I'm done with guys, I'm just gonna be a ho

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    Apr 06, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    Aight I need some catharsis here. And since I don't have a good group of friends here yet (just moved to Sacramento a few months ago) let's all pretend we're sitting at a bar and I'm bitchin' to you over blood orange martinis- wait too diva- Hefenweisens, and you are consoling me icon_biggrin.gif

    I met this guy a few weeks ago. We started off having sex. Then we spent valentines day together, had sex, watched a movie. I thought he was a really cool guy.

    We had a date set up on Thursday night. I texted him that night and he said he forgot about it and he was dealing with drama. icon_evil.gif
    He said he was sorry.. That he wanted to see me the next night.
    So last night I'm coming back from an appointment in San Francisco and I text him telling him I'm on my way back. Doesn't respond at all the entire day. icon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gif

    What a douche. I was kind of starting to develop feelings for him so probably all the better. I still feel pretty rejected about it and yeah, it does hurt. And it really sucks that I don't have a support system here for times like these icon_cry.gif

    I ended up meeting a hot college guy from Davis last night, let's call him the Jackhammer, to take my mind off of things, and I'll admit, it was very nice to satisfy my needs and urges with somebody who I didn't have to worry about or care if they would call me ever again. Yeah I felt empty afterward, but it beats the hell out of heartache.

    So from today forward I'm not going to let myself be interested in guys outside of sex. I'm going to be a big booty ho, use and be used for sex, wash my hands, and go about my day.
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    timshel, you give up too easily. icon_wink.gif

    You're going to let a flake change your direction in love?

    Go on. No way.
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    timshel saidAight I need some catharsis here. And since I don't have a good group of friends here yet (just moved to Sacramento a few months ago) let's all pretend we're sitting at a bar and I'm bitchin' to you over blood orange martinis- wait too diva- Hefenweisens, and you are consoling me icon_biggrin.gif

    I met this guy a few weeks ago. We started off having sex. Then we spent valentines day together, had sex, watched a movie. I thought he was a really cool guy.

    We had a date set up on Thursday night. I texted him that night and he said he forgot about it and he was dealing with drama. icon_evil.gif
    He said he was sorry.. That he wanted to see me the next night.
    So last night I'm coming back from an appointment in San Francisco and I text him telling him I'm on my way back. Doesn't respond at all the entire day. icon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gif

    What a douche. I was kind of starting to develop feelings for him so probably all the better. I still feel pretty rejected about it and yeah, it does hurt. And it really sucks that I don't have a support system here for times like these icon_cry.gif

    I ended up meeting a hot college guy from Davis last night, let's call him the Jackhammer, to take my mind off of things, and I'll admit, it was very nice to satisfy my needs and urges with somebody who I didn't have to worry about or care if they would call me ever again. Yeah I felt empty afterward, but it beats the hell out of heartache.

    So from today forward I'm not going to let myself be interested in guys outside of sex. I'm going to be a big booty ho, use and be used for sex, wash my hands, and go about my day.


    Dang, he showed his fangs for a little bit. Players man, are some of the worst people you can run into, They can bypass all your defenses, and make you feel special, but in reality they just have you playing in the palm of their hand, they will suck you dry if you don't be careful. If a guy was really interested they would have not forgotten, and if he was busy he would take the time and effort to call or text you that
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    I'm sure this has happened to most of us, even to the smartest, hottest, most caring men out there.
    I would never do that, if I'm not feeling a guy, or a relationship, I tell the person right off the bat as soon as I feel like it's progressing beyond sex or if I see the other person like me more than I like him. It might hurt a bit at first, but it's better than being ignored. That's such a horrible, inconsiderate, demeaning thing to do in my opinion.
    But if we all gave up, no one would have a boyfriend icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    Youll soon grow up and grow out of this phase
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    I wouldn't let one flake change your way of thinking or acting!
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    Steduo saidYoull soon grow up and grow out of this phase


    yup.
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    Sounds like a GREAT plan. I hope you have lots of lube and ANTIBIOTICS. icon_lol.gif

    Seriously though - this happens to everyone. You'll get past it and in time meet a sincere guy. Feel better.
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    Apr 06, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    CuriousOne saidI wouldn't let one flake change your way of thinking or acting!



    This!

    Do what you want, but just be careful if you go into a big booty ho phase that you don't let it be your first impression in a new locale. It will be harder to assert your real desires for a relationship later.

    It's tough, but it is possible to find guys who do what they say they will. If that's what you want, don't settle for less just because you think it isn't possible.

