LuckyGuyKC saidThe psychological theory goes that some people, including closeted gay men, unconsciously stay fat in order to avoid sexual situations where they would be attractive to other men. I believe I did. Anyone else experience this phenomena in their own life?
I used to say that I was happier when I was fatter. People actually treated me nicer online than they do now... I'll get on Grindr or Scruff the random and unprovoked email from people who will tell me I'm not muscled, or that I'm ugly, or fat, and on and on. Socially, I experienced better treatment from others when I was heavier, too. Sure, I didn't get my pick of the hottest guy in the bar, but he was likely one of those random insecure types anyway who would, once I lost weight, evaluate me as worthy of his time.
Mind you, now, I am fine the way I am. If someone thinks I'm too fat, it's says far more about them than it does about me.