OkCupid Guys viewing your profile but no one messages you

  • LoveAndPeace

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    Apr 05, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    Does anyone else have this issue? I joined the site a couple weeks ago and no one even bothers messaging me back after I say hi..maybe its my profile or the way I look? Idk ..anyone else have this issue?
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    Apr 05, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    As the website name says
    It's 'Okay-Cupid', means its success rate is okay, not 'excellent-cupid'!

    & If you say 'hi' many will take it as 'bye'
    So, try introducing with more text! like something you like in their profile etc.,.
    Check your profile once more!

    And the last very important thing is, it's internet
    'Take it easy' & Don't expect much.
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    Apr 05, 2013 4:11 AM GMT
    I would recommend saying more than "hi" in your initial message. You don't need to write a book, but a few sentences that implied you read their profile makes you look more interested. Focus on one or two things you have in common. Maybe ask a question, that sometimes will prompt a response.

    I rarely respond to people on sites like OkCupid if they only say "hi" or "what's up?" when they message. There's just nothing to work with there. No offense, but it just feels like the guy isn't really trying.

    You're a cute enough guy, so I'm sure it's not your looks. Try different strategies when messaging and you'll hit upon a few techniques that work.

    Good luck! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 05, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    LoveAndPeace saidDoes anyone else have this issue? I joined the site a couple weeks ago and no one even bothers messaging me back after I say hi..maybe its my profile or the way I look? Idk ..anyone else have this issue?


    yeah, FUCK THAT SITE. it's full of egotistical douchebags that think they're better than everyone else but yet they wonder why they can't find any guy outthere to date them.
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:57 PM GMT
    I find OKC and to a lesser extent POF are mainly guys who are terrified of sending the first message. It has the atmosphere of a school disco with no alcohol, people's inhibitions are too much for them.
  • WApilot

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    Apr 06, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    It's the internet, don't expect much out of people.

    But I will say, probably adding something more to your message than just "hi" probably would garner a better response from individuals. Just saying "hi" on the internet to a random person is like saying, 'you're not interesting enough for me to initiate a real dialogue with you'

    Separate subject. I met my current boyfriend over Growlr, I initiated the conversation, but I said more than "hi" in his response back, so did he... If he would've just responded back with "hi", I know for a fact, I would never have responded back to him as taking that message from him as saying he's not interested.
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    Apr 06, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    I've been on OkCupid since fall 2012 (around the same time I put a profile up on this site). I've actually had several nice e-mail exchanges and phone conversations through it, and some real-life dates. It's not so awful if someone just says "hi" because you could then just click on his profile which usually includes a lot of information. General advice: nothing ventured, nothing gained...
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    Apr 06, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    I had my OKC profile on there for a while now. There are a couple guys that kept looking at my profile and rated me 5 stars but never said hi. I emailed a couple of guys that I had an interest in, some are mean and didn't reply back either. Oh well, I figure they're not worth it if they're not interested to reply back. The funny thing is these guys are the ones that want to have a husband. I don't just reply back when someone said *hi though, depends on their message/profile. Oh well, just keep it going.
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    Apr 06, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    bus9ja2d saidI find OKC and to a lesser extent POF are mainly guys who are terrified of sending the first message. It has the atmosphere of a school disco with no alcohol, people's inhibitions are too much for them.


    i don't even think it's that. i just think that a lot of guys on that site especially the younger guys have their heads up their ass. you know like they think they're better than everyone else and that no one is on their level. icon_rolleyes.gif it's a huge turn off because if their profile is a reflection of who they are, then that explains why they're single.

    in no way am i saying that i'm perfect or that my shit doesn't stink or that i have it all together. i will admit my flaws and my faults such as being closeted or being unemployed in a heartbeat so someone knows who they're dealing with. however, i do not have time to deal with a guy with a huge ego that basically highlights himself as being all that when he's really NOT and can't admit it, expecting other people to match their unreachable standards. it's ridiculous. there's a difference between being confident and being an egotistical jackass that thinks the world revolves around you where everyone should kiss your ass.

    it also seems that most of these guys have NOTHING to offer but yet they want others to give them a whole fucking lot. like what do these guys have to offer besides the typical kiss and hug. i'm looking for a friend that can be a lover as well. that's what i'm looking for. it seems like these dudes don't even know how to socialize on a friendly level too which is why they don't respond back to messages.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Apr 08, 2013 4:57 AM GMT
    scaredmidget said
    bus9ja2d saidI find OKC and to a lesser extent POF are mainly guys who are terrified of sending the first message. It has the atmosphere of a school disco with no alcohol, people's inhibitions are too much for them.


    i don't even think it's that. i just think that a lot of guys on that site especially the younger guys have their heads up their ass. you know like they think they're better than everyone else and that no one is on their level. icon_rolleyes.gif it's a huge turn off because if their profile is a reflection of who they are, then that explains why they're single.