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    Apr 06, 2013 6:07 PM GMT
    Steduo saidYou'll soon grow up and grow out of this phase

    Agreed. And now some tough love for the OP:

    GROW A PAIR! And be in charge of your own life. Stop playing the victim.

    Yeah, lots of guys will try to victimize you. It's happened to me. Some of them succeed, most don't.

    Be a strong man, your own man, in charge of yourself. These flakes spin in and out of our lives all the time. Try exercising some "executive authority". Who's in charge here - you or them?

    Establish your own sense of being, of worth. Not inflated arrogance, but what I recall from the Black Civil Rights era: "I Am A Man!"

    It's HIS privilege to know you, as well as for you to know him. Don't play the subordinate when you meet a guy, which I suspect you may be doing. You have worth and deserve respect. Meet him as an equal - give a firm confident handshake or hug, like you own the moment as much as him.

    I don't know how to put a broomstick down your back, but I suspect this is what you lack. Just remember, you're as good as him, as deserving as him, and, if your pics are any indication, every bit as hunky as him. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:07 PM GMT
    I thought ho's didn't wash their hands..

    I do not want to know how you'd feel if someone dumped you after a LTR icon_neutral.gif
    Anyway, Shrug it off with the thoughts that he's not worthy of your time... Don't let this failed fling bring you down. You were just unlucky to meet someone like him...


  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 06, 2013 6:08 PM GMT
    I say Fuck 'em all. Go for the good times and enjoy it.
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:23 PM GMT
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    timshel saidAight I need some catharsis here. And since I don't have a good group of friends here yet (just moved to Sacramento a few months ago) let's all pretend we're sitting at a bar and I'm bitchin' to you over blood orange martinis- wait too diva- Hefenweisens, and you are consoling me icon_biggrin.gif

    I met this guy a few weeks ago. We started off having sex. Then we spent valentines day together, had sex, watched a movie. I thought he was a really cool guy.

    We had a date set up on Thursday night. I texted him that night and he said he forgot about it and he was dealing with drama. icon_evil.gif
    He said he was sorry.. That he wanted to see me the next night.
    So last night I'm coming back from an appointment in San Francisco and I text him telling him I'm on my way back. Doesn't respond at all the entire day. icon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gif

    What a douche. I was kind of starting to develop feelings for him so probably all the better. I still feel pretty rejected about it and yeah, it does hurt. And it really sucks that I don't have a support system here for times like these icon_cry.gif

    I ended up meeting a hot college guy from Davis last night, let's call him the Jackhammer, to take my mind off of things, and I'll admit, it was very nice to satisfy my needs and urges with somebody who I didn't have to worry about or care if they would call me ever again. Yeah I felt empty afterward, but it beats the hell out of heartache.

    So from today forward I'm not going to let myself be interested in guys outside of sex. I'm going to be a big booty ho, use and be used for sex, wash my hands, and go about my day.


    Dang, he showed his fangs for a little bit. Players man, are some of the worst people you can run into, They can bypass all your defenses, and make you feel special, but in reality they just have you playing in the palm of their hand, they will suck you dry if you don't be careful. If a guy was really interested they would have not forgotten, and if he was busy he would take the time and effort to call or text you that


    He was definitely good at his game- he would send me texts throughout the week asking how my day was, then we'd have back and forth conversations. He would send me smilie faces. He would flirt. He would send me naughty texts. He would initiate most of the conversations.

    So my point is- you can't know you are being played or not so why open yourself up? I'm done with this shit. It's a pattern and I'm tired of being The Ass.
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    Steduo saidYou'll soon grow up and grow out of this phase

    Agreed. And now some tough love for the OP:

    GROW A PAIR! And be in charge of your own life. Stop playing the victim.

    Yeah, lots of guys will try to victimize you. It's happened to me. Some of them succeed, most don't.

    Be a strong man, your own man, in charge of yourself. These flakes spin in and out of our lives all the time. Try exercising some "executive authority". Who's in charge here - you or them?

    Establish your own sense of being, of worth. Not inflated arrogance, but what I recall from the Black Civil Rights era: "I Am A Man!"

    It's HIS privilege to know you, as well as for you to know him. Don't play the subordinate when you meet a guy, which I suspect you may be doing. You have worth and deserve respect. Meet him as an equal - give a firm confident handshake or hug, like you own the moment as much as him.

