Should I tell him I like him?

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    Apr 06, 2013 8:41 PM GMT
    Basically i like this guy in my school ( i know you've heard this many times) He says he is straight, but he is so beautiful that i'm surprised that he has never even kissed a girl he's an Adonis. He is the only person EVER that has me feeling like this, the problem is that a few years back he overheard me saying that i hate him, because i'm not out and i was staring at him a lot, it was just so people wouldn't find out that i like him. Everything is kind of okay with him today, but soon school is over and i will never see him again i just don't want any regrets but i dint know how he will react. Please help.

    Sorry if this sounds sappy its unlike me.
  • Mark87

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    Apr 06, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    I've had those. If u really need to get it off your chest go ahead but don't expect anything. It will change your friendship forever 9 times out of ten. Never expect anything. Had a very similar case except we were really close and I was still not out. When I told him he was cOool with it but never the same
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    Apr 06, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    Is this grade school? Because a few years ago you would have been about 14.
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    Apr 07, 2013 12:26 AM GMT
    I'm noticing that variations on this theme (the ambiguously straight guy) come up a lot here on RJ.

    If he identifies as straight, then 1) he's straight or 2) he's in the closet and may react very unpredictably to having his sexuality questioned.

    You can try outing yourself to him and see what happens, but as Mark87 said, I wouldn't expect much.

    In the age of email and Facebook, I would think that staying in touch in some capacity would be doable
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    Apr 07, 2013 2:50 AM GMT
    I'm big on the communication thing personally. As the Latin proverb goes, "Fortune favours the bold". If neither of you says anything you'll never know what the other is feeling/thinking. As others have said you may very well not get the reaction you're hoping for, but if you say nothing you may end up wondering what might have been. Just be yourself and see what happens icon_smile.gif

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    Apr 07, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    I had a similar experience last year when one of my biggest crushes was graduating from the school I attended. One night I got a little drunk, saw him out at the bars, and just walked right up to him. I said "hey I know you probably don't go "that" way but I just wanted to let you know that you are one of the most attractive guys here." And then I politely asked him not to hit me because he was a big buff dude. He actually laughed, said thank you and bought me a beer while we sat and talked about the graduate school he would soon be going to.

    My point is that I was very glad that I had said something, it brought about closure for me. And I ended up having a great conversation with him. Ive even done it once since then with another guy. After that I became a proponent of SENSIBLY saying what's on your mind. Just my two cents though. Your experience may differ.
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    Apr 07, 2013 6:26 AM GMT
    This would be like me walking into a Mercedes Dealership with my crappy credit score and no down payment demanding this....(well without a gun!)

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    This scenario is not exactly practical..

    He is heterosexual...
    He is leaving?/ Moving
    And one last issue..
    HE'S STRAIGHT !!

    Let's say you tell him..Then What???
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    Apr 07, 2013 6:32 AM GMT
    Oh, bad move on him thinking you hate him. More then likely if you were to go up to him, he will be super defensive. Like some of the other guys posted, I don't know if you should, he said he was straight so I would respect that. Maybe later on in life you can add him to fb, then chat from there?
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    Apr 07, 2013 6:43 AM GMT
    likan said but soon school is over and i will never see him again i just don't want any regrets


    I think you have your answer Bud.
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    Apr 07, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    Not worth it. Let it pass.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 07, 2013 7:15 AM GMT
    buddy, do not approach him. i say leave it alone. u are young and you will have plenty of more crushes. hopefully, one of them will be someone you can actually date. if a guy says he is straight than do not bother telling him how you feel. 99.9% of the time it will not make a difference
  • wherewillwebe

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    Apr 07, 2013 7:56 AM GMT
    I know people will tell you don't bother he is striaght but if I were you, I would go for it! get it off your chest and no regret!icon_biggrin.gif