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    Apr 01, 2013 12:47 PM GMT

    a lesson learned
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    Apr 01, 2013 12:54 PM GMT
    yiboz saidSo if gay is the lifestyle of homosexual men, can you really be gay and in the closet.
    Wouldn't you just be a man with the likely potential for homosexual acts.
    Seriously gay and in the closet as a statement just annoys me, like straight acting.

    Clearly another case of OCL (obsessive compulsive labeling)
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    Apr 01, 2013 12:58 PM GMT
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    yiboz saidSo if gay is the lifestyle of homosexual men, can you really be gay and in the closet.
    Wouldn't you just be a man with the likely potential for homosexual acts.
    Seriously gay and in the closet as a statement just annoys me, like straight acting.

    Clearly another case of OCL (obsessive compulsive labeling)


    Im over closeted guys this weekend lol
    needed to rant
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    Apr 01, 2013 3:44 PM GMT
    yiboz saidIm over closeted guys this weekend lol
    needed to rant

    But was it good? Sounds like someone wants more!
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    Apr 01, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    I have a friend who is gay and deep in the closet. So deep that he is quick to lie about his sexuality (when he meets new people he states he's straight) and gets paranoid when he's in public because he's in constant fear of running into a hookup who will out him. He said he would be more honest with himself upon moving to San Diego because in his frame of mind, they're more accepting in west coast and that would be more "comfortable" for him. He's still in the closet to this day!

    Fucking sad!
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    Apr 01, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    I don't understand why so many "out" gays give closeted men a hard time. It's THEIR decision. Everyone's personal situation is different and they deserve the respect and time it takes for them to deal with it THEMSELVES.

    I think a lot of it stems from the fact that many gay men CAN'T be closeted because they are obvious...and therefore, resent it when a gay guy can get away with being among the "straights".

    Then you may ask, "If he's a manly gay man then why doesn't he come out to eliminate the stereotypes?" Because the answer to that is...as much as you want to deny it...they aren't stereotypes. Look at pride. Naked men tweaked out, acting like women and rubbing sexual promiscuity in everyone's faces.

    Stop judging closeted men...let them come to terms with it ON THEIR OWN and worry about your own anus.
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    yiboz saidSo if gay is the lifestyle of homosexual men, can you really be gay and in the closet.
    Wouldn't you just be a man with the likely potential for homosexual acts.
    Seriously gay and in the closet as a statement just annoys me, like straight acting.


    If gay is the lifestyle then it is not possible to be gay and in the closet

    BUT gay means you're attracted to the same sex so it is perfectly possible to be and not tell people
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    You could always be a closet fag, vote Repub, and hate all the openly gay guys in your work area.
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:22 PM GMT


    *applies Occam's Razor*

    Let's see...

    Heterosexual or homosexual = straight or gay.

    If straight is not a lifestyle, then neither is gay. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:23 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidYou could always be a closet fag, vote Repub, and hate all the openly gay guys in your work area.

    Yep, that's what the Conservaposse does here. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:34 PM GMT
    @all - Every person is entitled to live their life the way they want. Some can certainly choose to live in the dark, in the closet, in fear, in shame, a double life, and even a lie.

    I choose to live my life honest, whole, with integrity, and that means "out".

    Feel free to define yourself and your life as you choose. It's your choice. You've got one life and there's no return and no deposit.

    Be yourself. Be able to say proudly and publicly, "I am what I am".



    It takes balls to be who you are.
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    Apr 02, 2013 12:19 AM GMT
    wonofakind saidI don't understand why so many "out" gays give closeted men a hard time. It's THEIR decision. Everyone's personal situation is different and they deserve the respect and time it takes for them to deal with it THEMSELVES.

    I think a lot of it stems from the fact that many gay men CAN'T be closeted because they are obvious...and therefore, resent it when a gay guy can get away with being among the "straights".

