So I came out to a friend the other day...... It feels odd but good.

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    Mar 29, 2013 3:46 PM GMT
    So I have never told anyone Im gay and didn't know how it would go the first time I did. The other day I was randomly texting a friend about random useless crap and just up and decided I wanted to tell her I'm gay. I didn't really set out that morning to do so, and no real opportunity/segway presented itself but I still felt compelled to do so. I will preface this with the fact that this friend is a lesbian and I have known she was gay for around 4 years now( thought she was F-ing with me when she told me she was a lesbian back in the day) She has always been the person who says " why don't you date her shes good looking ...... I want to set you up with my coworker X shes perfect for you" etc etc etc, I decided years ago that I was no longer going to date/ be in relationships with women so I declined all these offers. I digress, so basically I did pussy out kind of and did this via text and said " this is kinda out of left field but Im gay and Im kinda shitting myself saying this out loud". She replied with nothing but the best of responses and it was quite painless. Now to tell the rest of my friends who are all straight and mostly male, I suspect that will be harder. Prob will tell my brothers before that though. Its nice knowing that someone else knows but odd in a way too.


    Onward and upward..................
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    Mar 29, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
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    Mar 29, 2013 3:59 PM GMT
    You never know where you'll find gay allies & friends. The other day a social worker came into my husband's hospital room. I didn't say we're gay, but I dropped enough hints, speaking freely of our living arrangements.

    He in turn started dropping his own gay hints. Finally he asked me if we're partners, to which I naturally answered yes. Turns out he's got a gay partner, too.

    There's a line of gay clothing called "We're Everywhere". And indeed we are.

    We like to be friendly to everyone. But it always delights us when we run across another gay guy, in a situation outside the obvious gay bars & other venues. It does kinda feel odd, but it always feels great. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 29, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    Congratulations! But I find it ironic how you mentioned to your friend "and Im kinda shitting myself saying this out loud" through a text message. I can't speak for you but if I were you, I would come out in person rather than using some sort of electronic medium.
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    Mar 30, 2013 11:18 AM GMT
    Yea "saying this out loud" is kind of an oxymoron when It was via a text.... It was a spur of the moment thing. icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 23, 2014 12:23 PM GMT
    #Awkwardmoments The other day it was a group of friends around the firepit and I wanted to tell another friend that I'm gay... so this is how I told him.... dont blink.... " hey B guess what?" ( Him: What? ::::as he walks back to the fire:::icon_smile.gif Im gay........B: wait what? ME: "you heard me" B " yea I did, ok" And then some questions and we went on our day. Granted Ive known he's had gay friends before me so it was a given he would prob be ok with it, But still nerve-wracking for some reason.
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    Jun 23, 2014 3:55 PM GMT
    You're on your way to a happier life. Good for you, man. Ya, feels surprisingly good. Especially after all the fear of actually telling someone. Keep going, guy!
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    Jun 24, 2014 12:08 PM GMT
    Thanks, So far everyone I have told has had no issues with it, had lots of questions though.
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    Jun 24, 2014 12:25 PM GMT
    I remember when I came out to one of my closest friend. It was more awkward than anything else.
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    Jun 24, 2014 3:11 PM GMT
    It gets easier as you become more comfortable with yourself and build a nice support group of friends. When you do find someone that might have an issue with your sexuality, you let them deal with it and not you! Most common issue is that we take it personally when others have issues, instead, let them work through their own issues, even if it means they move on without us. Good luck.
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    Jun 25, 2014 9:10 PM GMT
    ^^^^^ D, you always have the voice of reason, and faultless commentary or suggestions. Nothing to add other than to amplify that I too believe that when we tell a 'friend' our news about our sexuality, if they can't take it, or aren't wanting to be friends anymore, let them go. Make room for all the good people coming into your life that are just around the corner, so to speak. I've done this, and so has almost every guy I know.
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    Jun 27, 2014 7:04 AM GMT
    If someone doesn't react perfectly the moment you tell them, dont write it off straight away. Some people also find it stressful to have someone come out to them, and they may say the wrong thing in the moment. You can always give them a call in a couple of days time. It's good that your first one went well though.

    After a certain point you may be getting to the point where you don't want to have to individually tell people any more. Just find the biggest gossip you know and tell her (or him). They will do the rest for you!
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    Jun 27, 2014 12:53 PM GMT
    Thanks, Yea I think I'm up to around 10 people and thus far, no issues. I still have about 10 more to go.... HA yes I thought about just letting the word spread but I really want to let people know from me, seems better;to me.
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    Jun 27, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    Ohno saidIf someone doesn't react perfectly the moment you tell them, dont write it off straight away. Some people also find it stressful to have someone come out to them, and they may say the wrong thing in the moment. You can always give them a call in a couple of days time. It's good that your first one went well though.

    After a certain point you may be getting to the point where you don't want to have to individually tell people any more. Just find the biggest gossip you know and tell her (or him). They will do the rest for you!


    For people who don't get it right away, remember....how long did it take for you to accept that you were Gay? Just give them some time.

    Funny you said that about gossip! I have a big family, eight kids. After telling mom, I told one of my sisters.....it was more expeditious that way.