That not so fresh feeling...

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    Mar 27, 2013 3:16 AM GMT
    Today was a pretty productive day. Was in the west GTA for some work and then hung out with my grandparents.
    As I was returning back downtown on the GO transit, this guy texts me wanting me to come over.
    Tempting as it was I really didn't have that fresh feeling in the bowels even though I douched in the morning. So I declined and instead offered another time which he gives a vague answer too.

    Now I've reached home and did a check. Turns out I was fine but since I had a long day, I really didn't want to take a chance on a surprise.

    Honestly if I knew hindsight that sex would be happening, I would have douched again. A friend tells me that is not feasible.

    To quote

    "in an entire week i only feel that once or twice
    but if ur fiber is good u should have no problems and it should be clean"

    do u really have hygiene issues?
    because even if i use a dildo it comes out perfectly clean

    guys like to sometimes just take you
    its not practical
    unless they're being pussies about it or u have a genuine reason
    you can't keep jumping hoops for guys"



    Mind you that he has a bf and I'm single. Am I being impractical/paranoid about the necessity douche before sex regardless if you already did earlier or your dietary fiber intake is fine?

    I hope I'm making sense, so don't be meanies about this!! icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 27, 2013 4:47 AM GMT
    Ofcourse not. You saved yourself some possible embarrassment, and saved the other guy from a horrible experience. Good for you. There's NOTHING attractive about a dirty bottom. . . . Unless you're into that kinda thing. . . icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 2:02 PM GMT
    No I'm not a dirty bottom *shudders* Geez only one reply with so many views! icon_razz.gif

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    Mar 28, 2013 2:07 PM GMT
    I know this is going to sound dumb. But I never really knew how bottoms made sure they were totally clean. I just assumed it was natural. Other than in porn where I figured they did something. I still dont really know what they do. When you say douche is like what chicks use?
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    Mar 28, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    If you rely on this one tactic to decide for you whether or not to get laid, then I will light a candle for you.
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    Mar 28, 2013 2:31 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidI know this is going to sound dumb. But I never really knew how bottoms made sure they were totally clean. I just assumed it was natural. Other than in porn where I figured they did something. I still dont really know what they do. When you say douche is like what chicks use?
    ditto that - seems like way to much to me....icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    blueyedItalian said
    Dallasfan824 saidI know this is going to sound dumb. But I never really knew how bottoms made sure they were totally clean. I just assumed it was natural. Other than in porn where I figured they did something. I still dont really know what they do. When you say douche is like what chicks use?
    ditto that - seems like way to much to me....icon_eek.gif

    HA! and I'm sitting here thinking the same thing and figuring I'm the only one. Coming out late in life didn't afford me the opportunity to learn these things at an early age but a bad experience shortly after coming out, did teach me that it's very important!
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    Mar 28, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    eww
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    Mar 28, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    At wariness of sarcasm icon_lol.gif....

    Douching simply means to cleanse the body cavity. Commonly woman have used this method but bottom guys use this method as well.

    The bowels usually have natural bacterial inside to help keep the movement of fecal matter and prevent from certain kinds of infections. Fiber helps to manually regulate the matter. Basically if your waste is more log like, there would be little residue inside the bowels.

    This all based on diet. My diet is pretty alright but sometimes a variance of dosage within my diet can alter what the waste can look like. Barring from the runs. A semi solid to solid waste are best results of good diet.


    It is recommended not to continuously douche every day because the bacteria in bowels with be depleted and the linings of the bowels would over dry and you'd be more prone to infections and tears.

    So I am very well aware of not to constantly douche. It within this same realm that I will only necessarily douche again if I know foreplay and sex are in the cards.
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 28, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    Seems like, in a case like this, if you really wanted to hook up you could have said you'd meet but let him know that you wouldn't have the chance to clean up first.
    There are other things you can do besides fuck, and even if you to want to fuck you could do the check there and give it a go.
    I know it's important for a bottom to be clean and ready to go, but sometimes that may not be possible - you don't always need to fuck to have fun.
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    Mar 28, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    He wanted to fuck. There are other methods of pleasure in bed, but like I said, I didn't feel fresh one bit even though I did douche earlier. I would need to go home and douche. I kinda dislike being rushed about such matter.
  • Import

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    Mar 28, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    I think u were looking out for your own dignity and see nothing wrong with declining a fuck if u didnt feel "clean."

