Hot Listing Rules?

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    Apr 02, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    I just read someone's profile who was outraged that people were hot listing him without getting to know him first. He demanded that it stop.
    Is there any hot listing etiquette? I'm new here and thought it was just for fun. I've been hot listing left and right. There are so many great looking guys here and I don't want to offend anyone.
    John
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    Apr 02, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    ^^^

    Yeah, have to agree with this.

    Who wouldn't find a hotlisting flattering?

    I don't buddy list because my peeps already know who they are. A couple creepers try to track me down through buddies, I don''t need to advertise them. One guy went through the trouble of tracking down my last name from a marathon photo and now follows every race and time I run. I know some day he'll show up at a race and it creeps me the hell out! He seems to think we are great buds though. Another reason why I don't discuss upcoming races until completed.
  • FitAquarian

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    Apr 02, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    I am confused why anyone would turn down the chance to have their profile viewed by more people. Better odds right?

    I have a newbie question though. Can people see which guys have hotlisted me?
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    Apr 02, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]yourname2000 said[/cite]Sounds like the guy was a douche. Don't worry about it. He doesn't get to decide whether people hotlist him or not, and if he's really bothered about it (I doubt he is) then he'd make his pics "private".


    Yeah, I agree! I find it flattering whenever someone hotlists me, but it bothers me if some guy Buddy Lists me without even bothering to chat or message with me first.

    Hotlisting is different. It's based on your personal opinion, which you're entitled to.
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    Apr 02, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    Hotlists are overrated. When I'm hotlisted, I'm flattered and I thank the other person. That is what I can control. The other stuff, like if/how they respond to an email or a hotlist....meh... its not really worth caring about to be honest. In fact, I've stopped hotlisting guys. You can't control it and guys very easily misinterpret what you've written anyhow.
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    Apr 02, 2013 4:55 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidSounds like the guy was a douche. Don't worry about it. He doesn't get to decide whether people hotlist him or not, and if he's really bothered about it (I doubt he is) then he'd make his pics "private".

    Don't expect people you hotlist to reply back to you....some will say "thanks" others won't. And hotlist whoever the fuck you like. Some guys have thousands of people in their hotlists; others have none. Some people hotlist guys they want to fuck; others guys they want to look like; others guys who they think are smart or funny in the forums. There's no right or wrong way to use the hotlisting feature.

    Buddylisting is different: a lot of guys find out-of-the-blue buddylisting to be creepy or misguided (myself included). And buddylisting does require the other person to buddylist you back, so best to initiate contact first and then, when the time is right, buddylist (when you actually are "buddies".)


    This. There is no way to tell why someone hotlisted you. Wait, there is. Ask. I hotlist guys I find attractive physically, without regard to whether we are compatible in any way.

    But . . .

    yourname2000 said
    FitAquarian saidI am confused why anyone would turn down the chance to have their profile viewed by more people. Better odds right?

    I have a newbie question though. Can people see which guys have hotlisted me?

    No


    Not exactly. They can't see from your profile, but they can from the guy who hotlisted you.
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    Apr 02, 2013 5:27 AM GMT
    Actually, pretty simple to see who has hotlisted.

    But... don't understand why the girl is getting her knickers in a twist. icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 02, 2013 5:30 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    shortbutsweet said
    yourname2000 said
    FitAquarian saidI am confused why anyone would turn down the chance to have their profile viewed by more people. Better odds right?

    I have a newbie question though. Can people see which guys have hotlisted me?

    No


    Not exactly. They can't see from your profile, but they can from the guy who hotlisted you.

    Be very afraid of anyone who individually checks all 330,000 RJ profiles to see who has hotlisted you....very, very afraid. icon_lol.gif
    {Insert Stalking PSA Here}
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    I don't mind being hot listed, I mean it's a compliment, why would I complaint about that? icon_biggrin.gif... However, I do take it more as a compliment if the guy doesn't have 3,230 guys on his Hot List.
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:12 AM GMT
    Exactly two fellows insisted I "unhot-list" them, and I happily obliged. They are no longer members of this site; I did nothing to get them removed, but anyone who's that unhinged never remains here very long.
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:19 AM GMT
    A_X91 saidI don't mind being hot listed, I mean it's a compliment, why would I complaint about that? icon_biggrin.gif... However, I do take it more as a compliment if the guy doesn't have 3,230 guys on his Hot List.


    that makes sense...
  • FitAquarian

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    Apr 02, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    Genre said
    yourname2000 said
    shortbutsweet said
    yourname2000 said
    FitAquarian saidI am confused why anyone would turn down the chance to have their profile viewed by more people. Better odds right?

    I have a newbie question though. Can people see which guys have hotlisted me?

