Apr 02, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
Really need your opinion on something who does really bothers me
I met that guy 3 months ago on Grindr- he's not local though and lives about 200 miles from me...we managed to meet and now are seeing each other at least twice a month for 2 or 3 days at the time...met his parents few days ago for Easter dinner...everything seems good but it's not.
I was bit annoyed with him still using Grindr but he assured me it wasn't his intentions to meet anyone, was just here to chat with guys he met ( not physically) on here. I wasn't convinced ( I'm old school and think that if you are dating someone, you don't need to use those sites) but at the same time,we just met so I though ok ,go ahead. One evening, I create a false profile ( I know, a bit despicable) and started to chat with him when he was online. Few minutes later, I managed to get a sex date. I called him straight away and told him that it was over and even though we weren't officially bf, I felt betrayed. He apologised and I accepted to see him to talk about it. We spent the following week end together, all good and talked about that. He says it was bored that day ( when i caught him on Grindr)and assured me he wasn't going to meet that guy... That I don't believe but I still forgave him.
The long distance thing is a problem but he's planning to move back to London at the end of the year, so well probably see each other more...we got a week away planned in July and a show in October, so the guy is making plans with me....he promised me to delete his Grindr account.
Then yesterday I found him on Scruff...as you can imagine I was a bit upset so I create another profile and started to chat to him again....tried to lure him again for a sex hook up but didnt worked this time, he just wanted to meet for a coffee....he even mentioned to that "guy" he was kind of seeing someone and just wanted to meet for drinks....so my question is should I trust him? Is it ok to let him go for drinks with other guys? I know he doesnt have many friends where he lives (he moved three years ago because of a previous relationship but wants to move back to london)I understand that the relation just started and he might not know what is feelings are at the moment towards me....and also know I should stop snooping around because it will drive me crazy and will eventually ruin the relation between us...so I decided not to mention that I know he's got a Scruff account and just see how it goes...any advices or personal experiences ....sorry for the long post and my not so perfect English, it's not my first language ;-)