    Then you may ask, "If he's a manly gay man then why doesn't he come out to eliminate the stereotypes?" Because the answer to that is...as much as you want to deny it...they aren't stereotypes. Look at pride. Naked men tweaked out, acting like women and rubbing sexual promiscuity in everyone's faces.

    Stop judging closeted men...let them come to terms with it ON THEIR OWN and worry about your own anus.


    You missed the point. I dont care if for whatever reason you are in the closet I just dont believe you can claim to be Gay and in the closet. And dont be a smartarse assuming everyone who is Out is super faggy and unable to hide their orientation, fool
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    Apr 02, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
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    wonofakind saidI don't understand why so many "out" gays give closeted men a hard time. It's THEIR decision. Everyone's personal situation is different and they deserve the respect and time it takes for them to deal with it THEMSELVES.

    I think a lot of it stems from the fact that many gay men CAN'T be closeted because they are obvious...and therefore, resent it when a gay guy can get away with being among the "straights".

    Then you may ask, "If he's a manly gay man then why doesn't he come out to eliminate the stereotypes?" Because the answer to that is...as much as you want to deny it...they aren't stereotypes. Look at pride. Naked men tweaked out, acting like women and rubbing sexual promiscuity in everyone's faces.

    Stop judging closeted men...let them come to terms with it ON THEIR OWN and worry about your own anus.


    You missed the point. I dont care if for whatever reason you are in the closet I just dont believe you can claim to be Gay and in the closet. And dont be a smartarse assuming everyone who is Out is super faggy and unable to hide their orientation, fool


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    Apr 02, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    It is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.
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    Apr 02, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidIt is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.


    Beautifully said. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 04, 2013 1:23 AM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidIt is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.

    I have to say there's something about this I see as true. We all have our struggles in life and coming out is never easy, for anyone. Support is helpful and this site is and hopefully will continue to be a place where guys can come and feel safe to talk about where they are and what support they need.
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    Apr 04, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
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    jo2hotbod saidIt is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.

    I have to say there's something about this I see as true. We all have our struggles in life and coming out is never easy, for anyone. Support is helpful and this site is and hopefully will continue to be a place where guys can come and feel safe to talk about where they are and what support they need.


    I fully respect the struggles of those in the closet. You are correct in that we were all there at one point in our journeys; however, in what way am I to support closeted homosexuals? I will not be in a relationship or even hookup with a closeted homosexual. My coming out cost me dearly and I'm not about to allow someone to have their cake and eat it too at no cost to themselves.
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    Apr 04, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    yiboz said
    wonofakind saidI don't understand why so many "out" gays give closeted men a hard time. It's THEIR decision. Everyone's personal situation is different and they deserve the respect and time it takes for them to deal with it THEMSELVES.

    I think a lot of it stems from the fact that many gay men CAN'T be closeted because they are obvious...and therefore, resent it when a gay guy can get away with being among the "straights".

    Then you may ask, "If he's a manly gay man then why doesn't he come out to eliminate the stereotypes?" Because the answer to that is...as much as you want to deny it...they aren't stereotypes. Look at pride. Naked men tweaked out, acting like women and rubbing sexual promiscuity in everyone's faces.

    Stop judging closeted men...let them come to terms with it ON THEIR OWN and worry about your own anus.


    You missed the point. I dont care if for whatever reason you are in the closet I just dont believe you can claim to be Gay and in the closet. And dont be a smartarse assuming everyone who is Out is super faggy and unable to hide their orientation, fool


    Being closeted doesn't mean you have sex with women or become celibate it just means you hide it as best you can. Being gay and being closeted are two different things. You can definitely be both.
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    yiboz saidSo if gay is the lifestyle of homosexual men, can you really be gay and in the closet.
    Wouldn't you just be a man with the likely potential for homosexual acts.
    Seriously gay and in the closet as a statement just annoys me, like straight acting.

