BULLIES ON RJ

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    Apr 04, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    Why are there so many on here? It disappoints me when I see guys on here (who have probably been bullied at one point or another in their lives for being gay) being rude and offending others. I'm almost certain that if this wasn't the internet, most of the bullies on here would be too chicken shit to do or say what they do on here in real life.

    Have you been bullied? Whether on here outside of the internet? How did you deal with it or how are you dealing with it now?
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    Apr 04, 2013 4:59 AM GMT
    I'm not the type to be easily bullied...

    On the forums:
    ..Once in a while I might fly off the handle and post something mean ..Usually in response to someone that I think is an asshole, or someone playing games in the forums.. 95% of the time my posts are either positive, eyeopening or quirky...

    Lately very quirky..so many peeps are all gloom and doom.. !!
    Cheer up ..Gosh!
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    Apr 04, 2013 5:51 AM GMT
    I will assume this is in part aimed at me.

    And no, you are not bullied.

    Bullying is intimidating or harassing someone helpless who can not defend themselves. You are an idiot, but not helpless.

    If it bothers you simply put me on ignore and your problems will be solved. You are not special enough for me to create another profile just to "bully" you.

    Or if it REALLY bothers you, simply ask me to stop, and I will ignore you.

    A bunch of catty gay guys on the internetz calling each other names is not bullying.

    /thread.
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 04, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    Shut ur trap OP

    You twerp icon_mad.gif
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    Apr 04, 2013 7:29 AM GMT
    The op is fairly new and has proved himself to be just as unlikeable as Roadragerob and chunky stud. Maybe it's his shitty personality that is the cause of so much conflict...
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    Apr 04, 2013 11:41 AM GMT
    It's much easier to ignore the internet warriors

    Yeah there is some bullying here and might be a double standard of what is considered bullying but what can you do? lol
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    Apr 04, 2013 11:43 AM GMT
    I actually think some of the "bullies" are funny and some of the complaints are boring. In this case, I'd say, quit complaining, I'd much prefer a smile from a post than PC police making sure no ones feelings get hurt.
  • Tombo

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    Apr 04, 2013 11:47 AM GMT
    Well yeah but when people are sending private messages of abuse it is a different story
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    Apr 04, 2013 11:56 AM GMT
    Tombo saidWell yeah but when people are sending private messages of abuse it is a different story


    I've never sent a PM in regards to anything on this damn site. Though I've gotten my fair share of hate mail. I'll compile a greatest hits thread some day to let everyone read....
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    Apr 04, 2013 12:03 PM GMT
    madfacts saidI actually think some of the "bullies" are funny and some of the complaints are boring. In this case, I'd say, quit complaining, I'd much prefer a smile from a post than PC police making sure no ones feelings get hurt.


    I hear ya but that's why I say double standard to a degree. Tough love approach is on here suggesting that people get thick skin (which I actually agree people should have) but somewhere on another forum or social website some gay person gets picked on and commits suicide, and all of a sudden those people are heartless bastards and to say that person should've just ignored them or had thick skin would be a no no lol
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    Apr 04, 2013 12:04 PM GMT
    Take a look at yourself and what you're putting out there, too. I've been around here a while and while I've gotten in spats a couple of times, that's no different than real life. I have never gotten a hate email - in fact the opposite, sometimes a guy I've been fighting with on the forums will write to continue the discussion and usually we end up happy for having the chance to do it.


    If you're being obtuse, insulting, rude, arrogant or cruel, and especially if you're also oversensitive about slights the other direction (I.e., you can dish it out but you can't take it), you're going to have a problem.

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    Apr 04, 2013 12:49 PM GMT
    showme saidTake a look at yourself and what you're putting out there, too. I've been around here a while and while I've gotten in spats a couple of times, that's no different than real life. I have never gotten a hate email - in fact the opposite, sometimes a guy I've been fighting with on the forums will write to continue the discussion and usually we end up happy for having the chance to do it.


    If you're being obtuse, insulting, rude, arrogant or cruel, and especially if you're also oversensitive about slights the other direction (I.e., you can dish it out but you can't take it), you're going to have a problem.




    There are bullies on here? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
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    Apr 04, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    OP has been a bit of a dick himself, I wouldnt call it bullying but wankerism
    ;)
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    Bullies do exist on Real Jock.

