I don't want to be the bad friend.

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    Mar 30, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    So my friend is madly and deeply in love with this one guy name Nate. But my friend is very very promiscuous especially when he drinks, and Nate picked that up real quick. But as a friend you kinda want to support them in their endeavors, so I offered to go with him to a party, and back him up so he wouldn't drink so much and start to lose control. But the thing was when me and Nate made eye contact for the first time, there was an instant connection that just said it with our eyes. I tried to avoid him the whole night but he eventually caught me alone, we talked, he found and added me on fb, the next day,

    I try to keep things between us strictly platonic, but it seems the more I try to push him away, the more I feel like i'm denying my feelings for him, and the more he tries even harder to talk to me.

    i'm not really sure what to do here, I feel like i'm this huge ass cockblock.

    *waits to be flamed*
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    Mar 30, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    Triangle love story!

    You & Nate like each other
    where there is love from both sides, there is always a relation!
    Wait a min, what about your friend?
    You like your friend, but you don't want to sacrifice his love for Nate!

    I have one idea...
    Choose a place(not public area) where you all 3 can meet & then say to them both at a time as below
    “Look. You love me. he loves you. Let’s sort this mess out.”
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    Mar 30, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    Let me see if I understand this correctly. You're denying your feelings for a guy because your drunk slutty friend likes him too? So in other words, you think you're a bad friend even though it's quite obvious that Nate doesn't like him?

    If what I've said is true, then your slutty friend should have no problem understanding that Nate is not into him and prefers you. In fact, if he's a true friend he would support you getting to know Nate. If your friend has a problem with your infatuation with Nate, then it means he'll have the same problem with every guy you both find to be potential boyfriends. Thus, limiting your dating pool.
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    Mar 30, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    get your friend drunk.... devour the twink in question.... lie about it all.... take it to your grave, its the only way..
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    Mar 30, 2013 5:07 AM GMT
    i'll talk to my friend about it, see what happens.
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    Mar 30, 2013 5:37 AM GMT
    jonnyboy saidget your friend drunk.... devour the twink in question.... lie about it all.... take it to your grave, its the only way..

    LOL
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    Mar 30, 2013 11:32 AM GMT
    Walk up to your friend..Dick punch him..and tell him Nate is yours.!

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    Mar 30, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    The best thing to do is find out if you have a real connection with Nate, if you do talk with your friend about it and if he is a good friend he will understand.
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 30, 2013 2:29 PM GMT
    Just because your friend was crushing on this guy first doesn't mean he gets to call dibs, especially if he's "showing his interest" by getting drunk and being promiscuous, as you put it. Maybe it'll teach your friend to shape up.
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    Mar 30, 2013 2:44 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Seric saidI try to keep things between us strictly platonic, but it seems the more I try to push him away, the more I feel like i'm denying my feelings for him, and the more he tries even harder to talk to me.

    You look at each other at a party and suddenly you have feelings for him? So strong that you must work to deny them?

    Seriously?

    Sheesh.

    LOL
  • unicoman1

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    Mar 30, 2013 3:06 PM GMT
    I don't believe anyone in this sorted three-ringed circus scenario really know what true love is. I could be mistaken .

    I say part ways with your friend and all three of ya go on yer separate paths to happiness.
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    Mar 30, 2013 3:14 PM GMT

    Hmmm....I'd suggest you stop trying to save your long time friend from himself.

    "So my friend is madly and deeply in love with this one guy name Nate. But my friend is very very promiscuous especially when he drinks, and Nate picked that up real quick. But as a friend you kinda want to support them in their endeavors, so I offered to go with him to a party, and back him up so he wouldn't drink so much and start to lose control."

    I believe (see the bolded text) that this is exactly the wrong thing to do. If he's going to fuck up, that's his red wagon and something Nate should be dealing with. You're not doing Nate any favour by preventing him from seeing what your friend is really like.

    Now I'm assuming Nate and your buddy have established something, so correct me here if wrong.
    If this is so, then you should really just walk away from the two for now, doing it kindly. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 31, 2013 12:10 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Seric saidI try to keep things between us strictly platonic, but it seems the more I try to push him away, the more I feel like i'm denying my feelings for him, and the more he tries even harder to talk to me.

    You look at each other at a party and suddenly you have feelings for him? So strong that you must work to deny them?

    Seriously?

    Sheesh.



    Try fucking a guy for about a year, whom I hereinafter refer to as "AtomicBottom" who fell in love with you, but you werent ready to either process or effectively return that love...

    ...then after bringing AtomicBottom to a group sex party at another friended couple's place, watching him become the new BF of the one of the guys after that first relationship failed...

    .... and then you occasionally get invites to fuck that AtomicBottom who is now partnered with your other friend (from that previous couple) and hosting sex parties with other random guys.

    Difficult to keep this from totally fucking with one's mind if one thinks upon it too much... but AtomicBottom has an ass that you could set an atomic clock by the way it rhythmically shakes when you pound into it. And to be honest, I did develop feelings for him beyond being a mere booty call.

    And he claims to still have some feeling for me.

    Naturally, this does little to ameliorate residual awkwardness that tends to develop when I do go to fuck him... on our last group affair, the sexual dynamic simply broke down after a couple of hours as AtomicBottom decided to duck out to do a World of Warcraft raid, leaving three out of four tops in a bit of a lurch.

    I took my leave, and found a horny twink a bit closer to home to fuck the daylights out of. No drama, no stress ... just the sweet sound of twink ass crashing against me and his soft moans as I stretched him open.

    Perhaps I will do better to keep my distance from seems to be becoming an emotionally draining situation, and devote my considerable sexual energies to guys who will eagerly receive it, lol...
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    Mar 31, 2013 12:13 AM GMT
    Nate is probably turned off by your friend because he's promiscuous. I kind of had the same experience. Met a guy I instantly started crushing on. Then I found out he gets around (basically has had sex with everyone). Never develops relationships, kind of a bang and move on guy. Not my cup of tea and the crush stopped there.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 31, 2013 5:01 AM GMT
    if your friend is promiscuous, he wont notice or care if nate breaks up with him right? tell nate to break up with him, then date him
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    Apr 01, 2013 2:43 AM GMT
    I told Nate that he should look for another guy. So I guess all three of us are going our separate ways.