My First Gay Bar

  • metta

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    Mar 28, 2013 12:46 AM GMT
    My First Gay Bar

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    Mar 28, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    Interesting article! My first gay bar was in Charleston, SC when I was 19. I didn't feel the need to fit in rather than trying to figure out who I was. Needless the say, it was a great experience and changed my life for the better. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    My first gay bar was The Rooftop Lounge in Fort Lauderdale. I was 15.
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    Mar 28, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    I really can't wait to visit my first gay bar when I turn 21 this July! I don't even want to drink, I just want to meet new friends and new people.

    The only thing is the closest gay bar around here a really laid-back place, but it's mostly known as a bear bar. Hopefully I'll be able to meet some new friends there without being stereotyped as a twink or something icon_eek.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Mar 28, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI really can't wait to visit my first gay bar when I turn 21 this July! I don't even want to drink, I just want to meet new friends and new people.

    The only thing is the closest gay bar around here a really laid-back place, but it's mostly known as a bear bar. Hopefully I'll be able to meet some new friends there without being stereotyped as a twink or something icon_eek.gif

    Wanna go to a queer bar with me?
  • MikeHunt

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    Mar 28, 2013 12:31 PM GMT
    My first gay bar was the A-House in Provincetown Ma. way back in 1982.

    Yeah I'm old.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 28, 2013 12:36 PM GMT
    Wow, interesting story, glad you shared. The first time I went into a gay bar was in 2000 and it was a thousand miles from Kansas.
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    Mar 28, 2013 12:38 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidMy first gay bar was The Rooftop Lounge in Fort Lauderdale. I was 15.

    My partner used to go there all the time, and we frequently drive past the bank on whose circular top floor it was located. We often say we'd love to see another gay club go in there, a big space with a great view, but we're told the building tenants object, and I believe it remains vacant.
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    Mar 28, 2013 1:02 PM GMT
    My very first gay bar was Slaughter's (now C.C. Attle's) in Seattle, 1995. My gay mentor took me in the evening, and I found a very attractive & tame 30s crowd, but a bit packed, which I rarely like. We didn't stay long, it was more his idea of a "test" to see if I would panic. I didn't, and returned for years, my favorite afternoon bartender learning to make my gin martinis to perfection.

    But the one I considered my first in terms of real impact was The Cuff some weeks later, just a few blocks away. A tougher crowd, lots of leather on weekends with real motorcycles on the floor, yet not a hard-core leather bar most of the time.

    My first time there I got a little light-headed with the excitement, that seemed not only to do with the sights & sounds, but also the male scent in there, mixed with leather. Guys closer to my own age (46 back then) and very masculine.

    That became my favorite Seattle bar, and they used to let me park my motorcycle on the sidewalk outside their entrance, a plain green metal industrial door without a window or name, on a plain and equally windowless brick wall, just a pair of silver handcuffs against the green paint. I'd walk in wearing full riding leathers including chaps, boots, studded gloves, Harley jacket and cap, usually still with my sunglasses in summer months. It was like shooting fish in a barrel. LOL! icon_cool.gif
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Mar 28, 2013 1:36 PM GMT
    Energy in Providence RI when I was 18. It's closed now though; probably because it was a haven for underage drinkers and they would serve anyone who walked through the door.
  • Fable

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    Mar 28, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa


    oh the memories
  • WhoDey

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    Mar 28, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI really can't wait to visit my first gay bar when I turn 21 this July! I don't even want to drink, I just want to meet new friends and new people.

    The only thing is the closest gay bar around here a really laid-back place, but it's mostly known as a bear bar. Hopefully I'll be able to meet some new friends there without being stereotyped as a twink or something icon_eek.gif


    I just see you now, stnding in the corner sober, watching other people have fun, and complaining about guys only looking for sex and grabbing your ass
  • rnch

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    Mar 28, 2013 3:42 PM GMT
    Years go, my father worked the evening shift at a New Orleans television station, located (at the time) in the heart of the world famous French Quarter,

    I would often ride to/from work with him and stroll around "da quatta" while Dad was making his money.

    The sights you can see at midnight to 2 am down there!!

    Perhaps, because of my almost nightly exposure to the (in)famous French Quarter night life, gay or str8, gay bars were "No Big Deal" for me by the time I was in my mid 20's.



