Do you have the issue of everyone on gay sites ignoring you?

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    Apr 01, 2013 8:45 PM GMT
    I, regardless of what site I'm on am constantly getting ignored by guys or if they do message me all I ever get is "not interested, not my type"

    Is there a certain approach to take to avoid getting ignored? I mean I think I come across pretty chill
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    Apr 01, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    Get hotter, then maybe you'll be their type and they won't ignore you.
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    Apr 01, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidGet hotter, then maybe you'll be their type and they won't ignore you.


    Sorry I'm not up to your standards
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    Apr 01, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 said
    paulflexes saidGet hotter, then maybe you'll be their type and they won't ignore you.


    Sorry I'm not up to your standards
    Don't worry...not many people are. icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:05 PM GMT
    Tombo said
    CollegeDude27 said
    paulflexes saidGet hotter, then maybe you'll be their type and they won't ignore you.


    Sorry I'm not up to your standards


    Fuck all the haters, they only make us greater <3


    I can see
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:12 PM GMT
    You can't think that it's your fault that guys wont respond to you. chin up bud, just by looking at you I know you will be just fine when it comes to meeting guys.
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    If they're telling you "not interested" or "not my type", then no, there's nothing you can do to get on that guys radar. But, for every guy that's not interested in you, there's gonna be a few that are interested. You're probably gonna turn down some guys too. That's life.
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:33 PM GMT
    Seric saidYou can't think that it's your fault that guys wont respond to you. ...
    Wanna bet?
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    Apr 01, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    I think the OP is handsome and couldn't imagine why he is getting ignored.

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    Apr 01, 2013 9:39 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Seric saidYou can't think that it's your fault that guys wont respond to you. ...
    Wanna bet?


    sure icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 01, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    OP, after a while you learn not to care and move on. More than 1/2 of the guys you meet online are not going to be worth your time. Don't fret over it and just take it for what it is.
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    Apr 01, 2013 10:48 PM GMT
    Everyone has their own type so if you are ignored then it doesn't mean much overall. Wish the sites were hopping like they were years ago.
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    Apr 01, 2013 11:26 PM GMT
    On dating sites, I typically ignore people that make halfhearted attempts to engage me. One-click options like "X has sent you a smile! / X has poked you!" almost certainly guarantees an ignore from me, since it means that the person clearly didn't care enough to even say "hi".

    Hell, even if someone just plain says "hi" to me, there's a good chance I'll just delete the message if I'm not in a good mood that day. Think of it as an employer viewing a resume or cover letter - if the person doesn't seem like they're really trying, their info goes right to the trash.

    Even if I don't find you physically attractive, I'll still talk to you if you have something interesting to say. I like talking to people. But you've got to make an effort.

    PS: I like that you are from Danbury. That's the name locality of one of my favorite minerals, Danburite.
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    Apr 02, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    op, i see where you're coming from and you do have a point. to me, i think that there's way too many stuck up dudes to tell you the truth and they don't have a reason to be that way in the first place. that's only them stroking their ego up and it's quite annoying. you just want to tell those dudes that they aren't shit, get their heads out their ass and humble themselves. not every guy saying hello to you wants your dick. i'm not the type of guy that does hookups or any of that. i like to talk where i can get to know someone. it seems like there's too many gay men that seem to only communicate with other guys when they want some ass. it shouldn't be like that. not every guy is a fucking piece of meat that you can use for your pleasure or to boost your ego up. just because i say you're cute, sexy and compliment you doesn't mean that i'm going to bend over and let you fuck me in the ass or we can start fucking. besides, i'm not even comfortable to even date or even engage in things like kissing, touching, or any of that so if someone thinks i'm going to do that to them, they need chill out because i'm not the one that makes the first move or will even go about it like that.

