Dating chubby men? Is it honestly all about confidence?

  • LoveAndPeace

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    Apr 07, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    Would you date a chubby guy? I honestly would but not like 300 lbs.I may sound superficial but idgaf lol.If a chubby guy (like a guy that weighed 300 lbs) hit on you in a bar would you be a bitch and hurt his feelings? If a person has tons of confidence does it matter how big they are?Actually no I would date a guy who weighed 300 lbs its about the prrson not how they looked like...
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    Apr 07, 2013 4:06 AM GMT
    LoveAndPeace saidWould you date a chubby guy? I honestly would but not like 300 lbs.I may sound superficial but idgaf lol.If a chubby guy (like a guy that weighed 300 lbs) hit on you in a bar would you be a bitch and hurt his feelings? If a person has tons of confidence does it matter how big they are?Actually no I would date a guy who weighed 300 lbs its about the prrson not how they looked like...


    That's nice, LoveAndPeace, but I think it doesn't matter how nice or wonderful the person is; many nice and wonderful people meet each other and there is no spark. It's whether they attract you in all kinds of interesting ways or not.

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    Apr 07, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    LoveAndPeace saidWould you date a chubby guy? I honestly would but not like 300 lbs.I may sound superficial but idgaf lol.If a chubby guy (like a guy that weighed 300 lbs) hit on you in a bar would you be a bitch and hurt his feelings? If a person has tons of confidence does it matter how big they are?Actually no I would date a guy who weighed 300 lbs its about the prrson not how they looked like...


    That's nice, LoveAndPeace, but I think it doesn't matter how nice or wonderful the person is; many nice and wonderful people meet each other and there is no spark. It's whether they attract you in all kinds of interesting ways or not.

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    One time I went to a club in dc and I met this cute guy and he was a little overweight.great kisser though lol he gave me his phone number I deleted it and now I miss him lol
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:46 AM GMT
    I can date a chubby guy easily - but he still needs to deliver chemistry. The problem with a few chubby dudes is that:

    1) They don't know how to 'wear' their weight well/own it
    2) They are insecure and that re-manifests itself in the way he behaves
    3) They expect their partners to be thin, masculine, and everything they're not

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    Apr 07, 2013 11:52 AM GMT
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:54 AM GMT
    If he is good looking and take care himself, I definitely date him.icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 07, 2013 12:38 PM GMT
    huhwhat saidI can date a chubby guy easily - but he still needs to deliver chemistry. The problem with a few chubby dudes is that:

    1) They don't know how to 'wear' their weight well/own it
    2) They are insecure and that re-manifests itself in the way he behaves
    3) They expect their partners to be thin, masculine, and everything they're not



    1 & 2 are issues I totes agree with. 3 totally depends on the person and I think doesn't relate to all chubby dudes (esp in the chub/bear group - they want nothing to do with thin & anything not like them)

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    Apr 07, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    I've always wondered, when does chubby become fat ? What is the spectrum?
  • He_Man

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    Apr 07, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    likan saidI've always wondered, when does chubby become fat ? What is the spectrum?


    Chubby guys can be anywhere from having a little belly fat to having man boobs and muffin tops. Three hundred pounds, however, is not chubby. That's just down right fat, unless you're well over six feet tall. I guess if you're 6'5'' and weigh 300lbs, then you could be chubby, but 300lbs on the average guy, not including muscle mass, of course, is just obese.


    I don't mind "chubby" guys as long as they have some muscle mass. I actually really like muscle guys with bellies. I call them jock bellies, and they're hot!
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    Apr 07, 2013 10:47 PM GMT
    Thanks, I guess i am chubby and not fat, that's a relief.icon_biggrin.gif
  • Tombo

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    Apr 07, 2013 11:47 PM GMT
    huhwhat saidI can date a chubby guy easily - but he still needs to deliver chemistry. The problem with a few chubby dudes is that:

    1) They don't know how to 'wear' their weight well/own it
    2) They are insecure and that re-manifests itself in the way he behaves
    3) They expect their partners to be thin, masculine, and everything they're not



    Omg number 3 is so true to so many big guys haha

    Personally, I could not date an obese/fat person
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    Apr 08, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    He_Man said
    likan said
    I don't mind "chubby" guys as long as they have some muscle mass. I actually really like muscle guys with bellies. I call them jock bellies, and they're hot!


    Turin saidIf he is good looking and take care himself, I definitely date him.icon_wink.gif


    ^^^

    I somewhat consider myself a chubby chaser. I'm not attracted to skinny guys at all. However, I don;t like overly obese guys either. I love muscles and a bit of belly. My best way to explain it is I like square shaped men, no sticks or circles. (Okay , weird analogy.) I find chubbier guys to be more friendly in general, and they're generally less judgmental and fun to be around. They're also more huggable! : )

    And it might sound strange, but I don't find abs attractive, AT ALL. I don't get the whole obsession. But that;s just me.
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    Apr 08, 2013 6:36 AM GMT
    I couldn't do it, I sort of dated this one guy who's a little extra/obese not so long ago. It did not turned out well, let's just say that we were a serious mismatch.

    The other point is, I'm doing enough to be healthy and taking care of my body, I expect the guy to be in the same weight/definitions. (not super buff, not skinny nor obese either).

  • RollDontWalk

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    Apr 08, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    I could not date an overly chubby person. No amount of confidence is going to make up for not looking after your body; after all in the cosmic scheme of things it really is all you have.
  • wild_sky360

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    Apr 08, 2013 8:09 AM GMT
    Big, beefy guys can really turn me on. It totally depends on the guy though, and how he carries himself....attitude and an overall masculine look
  • GraffitiMySou...

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    Apr 08, 2013 11:19 AM GMT
    XDanW said

    And it might sound strange, but I don't find abs attractive, AT ALL. I don't get the whole obsession. But that;s just me.


    There is a GOD after all. I'm obsessed with having abs myself, but I never really liked them in other guys. I sure as hell appreciate all the effort someone's put in getting them, but it just doesn't turn me on... Not into chubby guys, but a little bit of a belly is so much fun.