Any good book recommendations for someone struggling with their sexuality?

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    Apr 08, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    I'm pretty much just going through a rough time figuring out who I am. I know I'm attracted to men, but sometimes I feel as if I might be bisexual. I'm just having a hard time accepting it and my therapist suggested I go to the library and/or book store and pick up some books to read. Any suggestions?
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    Apr 08, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    http://www.amazon.com/Outing-Yourself-Lesbian-Friends-Coworkers/dp/0684826178

    since you're around the nyc area, use it to your advantage. look up for support groups or lgbt counseling. it's all there. those will most definitely help you out.
  • Apparition

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    Apr 08, 2013 2:40 AM GMT

    Is it a choice?

    Is the best one for general questions. And super cheap used.

    http://www.amazon.com/Answers-Frequently-Questions-Lesbian-Edition/dp/0060832800

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    Reflections of a rock lobster

    is a little 80's ish, but still helpful since its kinda personal to one guy.
    http://www.amazon.com/Reflections-Rock-Lobster-Story-Growing/dp/0932870090/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1365388775&sr=1-1&keywords=rock+lobster
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    Apr 08, 2013 8:36 AM GMT
    If religious beliefs, or those of critical family members is an issue, this book will both ease your mind and shut them all up.

    Jesus had very little to say on the subject and it was positive.
    Old Testament equates the "sin" to eating shellfish

    Appreciating ancient vernacular and custom is the key. The primary objection was to prostitution in the temples, which was mostly male. That was condemned, but not loving relations between men, which were not uncommon. Jesus hosted and welcomed a gay couple as a non issue..

    http://www.amazon.com/What-Bible-Really-about-Homosexuality/dp/188636009X

    Otherwise, find some positive role models here. For most of us it is not even an issue, but I can recall the grief at your age. If it's any consolation, your family and probably a few of your friends already know or suspect and just want you to be happy. They'll be your vanguard when you're ready to come out. Let them take the flak and defend you until the dust settles

    There are some really great coming out stories here in the archives; some that were easy...non events, and some that were traumatic cautionary tales. If in doubt...wait until you are financially independent or in school with lock tight financial funding to completion.

    Just know that you can have a fucking awesome life. It's just going to be a little different than you were expecting. Once you're over the hump..so to speak, you'll be glad you're gay instead of straight.

    "Joy of Gay Sex" should be a textbook. At your age, everyone is fumbling their way through, and not always well.

    All the best to you and your wonderful life to be.
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    Apr 08, 2013 12:04 PM GMT
    The Best Little Boy in the World by John Reid/Andrew Tobias.
  • wellwell

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    Apr 08, 2013 2:36 PM GMT
    "I deserve Love"
    Sondra Rae
  • RollDontWalk

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    Apr 08, 2013 2:40 PM GMT
    "Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, A Psychiatrist's Own Story
    Loren A. Olson M.D.

    Great especially if you are older and not out yet.
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    Apr 08, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    I've just bought a book recommended by a friend

    The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs

    Heard and read some good reviews on it.
  • mr_bijae

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    Apr 08, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    Breaking The Surface by Greg Louganis.

    http://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Surface-Eric-Marcus/dp/1402206666

    Greg demonstrates the pressures of being closeted in the grand spot light. Every struggle you think you face is amplified for this man as he sits on the world stage for all the world to see. Compounding his issue is the fact that he is diagnosed with HIV prior to the olympics. This book encompasses all the issues we, as gay men in a homophobic society have faced over the years. His struggles are very real and very enlightening.
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    Apr 08, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidI've just bought a book recommended by a friend

    The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs

    Heard and read some good reviews on it.


    ^ This, but for a more straightforward read which is less critiscising of gay male culture, then read "Ten Things Gay Men can do to improve their life". It has a big section on coming out too!

    http://www.amazon.co.uk/Smart-Things-Improve-Their-Lives/dp/1555837824/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1365450504&sr=8-1&keywords=ten+things+gay+men+can+do
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    Apr 08, 2013 7:51 PM GMT
    The one that meant a lot to me was "The World According To Garp" by John Irving.
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    Apr 08, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
    Yes! So happy someone recommended Best Little Boy in the World. It was the book I read as a teen and it changed my life. Made me laugh and cry and accept everything ...whatever that may be! Such a great read.
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    Apr 08, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    Wow, you guys are amazing! RJ needs a book review and recommendation section I guess…hope they're reading and listening.
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    Apr 08, 2013 8:53 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidThe Best Little Boy in the World by John Reid/Andrew Tobias.

    Isn't Andrew Tobias a finance guy? Seems I recall having a finance program of his, managing your money or something like that.
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    Apr 08, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    Andrew Tobias is gay.
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    Apr 08, 2013 11:43 PM GMT
    Giovanni's Room - By James Baldwin
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    Apr 09, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    Why don't you use this thread to see if you can hammer out a few issues..?

    Hope you work it out. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 09, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    I heard fifty shades of grey was pretty good.
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    Apr 09, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    steelguitar saidI'm pretty much just going through a rough time figuring out who I am. I know I'm attracted to men, but sometimes I feel as if I might be bisexual. I'm just having a hard time accepting it and my therapist suggested I go to the library and/or book store and pick up some books to read. Any suggestions?


    While you're collecting a reading list, steelguitar, just know that there is nothing wrong with being attracted to men, women, both, or neither.
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    Apr 14, 2013 7:30 PM GMT
    Thanks for the recommendations guys! I'm about to buy 2 books now, and I already bought one at the book store last night lol. Keep 'em coming!