    in no way am i saying that i'm perfect or that my shit doesn't stink or that i have it all together. i will admit my flaws and my faults such as being closeted or being unemployed in a heartbeat so someone knows who they're dealing with. however, i do not have time to deal with a guy with a huge ego that basically highlights himself as being all that when he's really NOT and can't admit it, expecting other people to match their unreachable standards. it's ridiculous. there's a difference between being confident and being an egotistical jackass that thinks the world revolves around you where everyone should kiss your ass.

    it also seems that most of these guys have NOTHING to offer but yet they want others to give them a whole fucking lot. like what do these guys have to offer besides the typical kiss and hug. i'm looking for a friend that can be a lover as well. that's what i'm looking for. it seems like these dudes don't even know how to socialize on a friendly level too which is why they don't respond back to messages.
    It seems like you have a lot of baggage..
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    Apr 08, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace said
    scaredmidget said
    bus9ja2d saidI find OKC and to a lesser extent POF are mainly guys who are terrified of sending the first message. It has the atmosphere of a school disco with no alcohol, people's inhibitions are too much for them.


    i don't even think it's that. i just think that a lot of guys on that site especially the younger guys have their heads up their ass. you know like they think they're better than everyone else and that no one is on their level. icon_rolleyes.gif it's a huge turn off because if their profile is a reflection of who they are, then that explains why they're single.

    in no way am i saying that i'm perfect or that my shit doesn't stink or that i have it all together. i will admit my flaws and my faults such as being closeted or being unemployed in a heartbeat so someone knows who they're dealing with. however, i do not have time to deal with a guy with a huge ego that basically highlights himself as being all that when he's really NOT and can't admit it, expecting other people to match their unreachable standards. it's ridiculous. there's a difference between being confident and being an egotistical jackass that thinks the world revolves around you where everyone should kiss your ass.

    it also seems that most of these guys have NOTHING to offer but yet they want others to give them a whole fucking lot. like what do these guys have to offer besides the typical kiss and hug. i'm looking for a friend that can be a lover as well. that's what i'm looking for. it seems like these dudes don't even know how to socialize on a friendly level too which is why they don't respond back to messages.
    It seems like you have a lot of baggage..


    i do. it's no secret that i have issues with myself BUT i also have issues with the people around me too. it's a two way street. that's the story of my life. i've had to deal with a lot of assholes from birth and they have actually affected the way i view people, believe it or not. i didn't do anything for them to warrant the way that they treated me so i pretty much am aware that there's people that like to be cunts to others for no damn good reason. i've learned that i can't control how someone views me so yeah, if i feel that someone is being disrespectful or seems to be an asshole, then........

    i would say that it's me lashing out on people that could potentially hurt me so i'm always on guard. if i see a guy that comes off as a douchebag, then i'm going to treat him like until he proves otherwise.
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    Apr 08, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    Perhaps people are judging you by your profile, which is how it is intended to work, right? It's the weeding out process, so you don't have to go to bars, find someone attractive, talk with them, find them incredibly insane, but sexually interesting, have some sort of sex with them, but dump them over a donut and do basically the same thing again and again until you post a profile on a dating site because you are both questioning your decisions and kind of worried about your life choices.
    Or something like that, I have never done either, but these have been my friends experiences.
    Either way, it seems like fun. Keep us informed.
  • jtz03932

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    Apr 11, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    Profiles on dating sites are mostly boring. Most of the people have similar interests yet they are still there for a long time... when you log on you see the same boring people again and again. If there's someone you are even remotely interested in, he would reply with one word answers or ignores you.

    It makes filling out a profile a waste of time, no matter how much passion and soul you put into it, when a "better looking" guy is just around the corner with next to nothing in his profile and gets all the messages from people that's not even come close to the person the guy's looking for.
  • killercliche

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    Apr 11, 2013 3:08 AM GMT
    The rave reviews have caused me to set up a profile!
  • killercliche

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    Apr 11, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    killercliche saidThe rave reviews have caused me to set up a profile!



    This site is awful. People are rating me with stars, but I have to pay money to find out what I'm rated?
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    Apr 11, 2013 7:24 AM GMT
    killercliche said
    killercliche saidThe rave reviews have caused me to set up a profile!



    This site is awful. People are rating me with stars, but I have to pay money to find out what I'm rated?


    They simultaneously emailed you who rated you, then you can check him out and proceed if you're interested. Sadly, I'm rated by guys who I don't feel anything for. icon_redface.gif
  • killercliche

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    Apr 11, 2013 7:45 AM GMT
    xsocalguy8x said
    killercliche said
    killercliche saidThe rave reviews have caused me to set up a profile!



    This site is awful. People are rating me with stars, but I have to pay money to find out what I'm rated?


    They simultaneously emailed you who rated you, then you can check him out and proceed if you're interested. Sadly, I'm rated by guys who I don't feel anything for. icon_redface.gif


    Uh... I got a message saying 5 people rated me highly but I can't see any of them unless I sign up to be an A-list member. Sweet deal...