op, i see where you're coming from and you do have a point. to me, i think that there's way too many stuck up dudes to tell you the truth and they don't have a reason to be that way in the first place. that's only them stroking their ego up and it's quite annoying. you just want to tell those dudes that they aren't shit, get their heads out their ass and humble themselves. not every guy saying hello to you wants your dick. i'm not the type of guy that does hookups or any of that. i like to talk where i can get to know someone. it seems like there's too many gay men that seem to only communicate with other guys when they want some ass. it shouldn't be like that. not every guy is a fucking piece of meat that you can use for your pleasure or to boost your ego up. just because i say you're cute, sexy and compliment you doesn't mean that i'm going to bend over and let you fuck me in the ass or we can start fucking. besides, i'm not even comfortable to even date or even engage in things like kissing, touching, or any of that so if someone thinks i'm going to do that to them, they need chill out because i'm not the one that makes the first move or will even go about it like that.
i just look @ guys and their profiles where they say a whole lot of gibberish, basically talking out their ass and then showing an array of pics which basically say that they "feel" they're desirable because they THINK they're attractive and are datable.
to me, the problem with a lot of guys seem to be that they feel themselves way too much to the point where they think they're better than everyone when they ain't shit themselves.
some dudes egos are too big where they become unattractive. you can reject a guy and be cool about it. you don't have to be a douchebag where you're like "don't talk to me because i think you're ugly". you can be attractive and still be ugly because your personality stinks. there's plenty of guys that look good but i would never even give the time of day because their personalities and egos are shitty and it really shows from how they carry themselves and act like the world revolves around them. they think they're being confident BUT they're just being assholes.