    Clearly another case of OCL (obsessive compulsive labeling)

    case solved icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 04, 2013 2:12 AM GMT
    All this closet discussion and I have yet to do the Spring cleaning of mine. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
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    eb925guy said
    jo2hotbod saidIt is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.

    I have to say there's something about this I see as true. We all have our struggles in life and coming out is never easy, for anyone. Support is helpful and this site is and hopefully will continue to be a place where guys can come and feel safe to talk about where they are and what support they need.


    I fully respect the struggles of those in the closet. You are correct in that we were all there at one point in our journeys; however, in what way am I to support closeted homosexuals? I will not be in a relationship or even hookup with a closeted homosexual. My coming out cost me dearly and I'm not about to allow someone to have their cake and eat it too at no cost to themselves.


    That's a pretty ignorant view to take. Both of my long term relationships happened with men who were IN THE CLOSET. They were more serious and committed than any "out" guys that I dated. I don't understand why gays are so discriminatory towards closeted men. But that's okay...more for me.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    wonofakind said
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    eb925guy said
    jo2hotbod saidIt is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.

    I have to say there's something about this I see as true. We all have our struggles in life and coming out is never easy, for anyone. Support is helpful and this site is and hopefully will continue to be a place where guys can come and feel safe to talk about where they are and what support they need.


    I fully respect the struggles of those in the closet. You are correct in that we were all there at one point in our journeys; however, in what way am I to support closeted homosexuals? I will not be in a relationship or even hookup with a closeted homosexual. My coming out cost me dearly and I'm not about to allow someone to have their cake and eat it too at no cost to themselves.


    That's a pretty ignorant view to take. Both of my long term relationships happened with men who were IN THE CLOSET. They were more serious and committed than any "out" guys that I dated. I don't understand why gays are so discriminatory towards closeted men. But that's okay...more for me.



    Amen to that man. I'm a closet bi. I love the curves and shape of women and the masculinity...okay...muscles and cock men have. People can hate all they want, but I'm happy. As long as your truthful with yourself and those you choose to get involved with I don't see the problem.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:33 AM GMT
    wonofakindThen you may ask, "If he's a manly gay man then why doesn't he come out to eliminate the stereotypes?" Because the answer to that is...as much as you want to deny it...they aren't stereotypes. Look at pride. Naked men tweaked out, acting like women and rubbing sexual promiscuity in everyone's faces.


    There's a naked torso scolding me for being sexually promiscuous (can't even spell the word right) just because I'm out.

    jo2hotbod saidIt is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.


    I can respect this. Everyone faces their own situations and sometimes being out is just not feasible or even safe.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:39 AM GMT
    I'm an out of the closet homosexual.

    Gay, is also a lifestyle, like being a hipster is a lifestyle, both I can't afford to live out in the real world - for now.
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    Apr 04, 2013 4:18 AM GMT
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    wonofakindThen you may ask, "If he's a manly gay man then why doesn't he come out to eliminate the stereotypes?" Because the answer to that is...as much as you want to deny it...they aren't stereotypes. Look at pride. Naked men tweaked out, acting like women and rubbing sexual promiscuity in everyone's faces.


    There's a naked torso scolding me for being sexually promiscuous (can't even spell the word right) just because I'm out.

    jo2hotbod saidIt is amazing how much those who are out talk about those who are not and pass judgment on them while they forget how at one point they were in the very same place in their lives. They should damn well understand the whole process of coming out, the struggles and anxiety associated with it and respect what those who have not choosen to come out are dealing with more so than anyone. Cut the shit and support one another rather than being judgmental and insensitive just as all the homophobes out there are as they ridiculing us for what we simpy are.


    I can respect this. Everyone faces their own situations and sometimes being out is just not feasible or even safe.


    I never said ALL out men are sexually promiscuous. I just said that in MY personal experience, my two ltr were with closeted men and they were more committed than any out guys i dated. I was proving that it's not fair to discriminate against closeted men cuz they can be great catches too.