Contact after hookup?

  • Myles_

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    Apr 04, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    Okay, so despite being on a sexual conquest for many years, I don't know how to properly maintain contact (for on-going fucking) after a hookup. I'm usually top if that matters. Any advice gaybros?
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    Apr 04, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    You must be wanting to know about how to create a fuck-buddy relationship or go a step up and create a friends with benefits relationship since you mentioned "on going fucking". If both of you are into each other sexually and it was great, but don't want to get involved with the lovie dovie stuff, set it up. Just ask if he wants to continue with it like that.
  • Myles_

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    Apr 04, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    of course, which is why I asked the question in the first place. Excuse my brute choice of words.
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    Apr 04, 2013 1:55 AM GMT
    And you being a top only matters before hooking up. The assumption now is that you have hooked up with a great sex partner. Now you just have to ask and have that conversation. Just make sure you both understand the rules and will be honest if feelings start getting in the way. Hopefully, you will get someone who gets that and is on the same page with you.
  • Myles_

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    Apr 04, 2013 1:57 AM GMT
    Like should I text him right after? When is a good time even?
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:36 AM GMT
    Why not talk about it before he leaves or you leave? You just have to feel it out. If you can talk right then, do so. If not, give your number and see if they want to hook up again. You will know.
  • Fable

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    Apr 04, 2013 3:39 AM GMT
    But I LOVE HIM!!!


    Oh wait wrong topic.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:41 AM GMT
    Silly fable. LOL icon_biggrin.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 04, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    next time ... spend the night and have breakfast in the morning
  • Myles_

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    Apr 04, 2013 1:36 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidnext time ... spend the night and have breakfast in the morning


    Aint nobody got time for that!
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    Apr 04, 2013 2:00 PM GMT
    Myles ..you are asking for advice..why are your responses so ABRUPT and DICKISH!!

    Be nice... these guys could have moved on to the next threa and completely ignored yours.

  • Myles_

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    Apr 04, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidMyles ..you are asking for advice..why are your responses so ABRUPT and DICKISH!!

    Be nice... these guys could have moved on to the next threa and completely ignored yours.



    Wut. Can you provide examples of how I'm "abrupt" and "dickish" with my response?
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    Apr 04, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    Myles_ said
    AMoonHawk saidnext time ... spend the night and have breakfast in the morning


    Aint nobody got time for that!


    this comment is kinda abrupt and dickish IMO...
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    Apr 04, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    Myles_ said
    AMoonHawk saidnext time ... spend the night and have breakfast in the morning

    Aint nobody got time for that!

    Maybe not, on a college student's schedule. So try to hook up on a Friday or Saturday night.

    A sleepover after a hookup can really help to form a bond, that can lead to follow-ups, maybe a relationship of some kind. When I was in your shoes (or sheets) I was always conscious of complimenting the guy, keeping the conversation positive & upbeat, no negatives. And smiling!

    And then at parting saying something like: "It was really great meeting you, I hope we can keep in touch, maybe do something together again. You got my number?" Which prompts him to give you his, too, and/or email. And then just follow-up with him. He'll either reply or he won't, but your odds are lessened if you wait solely for him to take the lead.
  • Myles_

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    Apr 04, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    hairyandym said
    Myles_ said
    AMoonHawk saidnext time ... spend the night and have breakfast in the morning


    Aint nobody got time for that!


    this comment is kinda abrupt and dickish IMO...


    ohh, its a reference (see: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFEoMO0pc7k)
  • Myles_

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    Apr 04, 2013 4:53 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    Myles_ said
    AMoonHawk saidnext time ... spend the night and have breakfast in the morning

    Aint nobody got time for that!

    Maybe not, on a college student's schedule. So try to hook up on a Friday or Saturday night.

    A sleepover after a hookup can really help to form a bond, that can lead to follow-ups, maybe a relationship of some kind. When I was in your shoes (or sheets) I was always conscious of complimenting the guy, keeping the conversation positive & upbeat, no negatives. And smiling!

    And then at parting saying something like: "It was really great meeting you, I hope we can keep in touch, maybe do something together again. You got my number?" Which prompts him to give you his, too, and/or email. And then just follow-up with him. He'll either reply or he won't, but your odds are lessened if you wait solely for him to take the lead.


    Thanks icon_smile.gif. How do you invite yourself to "sleep over" though. Isn't the onus on the guy who hosted to invite you?
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    Apr 04, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    Erm.. they contact you for more when they are horny.