    I don't know how to put a broomstick down your back, but I suspect this is what you lack. Just remember, you're as good as him, as deserving as him, and, if your pics are any indication, every bit as hunky as him. icon_wink.gif



    I don't think I'm being a victim here, I'm just ranting about an asshole I met. I didn't want to come off as arrogant but now you have put me up to the challenge so I will say that I know I am better looking than him, and when I was in the bar a couple weeks ago and he was there coincidentally all his friends were checking me out and I know I could get almost any guy I wanted to in a bar because I do carry myself with confidence and a pinch of aloofness when I am out. Maybe he was envious of that and wanted to get back at me?

    And I do agree with everything you said- yes he was honored to know ME, and maybe he was I intimidated because I carry myself with honor and he's used to little Twinkie Andrew Christian boys and he can't handle that.

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    Apr 06, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    We can help you with your catharsis. Tell us about the Jackhammer.
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:40 PM GMT
    timshelWe started off having sex. Then we spent valentines day together, had sex, watched a movie. I thought he was a really cool guy.


    I think you already stepped into the zone of being a ho......
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:44 PM GMT
    Ex_Mil8 saidWe can help you with your catharsis. Tell us about the Jackhammer.


    Finally the good stuff icon_lol.gif

    He was 21 years old, bro frat guy type but def. not douchey, Latin from San Diego, about 5'10" with broad shoulders, great football player build, very verbal and aggressive, never ran out of things to say, cute youthful adorable face, thick black hair.. And the things he did with his fingers I have never experienced before icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:44 PM GMT
    Timshel ??..You have to exercise a little more patience..

    Chill out.. I think disappointment is getting the best of you.!!

    Just to fill you in there is an age cap on being a Ho'..
    After 26 - 28 you are entering ...

    "SuperSkankdom"
    <-------- See icon_biggrin.gif

    Why is everything so fast?...

    Met him - Sex-like- sex-one day-no call- Hate him- moved on to next guy.

    I think you have to change the way you pursue and perceive guys..

    Hugz







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    Apr 06, 2013 6:47 PM GMT
    unicoman1 said
    timshelWe started off having sex. Then we spent valentines day together, had sex, watched a movie. I thought he was a really cool guy.


    I think you already stepped into the zone of being a ho......

    What? Are you a guy? Or did a big rush of estrogen just flow through the thread?
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:49 PM GMT
    Ammon saidI thought ho's didn't wash their hands..

    I do not want to know how you'd feel if someone dumped you after a LTR icon_neutral.gif





    Hahaha... That's when household pets start disappearing, you find rabbits cooking on your stove, and possibly, a horse's head in your bed!
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidTimshel ??..You have to exercise a little more patience..

    Chill out.. I think disappointment is getting the best of you.!!

    Just to fill you in there is an age cap on being a Ho'..
    After 26 - 28 you are entering ...

    "SuperSkankdom"
    <-------- See icon_biggrin.gif

    Why is everything so fast?...

    Met him - Sex-like- sex-one day-no call- Hate him- moved on to next guy.

    I think you have to change the way you pursue and perceive guys..

    Hugz









    SuperSkankdom-

    I shall reign over this great land with a scepter in one hand and a pair of balls in the other!
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    Apr 06, 2013 6:59 PM GMT
    You're taking the wrong approach. You said that you felt empty after having sex with the Davis guy and that it tops your heartache. Here's a tip - should you decide to act on your booty ho wishes, your emptiness will continue to grow. Afterwards, your heartache will turn into bitterness and continuing a meaningless sex journey will only fuel it.

    What you need to do is heal! Unfortunately, time is your only remedy! Don't let bitterness take over your emotions because you will find that special guy who's heart will melt each time he's with you. And once you find that special guy, your V-day douche date will be a memory you can easily brush off and forget about.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Apr 06, 2013 7:01 PM GMT
    Boys r stoopid

    /end thread
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    Apr 06, 2013 7:04 PM GMT




    SuperSkankdom-
    shall reign over this great land with a scepter in one hand and a pair of balls in the othe
    r!

    See ... already bouncing back!
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    Apr 06, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidYou're taking the wrong approach. You said that you felt empty after having sex with the Davis guy and that it tops your heartache. Here's a tip - should you decide to act on your booty ho wishes, your emptiness will continue to grow. Afterwards, your heartache will turn into bitterness and continuing a meaningless sex journey will only fuel it.

    What you need to do is heal! Unfortunately, time is your only remedy! Don't let bitterness take over your emotions because you will find that special guy who's heart will melt each time he's with you. And once you find that special guy, your V-day douche date will be a memory you can easily brush off and forget about.


    Yes! that is what you need to do! You will only make yourself more miserable in your current situation. To be honest you don't seem like the booty ho type of guy, and pretending to be someone your not is only going to backfire.

    I have sent you a link on how to spot a player should you need it once again.


    How to spot a player