How do I know ??????

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    Apr 04, 2013 9:09 PM GMT
    Not even sure how to ask this, so if it seems jumbled I apologize now. I have never been with another guy, plenty of women, although for as long as I can remember I have alwaysbeen attracted to certain men ( I mean, I am on this site !!!) . But I havent a clue how you would approach another guy when you dont even know if he is gay himself. Could be an expensive dental job if yor wrong. I seem to have no problem picking up signals from women who are intrested but have never got that same " thing" from another guy. How do I know??? How do you guys know if someone your attracted to is into you ??( no pun intended )

    Here is a kicker in all this. I am now 51.....and before you all wretch, I dont think I look to bad for 51, and I am my biggest critic. But I have never been attracted to anyone in my age set, male or female. I have always been attracted to younger ....not illegal young.....but younger then me for sure. Another wrinkle in ths screwed up guys life.....lol. I guess I am a little hesitent to think that there would actually be someone younger who would consider another older male. But anyway, one thing at a time. If anyone has any suggestions for me ....it would b greatly appreciated.......later
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 04, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    Soooooooo .... no guy has ever flirted with you?
    It's common for older guys to be attracted to younger ... they miss being young and are attracted to wishing they were that age again ... I suggest you stay with what you know ... it's hard to teach an old dog new tricks ... and old dogs will be eaten alive by the younger ones
  • Tombo

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    Apr 04, 2013 9:39 PM GMT
    There are some younger guys who are into older men, you'd be suprised!

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    Apr 04, 2013 10:25 PM GMT
    to amoon hawk.....not worried about being ' eaten alive by the younger ones"....I guess my question was how do I know if some guy is flirting with you and how can you tell the difference between flirting and gay or just friendly but straight....but thanks for trying to help.....lol
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    Apr 04, 2013 11:07 PM GMT
    buckoh saidto amoon hawk.....not worried about being ' eaten alive by the younger ones"....I guess my question was how do I know if some guy is flirting with you and how can you tell the difference between flirting and gay or just friendly but straight....but thanks for trying to help.....lol



    Lots of eye contact
    smiles and smirks
    the occasional look away when you turn in their general direction
    touching is a good sign. Not necessarily in a sexual manner, for example if he laughs and touches your arm.
    Just like girls they will tend to play with their hair or flip it, guys will brush the back of their heads when they talk to you
    guys will have a tendency to flex in front of the ones they are interested in if they are the more dominant type
    guys will put their hands in their pockets and point to their genitals, a subconscious message that they themselves aren't aware of.

    I know there are a lot more, but those are the ones that I can think of from the top of my head. I'll get back to you when I remember some more.

    EDIT: if they are shy, when you talk to them they can't keep eye contact at all!
    They tend to stutter on their words
    they are figgity.
    if any of their friends comes and starts talking to you out of no where, and starts asking about your interests. (that is almost a dead give away!)
  • Webster666

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    Apr 04, 2013 11:11 PM GMT
    A) You will find lots of gay men in gay bars.
    B) Be casually friendly, and see what sort of reaction you get.
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    Apr 05, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    Well a lot of guys do like younger guys but amazingly enough many very young guys like older guys too. I'm older than you (by several years!) and I get a lot of attention from younger guys on here and in person. I'm often flattered and confused but I also like flirting with guys. Eye contact, that's the answer!
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    Apr 05, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    My boyfriends twice my age if it makes you feel any better, and I wouldn't change it for the world. I only find myself attracted to the 40+ bracket for the most part. Strange, I know, but being happy is all that matters.