Are there still gays that use the traditional way to date/get laid exclusively?

  • Myles_

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    Apr 07, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    By traditional, I mean "real-life" situations. In other words, through friends or bar for dating and picking up and don't use dating sites or gindr? Genuinely curious.
  • Nhlakz

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    Apr 07, 2013 10:03 AM GMT
    Yes we do live and traditional form of dating is less stressful compare to online dating....with internet dating you sometimes become disappointed with the appearance of the person you chatting with.an other thing is people lie about everything.
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:40 AM GMT
    Most guys don't even know how to talk to other dudes in person. So Grindr helps ease that tension b/c we're showcased like meat and all you have to do is hit a little button to see if someone is interested....
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:42 AM GMT
    Last week I met a guy at a bookstore in my neighborhood. We went and found a nearby stairwell and had sex. It was all very traditional. The week before nearly the same thing happened at a bar. The week before that, I was in Banff and it happened there. Once again, it was very traditional.
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:42 AM GMT
    Why travel by horse and cart when you can jump on a plane?
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:48 AM GMT
    From friends yes, but for bars or pick up... I don't think so. Most people going to the bars like to party and get laid if there would be a chance to... I guess the rarest person you'll see is in a church encounter... that would be traditional. I love the traditional, it's like love in its innocence. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:54 AM GMT
    I think Apple has really revolutionized the way we meet other gay men, think about it Apple has to be probably the gayest technology company in current times, so many owe their "lays" to Apple icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 07, 2013 11:55 AM GMT
    Myles_ saidBy traditional, I mean "real-life" situations. In other words, through friends or bar for dating and picking up and don't use dating sites or gindr? Genuinely curious.

    You can't be serious.
    This is like a rabid vegan asking if people still eat meat. Get out of your comfort zone.
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    Apr 07, 2013 12:20 PM GMT
    Roofies are very traditional.
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    Apr 07, 2013 12:31 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidRoofies are very traditional.


    And strangers always have the best candy.. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 07, 2013 2:47 PM GMT
    I was kind of hoping this electronic thing was just a passing phase.
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    Apr 07, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    I never have understood or got the idea of meeting someone in person and finding out that he has the same course of interests like I do !! I mean, it could be the culture I grew in, the place where I grew etc.etc. but I can take an example of, maybe America. So, you just go to any shopping complex, or a bar, or a library, and you meet a guy. You happen to start conversing with him. Even though that conversation really goes well, how do I decide that I am more comfortable to tell him who I am and what the conversation could possibly move on to?

    This, never goes right for me :'( and online dating never works for me. But, somehow I feel, meeting someone in person and clicking it right from there would be better than online dating !!
  • calibro

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    Apr 07, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    you remind me of...

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    Apr 07, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    I prefer traditional methods, I deleted grindr, as easy as it was to get guys, their motives were a lot different from mine, so it never really worked out for me. icon_confused.gif
  • Danskerb

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    Apr 07, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    I met my boyfriend at a hostel in Australia while we were both travelling.
  • iTommy

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    Apr 07, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    When this internet stuff was all new and much slower, and you couldn't really carry it around in your pocket, people lied about everything, and photos were mostly all fake. Some people used the AOL chatroom, and some used gay.com, and some used online text messaging apps, I suppose, but most people wouldn't actually meet someone from online, for all of those reasons, and I'd have to say that most people I met then were all from the bar, a party, a coffee shop, or having met in public somewhere. That all changed with the newer technology - everyone has a photo, most people can't lie without getting caught, and there's no real issue with age for most people.

    If anything, I think the online chatting has made people better communicators, and the fact that it's all become so public has contributed to allowing people to know themselves better and to be more transparent to others, as well.

    For what it's worth, I say yes - I take advantage of social media for meeting people, and I wouldn't avoid dating someone I meet in a traditional setting, either.
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Apr 07, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
    "Hanging out" circa 2013

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  • Fable

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    Apr 07, 2013 7:23 PM GMT
    Myles_ saidBy traditional, I mean "real-life" situations. In other words, through friends or bar for dating and picking up and don't use dating sites or gindr? Genuinely curious.



    yes i exist
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    Apr 07, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    The traditional way to get laid was to date and then marry !!

    ..Then you find out your new husband failed fellatio 101...

    Depressing..

    I'm done with guys, I'm just gonna be a ho!!
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    Apr 07, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    The only reason why there is not a grindr for straight guys is because no girl would ever, EVER, make her geolocation public on a app full of creeps. Its completely different with male 2 male.

    Being that said more and more relationships happen online, straight or gay, simply because our online presence and activity keeps increasing over the years. I met my boyfriend through Grindr btw, we've been together for 3 years. The ones I met the traditional way happened to be total assholes.

    Moral of the story, you never know where a booty call can take you. Appealing to "tradition" is a major fallacy. The circumstances of today are not the same ones of the past and as a result new traditions will be born.
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    Apr 07, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    PolaroidSwinger said"Hanging out" circa 2013

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    I didnt know there that many flip-phones in 2013
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 07, 2013 8:38 PM GMT
    What traditional way for getting laid are you referring to? The back room at the bar? The bathe house? Public restrooms? Flashing your lights off and on at the park? Cruising capitol hill?
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    Apr 07, 2013 9:32 PM GMT
    I like to do the traditional way of asking a guy out on a date. I say; "Hey sexy, sexy mama. I have 14 dollars in my pocket that has your name on it. So why don't we blow this joint and I can move in with you with my pet sick pigeons?"
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    Apr 07, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    FranciscoC saidI like to do the traditional way of asking a guy out on a date. I say; "Hey sexy, sexy mama. I have 14 dollars in my pocket that has your name on it. So why don't we blow this joint and I can move in with you with my pet sick pigeons?"


    ^ ^ ^ ^
    I'd totally fall for that.. omg !!
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    Apr 07, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    I went to a bar and got hit on by the only guy who I'd even consider dating there.

    I dropped the ball because I'm exclusive with someone else, but yes, it does happen.