Not responding to emails right away

  • Guycicle

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    Apr 02, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    I was reading an email yesterday and ended up going out before I responded to it. I got a follow-up email today saying 'or not . . . don't worry about it.' I was planning on writing this guy back but now it seems like it would be awkward and that I'm doing it just because of his second email.

    And for the record, I am pretty flaky about responding to emails. Sometimes I respond right away and sometimes not. Sometimes I have every intention of responding to them but they fall through the cracks, and sometimes I have no interest in responding at all. But when I get these types of 'follow-up' emails I get a mix of feeling guilty and annoyed.

    I know it doesn't help either that you can check sent messages to see if the ones that you sent have been read, but I'm definitely guilty of getting annoyed when my email's been read and I don't get a response right away, and assume that response won't come at all.

    Anyway, just had to vent a bit but I'm also curious to see what you guys think.

    Gracias, muy amables =)
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    Apr 02, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    I was going to reply to this but then I realised I couldn't be bothered icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 02, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    Since there's no "mark unread" feature here, it's easy to forget to reply. What I do is resist the temptation to read a message until I'm ready to reply to it.
  • HorrorHound

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    Apr 02, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    I'm tremendously bad at responding sometimes.

    I have this issue sometimes where I, on impulse, will open up & read mail at a time where I can't really reply back immediately & then I get stuck on something else & don't get to it in time.

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    Apr 02, 2013 8:41 PM GMT
    I try every effort to respond to emails ASAP but work and real life take precendence over emails. I'm not trying to be rude but that's the way it is. For me, it doesn't bother me one bit if I receive a reply days or weeks. But it does catch me off guard. I received a reply from a guy and didn't remember who he was until I saw the time stamp of my original email....3 months ago.

    Point overall.....take your time in responding! There's no set rule on a timeframe to give a reply.
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    Apr 02, 2013 8:48 PM GMT
    this is why I usually don't email guys, because I might run into guys like you who wont have the decency to say anything back. I'm not saying its a bad thing, but it might as well be a clear cut rejection on the senders end.

    but that's life right icon_razz.gif

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    Apr 02, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    patience is a virtue
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    Apr 02, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    I try to respond to every I get in a timely manner. I don't get a ton like some guys do. Occasionally, I read one at I time when I can't respond. I forget about it for a while, but I eventually remember.

    In your case, the guy seems a little impatient. One day isn't a long time to wait for a response. People have more important things going on in real life. (Well, not me, but other people do.) On the other hand, if it was important to you, you wouldn't be so flaky about responding to e-mails.

    This is why I don't usually e-mail people I don't know. It's discouraging to write a nice e-mail to someone only to have it completely ignored.
  • Webster666

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    Apr 02, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    Just like regular mail, 95% of the email I get is junk email, requiring no response.
    And, it takes me less than 5 minutes to respond to the rest.

  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 02, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    I'm the exact same way.
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    Apr 02, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    it happens....people are busy. good guys will understand this. if they get pissy about it, then its probably someone i wouldn't want to be chatting with anyway.
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    Apr 02, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    Previously, I was great with my emails. Always responded. But these past month or so...I don't know. I just haven't been motivated to read and respond. So I leave them there.

    So if you send me one....SORRY! I still love the peeps who want to talk to me though.
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    Apr 02, 2013 11:23 PM GMT
    I read this thread earlier, but am just now replying.

    Does this mean I'm just not into the OP and all other respondents? icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 02, 2013 11:25 PM GMT
    I get a lot of the 1-2-whammies. Someone Bud lists me, Hot lists me, and then I find out they are an 18-year-old from the Phillipines and so I block them.

    This happens A LOT on here.
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    Apr 03, 2013 12:10 AM GMT
    I usually don't mind if people didn't reply to me ASAP, or never at all...because, I don't jump into judgement without knowing the other side of the story...They may be busy, or they had forgotten to reply, or simply, they just don't want to!

    When it comes to me, I don't like to make others wait for me...So, if I'm busy, I usually say "Sorry, I'm busy, I'll get back to you later", or "I have some work to do, I'll reply to your mail later" etc.,.
    what If I don't want to reply? well...it never occurred to me...I usually reply to everyone.