OP....I've been a Vegetarian since I was 12. I've only had 3 relationships that have been of 3 yrs or more each. All 3 were with carnivores. It's a balancing act. They all knew that I was a Vegetarian for the right/ethical reasons. And that I choose to not participate in the needless suffering of animals.
They all grew up, as most do, in the ignorant bliss and safety of not really wanting to know what happens to animals just so people can kill them and eat them.
I gave them a choice....to either allow me to show them the horror that's inflicted on animals or not.
If they chose to see the ugly truth of what really goes on, and still decide to eat this flesh, then we would no longer be together.
If they chose not to see the ugly truth, then we would not discuss it again. However, we would NOT preach or criticize the other for their choice. None of them chose to see the truth.
As for friends it's a 50/50 split. Half Vegetarians and the other half not. We really have no issues. When I have them over during the warmer months, they can bring their own flesh to prepare and eat. Otherwise they eat the Vegetarian meals I have served.
I have to tell you though....Vegans? Wow! Now you guys are a whole different story. Even I can't get along with them at times. LOL!
Just do what YOU feel comfortable with and can handle. You will meet real douchebags like "jonnyboy" who will say ignorant/despicable things such as he did eariler....." i just want to grill small animals."
...just to annoy you. Write these scumbags off. You will find that these loudmouthed dicks are usually the ones in the worst health. (For example on bigmouth's profile? He lists a 36" waist. Umm, yeah. The dead flesh is doing him a world of good.
Be around who you feel most comfortable with and deal with it. Don't point fingers and preach.