    Nothing is worse than bottoming and worrying the entire if a "mess" will occur. EWWWWWW

    fuck that
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    Mar 28, 2013 5:39 PM GMT
    I think you did the right thing - not accepting the offer for a last minute date because you hadn't had a chance to go home and get cleaned up / change clothes, or anything else. I'm sure any guy asking for a last minute date understands that the other guy may not be instantly ready - or may have plans already set for that night. Truly - guys should plan better and ask for dates ahead of time - even a few days early, whenever possible. This way is better for a lot of reasons, and it just shows some respect for the other guy's time and plans / schedule, etc. If I ask my s.o. to do something on the spur of the moment - I'll totally understand if he's "available" and showered up or not.

    I commend you on wanting to be ready for fun. That is what all bottoms should do. Tops too - - - should be showered and ready for hot times.........everybody in fact should present himself to his partner in good, clean, working condition!
  • Timbales

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    Mar 28, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    My code phrase is "Now isn't a good time for that".

    Doesn't mean you can't do other things, though.
  • blueandgold

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    Mar 28, 2013 6:08 PM GMT
    A little bit of poopdick isn't the end of the world
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    Mar 28, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
    Slim2010 saidOfcourse not. You saved yourself some possible embarrassment, and saved the other guy from a horrible experience. Good for you. There's NOTHING attractive about a dirty bottom. . . . Unless you're into that kinda thing. . . icon_eek.gif


    DITTO!!!

    When in doubt, wash again. icon_wink.gif
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 28, 2013 6:44 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidHe wanted to fuck. There are other methods of pleasure in bed, but like I said, I didn't feel fresh one bit even though I did douche earlier. I would need to go home and douche. I kinda dislike being rushed about such matter.


    I agree, a good fuck shouldn't be rushed.
    You need to be prepared or you're not going to enjoy it.
    I guess you could have said that without giving you some time, fucking was not going to happen, but other things could.
    If you just said that you couldn't do it without an explanation, then he may have got the impression that you weren't interested at all.
    A good top appreciates a bottom that has prepared himself and should respect that fact that "fucking on demand" isn't always possible.
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    Mar 28, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    Hothouse said
    Fivealive saidHe wanted to fuck. There are other methods of pleasure in bed, but like I said, I didn't feel fresh one bit even though I did douche earlier. I would need to go home and douche. I kinda dislike being rushed about such matter.


    I agree, a good fuck shouldn't be rushed.
    You need to be prepared or you're not going to enjoy it.
    I guess you could have said that without giving you some time, fucking was not going to happen, but other things could.
    If you just said that you couldn't do it without an explanation, then he may have got the impression that you weren't interested at all.
    A good top appreciates a bottom that has prepared himself and should respect that fact that "fucking on demand" isn't always possible.


    Well said Hottie. icon_wink.gif
  • Apparition

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    Mar 28, 2013 7:28 PM GMT
    I did 12 years with a guy and this was never an issue at all. Take a dump and go at it.
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    Mar 28, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    Apparition saidI did 12 years with a guy and this was never an issue at all. Take a dump and go at it.

    You were lucky then because it isn't so simple for everyone. May be your guy had a good bowel but not everyone has one.
  • Fable

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    Mar 28, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    blueandgold saidA little bit of poopdick isn't the end of the world





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  • neosyllogy

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    Mar 28, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    You'd get more responses if you asked your question up front.
    People skim these things and the specific question isn't entirely clear.

    It depends a bit on the person and their physiology and diet.
    If I'm going to bottom I take a shower and manually check and clean if necessary. (a) I'm really anal about these things [drum roll] (b) I don't bottom much and don't really keep up with a bottom's diet; so I feel I need to be extra careful.

    Regarding (b): depending on how your body interacts with diet you'll learn what you may want to avoid if there's a possibility of bottoming without easy access pre-sex showering facilities. I'm not an expert, but obvious things like beans and heavy foods have been mentioned. I know I'll just make a point not to eat much if I think it might be an issue, as less food in means less movement of food inside in the direction of outside.


    Also, be aware that the size of the other person matters. As a (well hung) top, I've on more than one occasion been with guys who've had to reassess their hygiene strategies as I was just hitting areas they wouldn't normally have to concern themselves with.
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    Mar 28, 2013 7:52 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    neosyllogy said....As a (well hung) top, I've on more than one occasion been with guys who've had to reassess their hygiene strategies as I was just hitting areas they wouldn't normally have to concern themselves with.

    Hawt. icon_redface.gif


    Gurl YES!! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 28, 2013 7:54 PM GMT
    Going where no man has gone before.....
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    Mar 29, 2013 1:57 AM GMT
    Davidolce saideww
    eww is right...