward County. I took the opportunity to update them on my husband. It's important to get the true story out there quickly, because an information vacuum is the breeding ground for wild rumors.

    I thanked our attorney once again for the great legal documents he drew for us, that gave me undisputed medical authority & standing during this entire episode. I think I'm gonna do a guest editorial piece on the subject for our gay rags. It's a neglected vital issue within our community.

    Visiting nurse was here at 2, changed his dressing, showed me how to do it daily. She said his vitals are excellent, and could identify no areas of concern, everything as it should be. A nurse will return tomorrow, and then roughly weekly.

    And now we just finished dinner, that he mostly prepared himself (I did all the lifting, reaching & handing, he did the creating). I know he's more relaxed feeling that he's gotten back some control of his own life, in his own favorite space.

    So all good news today, I grow more optimistic with every hour. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Webster666

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    Mar 27, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    tazzari saidI'm sure the support of a loving husband helped.

    Congratulations - and a speedy and full recovery!




    Yes, what he said.
  • hebrewman

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    Mar 27, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    my hopes for a speedy recovery.
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    Mar 28, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    Hugs to you both......
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    Mar 28, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    So glad to hear it's going well. Wishing a speedy recovery icon_biggrin.gif
  • baldone

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    Mar 28, 2013 12:38 AM GMT
    Hugs,prayers and wishes for a quick speedy recovery.....make sure to take care of yourself too and get proper rest!!!!!icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 12:45 AM GMT
    Good news!
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    Mar 28, 2013 12:49 AM GMT
    Glad to hear he's doing better. *Hugs
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    Mar 28, 2013 12:50 AM GMT
    So happy to hear this news! icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 12:56 AM GMT
    Great news. Best wishes to you both.
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    Mar 28, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
    May his recovery continue to go smoothly. Just remember to give yourself permission to take off a few hours occasionally to recharge your own battery - you need to take care of yourself to remain able to assist him!

    Hugs
  • Havenjock80

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    Mar 28, 2013 3:48 AM GMT
    i love u guys.. wish him a speedy recovery.
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    Mar 28, 2013 3:58 AM GMT
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    Mar 28, 2013 3:59 AM GMT
    Aristoshark saidThat's great, Bob!

    Side note: Does anyone have the link to where he's live-streaming Carmine's recovery? I couldn't find it.

    LOL! Sorry, I am indeed treating this something like a stream, or at least a blog. My only excuses are that it's therapeutic for me to discuss it, and second, a number of guys here have met him, or have read about him before, and would want to know these things. Well, OK, maybe not ALL these things. icon_redface.gif
  • RP919

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    Mar 28, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear your husband had such a dilema but glad to hear things are going good. There is nothing like being in your own home torecover after a hospital stay. I'm sure he felt a lot better immediately aftter arriving in his own environment. And bravo to you Bob for looking out and caring for him so well. You two sure have had your challenges this past year! I wish you both continued recovery and good health!
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    Mar 28, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    best....
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    Mar 28, 2013 8:51 PM GMT
    Today's update: Second at-home visit of the nurse went very well, he got high marks. I bought him a shower bench from a medical supply store this morning, and gave him his first home shower. Then changed his dressings as the nurse had instructed me.

    Also bought nylon "skis" for the walker he had previously gotten for his hip surgery 3 years ago, and screwed them in, the original rubber feet all worn off, so he could use it again. That enabled me to take him down our carpeted condo hallway this afternoon, an exercise I was instructed he should perform daily. Eventually we'll have him walking outside for greater distances, and without a walker. Thank gawd for mild Florida weather this time of year.

    Another thing I got him today was a classic TV pillow/bolster for our bed from Bed, Bath & Beyond, so he can sit more upright, especially when watching TV. No combination of pillows had been successful, and he needs to be more upright for his lungs, so I'm hoping this will be the solution.

    And now I'm off to the supermarket, he wants some things to make dinner tonight, like orange glaze for some salmon we have. This is really sending a boy on a man's errand, but I'll try to muddle through. icon_confused.gif
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Mar 29, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    Great news! you are one in a million my dear friend! all my love to you both! please don't forget to take some "mandatory me time" if not days at least a couple of hours a day!!