    i just look @ guys and their profiles where they say a whole lot of gibberish, basically talking out their ass and then showing an array of pics which basically say that they "feel" they're desirable because they THINK they're attractive and are datable. icon_lol.gif to me, the problem with a lot of guys seem to be that they feel themselves way too much to the point where they think they're better than everyone when they ain't shit themselves.

    some dudes egos are too big where they become unattractive. you can reject a guy and be cool about it. you don't have to be a douchebag where you're like "don't talk to me because i think you're ugly". you can be attractive and still be ugly because your personality stinks. there's plenty of guys that look good but i would never even give the time of day because their personalities and egos are shitty and it really shows from how they carry themselves and act like the world revolves around them. they think they're being confident BUT they're just being assholes.
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    Apr 02, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    If you're looking for sex...you know you'll face rejection. even if you're hot...coz...each one has their own taste...

    But, if you're looking for friends, I can give you many suggestions:
    1.Improve your profile...give more description!
    2.Add pics(you said, you're not out to all, so you moved your pics to private) but have courage to face it! move your pics to public; coz even if you have 20-30 profile visitors a day, very few will ask...coz for most of them, it may feel a little desperate to ask for other person's pics to unlock!
    So, show who you're even if they don't ask!
    3. You don't need to be sexy to have a friend! I'm not sexy either...I managed to make more than 10 friends in less than 3 months...most of them are amazing people. & I'm talking to few other people whom I didn't made them friends yet!
    4.At first I did the same just like you & I was confused why many are ignoring me! then I moved my pics to public; I put myself more into forums so that other people can know me better...& then people started mailing me.

    Of 11 friends I currently have...I met 9 of them in this way...
    They mail me & I reply them or vice versa...

    Don't be discouraged...most of the people have amazing personality, but they fail because...they don't know how to make use of it!
    Once they discover themselves, they are the king of their own world! ;)
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    Apr 02, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    Rhi_BranOn dating sites, I typically ignore people that make halfhearted attempts to engage me. One-click options like "X has sent you a smile! / X has poked you!" almost certainly guarantees an ignore from me, since it means that the person clearly didn't care enough to even say "hi".

    Hell, even if someone just plain says "hi" to me, there's a good chance I'll just delete the message if I'm not in a good mood that day. Think of it as an employer viewing a resume or cover letter - if the person doesn't seem like they're really trying, their info goes right to the trash.

    Even if I don't find you physically attractive, I'll still talk to you if you have something interesting to say. I like talking to people. But you've got to make an effort.


    I agree 100%

    On dating sites (or even here on RJ for that matter), I'll almost always respond if the person writes something with substance that indicates he looked at my profile and is interested in starting a conversation. If I'm not interested, I'll say so early on but will still keep the option open to chat as friends.

    I rarely respond if the person just says "what's up" or something like that.

    OP - Change out your pics every now and then. That can often spark fresh interest. Maybe look over your profile and see if you have something written there that may turn people off. Have a friend look over your profile and critique it - that can give you an outsider's perspective. They may see something that you are missing.

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    Apr 02, 2013 7:03 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidGet hotter, then maybe you'll be their type and they won't ignore you.


    Cant argue with Gay Truth.

    Deny all you want, but on websites you're nothing but a picture. Pretty pictures get second looks.
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    Apr 02, 2013 9:03 AM GMT
    I get ignored a lot but I can cope with that
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    Apr 02, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    im sorry is there anyone on this thread???? im so busy ignoring everyone i cant tell..
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    Apr 02, 2013 4:53 PM GMT
    I'd ask the OP what he's looking for: just plain sex or in fact a relationship.

    After two relationships that lasted 4 years [3 years the first one and 1 year the last one] I used to see myself as disgusting, like a vomit that no man would ever see me as desiderable. Now, after some time I have understood that I am not hot at all [I'd still consider myself ugly] but everyone has something special... be it nice thighs, nice legs, nice ass, big cock, nice eyes that can be useful for sex or a real relationship.

    However, I wouldn't actually have a serious relationship with someone I meet on the Internet. I don't know why.