Advice From Lonely Guys

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    Mar 28, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
    I don't know if this is going to make me seem conceited, but have you ever noticed a pattern when it comes to receiving dating advice from lonely guys? I have a few friends who are nice guys but maybe not the most classically "attractive" guys (they get shot down a lot) and they all tell me that I'm "too picky" when it comes to guys. I've always been suspicious of this because i discovered an ex-friend was doing it because he was trying to get me to go out with him. I don't get pissed off when muscular guys aren't interested in an average guy like me. I understand that we all have preferences and if I'm not attracted to you because of how you look then that's my business. I'm not that picky, just tired of people telling me i should basically just sleep with the next guy who'll have me.
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    Mar 28, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    Ahhh! Being "guilted" into the mercy fuck.

    It's a trap!
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    Mar 28, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidAhhh! Being "guilted" into the mercy fuck.

    It's a trap!


    that's what i feel like this whole thing is about usually, but i'm never sure if i'm reading the situation correctly. Have you had a similar experience? It just makes me trust them less actually since it feels like they're using their friendship to try and take advantage of me.
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    Mar 28, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 said
    GAMRican saidAhhh! Being "guilted" into the mercy fuck.

    It's a trap!


    that's what i feel like this whole thing is about usually, but i'm never sure if i'm reading the situation correctly. Have you had a similar experience? It just makes me trust them less actually since it feels like they're using their friendship to try and take advantage of me.


    what kind of friendship is that? it sounds a bit twisted to me,,icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 5:38 AM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 said
    GAMRican saidAhhh! Being "guilted" into the mercy fuck.

    It's a trap!


    that's what i feel like this whole thing is about usually, but i'm never sure if i'm reading the situation correctly. Have you had a similar experience? It just makes me trust them less actually since it feels like they're using their friendship to try and take advantage of me.


    Absolutely! I've had guys try all sorts of shit. And, in moments of weakness...I gave in. It usually happens on the hookup. Bad/fake pics and you're all horned up, you get there, and.....the picture is, like, 20 years old (with bad lighting).

    Don't fall for it. Just make sure you get enough with the hot guys that you don't get desperate. That's when you get snared.

    P.S. YOU should be having no trouble getting hot guys.
  • Tombo

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    Mar 28, 2013 5:46 AM GMT
    Well if you're not interested then don't do anything with them.

    I am in a similar situation myself where I am looking for friends but they keep on fancying me, some of them have great personalities and I really like the friendship but they all want more whereas I just want to be friends.

    The only thing is I call myself picky, they have not labelled me as such.

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    Mar 28, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    Well shit if your picky WTF am I??

    I get guys all the time trying to move in via the friends bullshit. They quickly get pushed out of the door.

    Anyway, guys with either zero relationship history or bad relationship history love giving advice.

    I love hearing it too cause if you let them ramble on you end up hearing all the shit they do which tells you exactly why they are single.

    Let them ramble on and just agree when they ask for agreement, eventually the neurotic bullshit spills out.
  • calibro

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    Mar 28, 2013 2:37 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidWell shit if your picky WTF am I??



    you're wombo! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 3:13 PM GMT


    I don't think there's anything wrong with being picky. At the end of the day, you have to ask if you'd rather be alone than with someone you're not into. Seems to me you're doing a disservice to yourself and the other guy to pretend that there's something there when there isn't.
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    Mar 28, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    calibro said
    lilTanker saidWell shit if your picky WTF am I??



    you're wombo! icon_biggrin.gif

    hahaha well I suppose thats better then being a snob icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 9:31 PM GMT
    You have a few friends who are nice guys? You lucky stud I'm so jealous... icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 28, 2013 10:39 PM GMT
    Maybe you need new friends.
  • mybud

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    Mar 28, 2013 10:47 PM GMT
    You deserve to be picky...Let this be your mantra.
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    Mar 29, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    But, too picky can cause you to end up being a monk...like me right now. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 29, 2013 2:09 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidBut, too picky can cause you to end up being a monk...like me right now. icon_sad.gif