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    Mar 28, 2013 3:47 PM GMT
    WhoDey said
    JumpMan_Josh saidI really can't wait to visit my first gay bar when I turn 21 this July! I don't even want to drink, I just want to meet new friends and new people.

    The only thing is the closest gay bar around here a really laid-back place, but it's mostly known as a bear bar. Hopefully I'll be able to meet some new friends there without being stereotyped as a twink or something icon_eek.gif


    I just see you now, stnding in the corner sober, watching other people have fun, and complaining about guys only looking for sex and grabbing your ass


    Except for the standing in the corner part what's wrong with the rest?! Lol grabbing at someone's ass is a compliment.

    My first gay bar was the Honeypot in Ybor I was 19 made out with a miltary hottie nicknamed the captain( real name Morgan) after copious amounts of tequila....it was a fun experience
  • Menergy_1

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    Mar 28, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    Pearl's and The Gilded Cage in San Fran back in the 60's, the End Up, the Stallion, the Eagle, the Mint, Twin Peaks, Elephant Walk. Must be forgetting many more right this moment, though.....ah memoriesicon_surprised.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    The first gay bars I was ever in were bars my band and I were performing in. I was the lead singer in a five piece R & R band and we played in and around San Francisco. I was young, blond, dressed in tight pants and body shirts (to show off all my gym time) and you know I have a whole bunch of memories. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidMy first gay bar was The Rooftop Lounge in Fort Lauderdale. I was 15.


    That was certainly one of my firsts but I don't recall if it was the very first. Might have been. But also could have been the Marlin where Sunday T by the sea was so fucking great.

    I was 17, only then it was called the Chateau Madrid. If I remember right it was more of a mixed bar at that time before turning entirely gay and re-emerging as Rooftop.

    I'll bet we tricked back then and don't even know it. Were you hot? Just kidding, I was more into older at that time.

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    Mar 28, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    Great topic-

    My first time was Las Vegas, 2001, summer between high school and college. I was 18, the place was called Rainbow Lounge or something, off of Rainbow Rd. near the Liberace museum (anybody know what I'm talking about?) it was a total dive. I just remember a bunch of middle aged men who looked very haggard, with mustaches.

    Best thing about Vegas though is the 24 hr nightlife, and we were there until 7am. I was so nervous, but walking through that door was like walking into a new part of myself.
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    Mar 28, 2013 5:55 PM GMT
    WhoDey said
    JumpMan_Josh saidI really can't wait to visit my first gay bar when I turn 21 this July! I don't even want to drink, I just want to meet new friends and new people.

    The only thing is the closest gay bar around here a really laid-back place, but it's mostly known as a bear bar. Hopefully I'll be able to meet some new friends there without being stereotyped as a twink or something icon_eek.gif


    I just see you now, stnding in the corner sober, watching other people have fun, and complaining about guys only looking for sex and grabbing your ass


    Haha that doesn't sound like me at all. I'd be the one doing the ass grabbing icon_twisted.gif!
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    Mar 28, 2013 6:35 PM GMT
    Mine was The Oxford in Sydney, in 1999. I was terrified and only spent about 20 mins there.
  • metta

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    Mar 28, 2013 6:51 PM GMT
    I went to the beach with a friend and he took me to the Roosterfish in Venice Beach and Mickey's in West Hollywood. It was during the day so there were not a lot of people and he just basically walked me through it. I was in my early 20's.




    I didn't see this though...haha...
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 28, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    First gay bar I went to when I was 20 was called "Ann's Bar" in Warren Ohio. Small little neighborhood place.
    I was so uncomfortable that first time, I'm sure I wasn't there more than a half hour, and swore I wouldn't go back.
    But I did, about a week later.
    At the time, going to a gay bar was about the only way to meet other gay men, at least in a small town.
  • FRE0

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    Mar 28, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    __________ saidMy first gay bar was the A-House in Provincetown Ma. way back in 1982.

    Yeah I'm old.


    My first gay bar was the Dougout in Minneapolis in 1958. You are not old.
  • josephmovie

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    Mar 28, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    The first time I went I remember being really impressed by the music but really put off by the crap humour in the drag show.
  • dabcrt

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    Mar 28, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    My first gay bar "Three sons plus one". Grand Rapids Michigan. Dam..does
    anyone remember that place? My first real male experance was with a bar tender there. Oh the fun I had in that place.icon_redface.gif