    1. I bully back.
    2. I join the community "swarm" when we see an asshat bullying a weaker, newer member. The community polices itself and can render a virtual pwning upon the asshat bully.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:35 PM GMT
    It's the internet.
    People feel they are more entitled to being an asshole because they're safely behind a computer screen/laptop.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
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    jmusmc85 saidA bunch of catty gay guys on the internetz calling each other names is not bullying.

    I'm inclined to believe that. I think it kind of diminishes real bullying actually that kids feel in situations like school that they can't escape...

    Agreed. We're so politically sensitized that we redefine everything.

    This reminds me of last year's big news where a "fat" anchorwoman deflected an issue with her weight by grandstanding against "bullying." Specifically, she was called out for being a bad role model by a fit lawyer viewer in a private letter and televised a rebuttal positioning herself as the mother of young daughters. But instead of telling that viewer that she was in fact a role model by succeeding in a traditionally "thin" industry due to her own merit (maybe because nepotism was at play given her co-anchor husband and famous actor brother), she called him a bully and to prove she wasn't taking his remarks personally (despite her abject defensivenes what with immediately blaming her weight on a thyroid problem and playing the "daughter" card) went on an anti-bullying vendetta, after which he was further vilified and mocked by the very media talking heads accusing him of bullying. Here, the poor schmuck is even more "bullied" by other "anti-bully TV news personalities" who denigrate him for being in shape (as most did) and mock him for having a photo taken of himself on his bike wearing a (heavens!) tank top and bike helmut. (Imagine how they'd react to the typical RJ profile picture!):



    That very contentious thread is here: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2708284
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:46 PM GMT
    LOL @ people who actually feel bullied on an internet forum. .

    log the fuck off.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    I was bullied on here.. or really I was threatened for use of a particular word. Not really sure what the repercussions could possibly be, but it made me rethink my involvement on RJ. As you can see, I am still here.
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    Apr 04, 2013 3:52 PM GMT
    NerdMonastery saidIt's the internet.
    People feel they are more entitled to being an asshole because they're safely behind a computer screen/laptop.


    Yup.
    Take the high-road, ignore or simply choose not to participate with the high-school "Mean Girls".

    ...although, I must admit, it's sometimes entertaining to egg them on until their panties are in knots, I've witnessed a few hissy-fits on RJ....always good for a laugh! icon_cool.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 04, 2013 4:03 PM GMT
    Because mental defects can now find their way onto the internet too
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    Apr 04, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    Sort'a expect to be bullied, if I set at the wrong table; in fact, I rather enjoy it, or did till I grew up and realized the only head games I was playing were with myself.
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    Apr 04, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    Fuck everybody.
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    Apr 04, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    Яка різниця, якщо ви отримаєте знущаються, якщо вони пошкодити ваші почуття, залишити і зробити щось з вашого життя.
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    Apr 04, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    Wonofakind, I have absolutely no doubt that this topic will attract the most egregious bullies here, all of whom will protest that they are shocked, shocked that there's any bullying going on here. If fact, that is how they will identify themselves.

    There is an element of truth in the argument that participation in this site is voluntary, blocking is available, etc. But here's why that's a load of crap:

    The world is a better place for all of us if there is somewhere young (or even old) gay men can go to share their doubts and struggles, get thoughtful advice, and be safe from attack. Evidently this is not that place, but I can see there are many who are trying to make it that way.

    I know for a fact that some of you "bullies" have the capacity to put your egoism aside and really help someone less fortunate, less confident, or less experienced than yourself. I've seen you do it. Do it more.

    I'm no saint. I'll beat the living daylights (rhetorically, of course) out of a bully who is stupid enough to come after me. (And often if I see you come after someone I think can't defend himself.) But I would rather appeal to your saner instincts, if you have any.

    I am reminded of an exchange from Breaking Bad:
    Gustavo 'Gus' Fring: "They're probing for weakness."
    Mike Ehrmantraut: "They didn't find any."
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    Apr 04, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidBullies do exist on Real Jock.

    1. I bully back.
    2. I join the community "swarm" when we see an asshat bullying a weaker, newer member. The community polices itself and can render a virtual pwning upon the asshat bully.


    I'm new here. Does this happen? I would like to see an example where the "bully" wasn't just someone the "swarm" disagreed with.