    YAY i'm a monk!
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    Mar 29, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    I'm a lonely guy... & I've given plenty of dating advice to my fellow friends ... It all works out in the end. I think observing also contributes a lot in helping others out not just by experience. My view is that being picky is not a bad thing but being extremely picky to the point where it is excessive (ex. appear a certain way almost perfect) then maybe you should reconsider and change some ways. That's just my thought icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 29, 2013 10:11 AM GMT
    Well It is a known fact that most guys who are rejected a lot will just about to go out with anyone who say yes to them. They are saying *you're picky* because you remind them of those guys who rejected them, so in short, maybe out of some jealousy and anger. I don't think there's anything wrong with having standards, but not a ridiculous high set. I certainly held my own opinions and standards despite what anyone said. If you don't like or feel the guy, nah sorry, I'm not going to sleep, date or fuck you ! icon_cool.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 29, 2013 11:05 AM GMT
    I don't get that. No one can "guilt" anyone into anything. At the end of the day it is your choice to get with the person or not.

    I know, personally, I have high standards for guys in both looks and personality. I give many different people a chance, but I wouldn't settle...
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    Mar 29, 2013 11:16 AM GMT
    distinct906 saidI don't get that. No one can "guilt" anyone into anything. At the end of the day it is your choice to get with the person or not.

    I know, personally, I have high standards for guys in both looks and personality. I give many different people a chance, but I wouldn't settle...


    Famous last words of a handsome young gay man lol
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    Mar 29, 2013 11:47 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidBut, too picky can cause you to end up being a monk...like me right now. icon_sad.gif


    No problem for me.....icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 20, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    I've been told that i'm picky before, but i'm not picky, i just know what i want and desire and i'm a patient persona and my patience has always payed off in my life and i refuse to settle with someone that i know for fact im not into, its not fair to me or them. So like i said before, patience is a virtue
  • SinfulWays

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    Jun 20, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    I am also very patient but I do get lonely at times. Just being in the company of a friendly guy who can carry a conversation seems to help
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    Jun 20, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    The least attractive are the pickiest.

    The less attractive you are, the smaller the number of people you attract. The smaller the number of people you attract, the highest the impact of any exclusive preference. Any given preference will always be more exclusive coming from a less attractive person than if it came from a very attractive person. We want to be attractive so that our set-in-stone preferences become less exclusive.

    Whenever someone says to me that I'm too picky, the message I get is you're too damn freaking ugly to measure up to what you want!

  • BloodFlame

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    Jun 20, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    I have never had a boyfriend but when I do talk to people and they ask for my input on their relationships, I do try to help them if I know how to answer the question.

    Like for example, if a girl and her boyfriend are constantly fighting and he treats her like dirt and she asks me what I think. I tell her the obvious that she shouldn't let him treat her that way. While I may not have been in a relationship yet, I do know that things like that aren't good.

    I also have had some guys I had no interest in come on to me and when I turned them down, they would either A), insult me or B), try to make me pity them. "B" would always get to me because I hate being mean but now I disregard it. I mostly get the pity one from way older men who try hitting on me. One even kept saying he'd pay me. .__.

    And I will agree. Being picky in itself isn't so bad as long as you are reasonable. If you are extrememly picky, that could be a problem. I admit that I can be a little picky but I'm not extreme. Like for example, I do like muscular guys but I don't think they have to look like the next magazine fitness model. If anything, I like average body with muscle a lot mote. Same with face and hair, I like many different things. So yeah really, while I am picky, I'm not over the top (I think).
  • Dan89

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    Jun 20, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    bachian saidThe least attractive are the pickiest.

    The less attractive you are, the smaller the number of people you attract. The smaller the number of people you attract, the highest the impact of any exclusive preference. Any given preference will always be more exclusive coming from a less attractive person than if it came from a very attractive person. We want to be attractive so that our set-in-stone preferences become less exclusive.

    Whenever someone says to me that I'm too picky, the message I get is you're too damn freaking ugly to measure up to what you want!



    I would kind of disagree with the fact that the most attractive guys are the pickiest. There is no golden rule. I feel that attractiveness allows you to kind of pop into the club, choose your boy and be confident that he won't reject of you. Accordingly, some attractive guys are not that picky... They can just play around more! icon_biggrin.gif