    No


    Not exactly. They can't see from your profile, but they can from the guy who hotlisted you.

    Be very afraid of anyone who individually checks all 330,000 RJ profiles to see who has hotlisted you....very, very afraid. icon_lol.gif
    {Insert Stalking PSA Here}


    I figure most of the guys who stumble unto my profile while browsing other peoples lists are not looking for me in the first place but individually checking profiles with stealth mode off probably increases views too. Although that's all well and good, I feel that posting on the forums gives other people a better impression of who you are and is more likely to attract guys with common interests.
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
    they have to be white
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    FitAquarian saidI figure most of the guys who stumble unto my profile while browsing other peoples lists are not looking for me in the first place but individually checking profiles with stealth mode off probably increases views too. Although that's all well and good, I feel that posting on the forums gives other people a better impression of who you are and is more likely to attract guys with common interests.


    Absolutely. And repel guys without common interests, which is fine, too.
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:43 AM GMT
    I just hot listed everyone posting in this thread! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:44 AM GMT
    I look at hot list as a bookmark, buddy list as there being a mutual interest.
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    wow! some people get too whiny for simple things!...
    they were hot listed followed by block list! lol

    I wonder how they maintain their friends and family in real life!
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    Apr 02, 2013 6:56 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    shortbutsweet said
    yourname2000 said
    FitAquarian saidI am confused why anyone would turn down the chance to have their profile viewed by more people. Better odds right?

    I have a newbie question though. Can people see which guys have hotlisted me?

    No


    Not exactly. They can't see from your profile, but they can from the guy who hotlisted you.

    Be very afraid of anyone who individually checks all 330,000 RJ profiles to see who has hotlisted you....very, very afraid. icon_lol.gif


    FitAquarian just wants to be extra certain nobody knows he's hot. That's why no n00dz.
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    Apr 02, 2013 1:52 PM GMT
    Just as someone else stated, I also use it more as a bookmark than anything. I don't hotlist men that I want sex with. I hotlist men that I admire for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, it is nothing more than admiring their look and using it as my own motivator when I get discouraged about my own health and nutrition practices.

    I would hope that when someone sees that I have hotlisted them, it is usually because there is something about their definition, attitude, "before-after" pics, etc,. that I admire. Nothing sexual or creepy.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Apr 06, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    I wouldn't agree with that for the hot list but its odd when someone buddy lists you and has never previously messages you. Maybe they should add an accept feature like Facebook
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    Apr 06, 2013 7:49 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter saidI just read someone's profile who was outraged that people were hot listing him without getting to know him first. He demanded that it stop.
    Is there any hot listing etiquette? I'm new here and thought it was just for fun. I've been hot listing left and right. There are so many great looking guys here and I don't want to offend anyone.
    John


    It's one thing to get irritated about someone buddy listing you without ever having spoken with that person. (Even then, half of the time it's because people clicked the wrong link.) It's another thing to get upset because people hot listed you, which is essentially the same thing as giving them a compliment. People need to get over themselves.
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    Apr 06, 2013 8:06 PM GMT
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    yourname2000 said
    FitAquarian saidI am confused why anyone would turn down the chance to have their profile viewed by more people. Better odds right?

    I have a newbie question though. Can people see which guys have hotlisted me?

    No


    What about the homepage, left side bar, search for guys: the option "guys who think I'm hot". Then hit search. That should be the list of people hotlisting you, no? icon_question.gif


    You misunderstood Fit's question-- (reworded) "Can OTHER people see which guys have hot listed me?"

    Meaning; Yes, you can see them by doing what you said, but others can not see who else is hot listing you.
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    Apr 06, 2013 8:25 PM GMT
    Much like the legendary Facebook poke, RJ's hotlisting is rather subject to interpretation depending on who does the hotlisting. If they've hotlisted hundreds or thousands of people, it's probably not meant to mean more than "Hey, you're a good looking bloke. Just wanted to let you know." If their hotlist consists of a much smaller number of people (under 50 maybe?), then they take it a bit more seriously.

    Though I acknowledge the above observations, I don't try to read too much else into hotlists. If someone hotlists me and they aren't a random pictureless profile, I'll say thanks and maybe a conversation will strike up. If not, it's not a big deal.

    Personally, I try to keep my hotlist below 15 because I don't want to be a hotlist slut. :icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2013 8:39 PM GMT
    Just joined today and the first msg i got was someone hot list me but was a blank profile.

    Well least i know what it means now.

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    Apr 28, 2013 12:22 PM GMT
    I know what you mean. Yesterday someone emailed me that he found my profile interesting and wanted to Skype me. His profile was blank too other than saying he was from Pakistan (I'm in New York). What are these people thinking?